i dont have many friends that are boys, i dont know why, i just have problems talking to boys, what can i do to get rid of this problem?
2007-11-10 04:47:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry about a thing. Let me share two facts with you:
* Guys are just as shy with girls
* Guys love it when girls come and talk to them
So if you are shy around boys, you really don't need to be. Any guy you approach will probably be very flattered that you are making an effort, especially if you take an interest in him. Often, it doesn't matter what you say, just the fact that you are saying something at all, which counts. If you come across as somebody who is interestING, interestED and genuinely just being yourself and being friendly, then peopel will respond very positively.
I'm guessing that you are quite young and probably hang around more with girls. I did just the same when I was younger, and didn't have many female friends until I was about 18. I used to feel that girls were some kind of alien species and was very shy around them, but that was only because I wasn't used to them. When I got to know more girls I found at that you are actually nothing to be feared.
You can do the same with boys too.
If you have been having some trouble talking to them, try and change your self-talk (the mental chatter and doubts in your mind) to something more positive. Keep on telling yourself things like:
* Boys appreciate girls who come and talk to them.
* I am interesting
* I have qualities boys like
* I am a friendly person
* I am getting more and more confident
* Boys are human being too
* Boys may well have the same interests as me
* Boys want female friends too
* I always find things to say
* I am just as good as anyone else
and so on. Keep on doing this often, and your behaviour and feelings will change, I promise you. I have been there, done it and improved a lot.
Do you have a couple of confident friends who could introduce to boys? If so, then you are on to a winner.
But don't worry about a thing,because confidence really does get stronger as you get older. Good luck x
2007-11-10 05:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by The Global Geezer 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At 13, you are really young for this sort of things. Being shy is normal. All you need is go out for more group activities and get use to be with more people. Don't flirt around. Boy friends will come later one when you get older. Actually the later the better since maturity on your part will decide what kind of boyfriend you will get! Just grab any one is not a good idea. Wait until college and, bingo, you can get married right after college and make lots of lovely babies.
2016-04-03 05:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-12-11 12:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 14:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll grow up and this stops. all girls are shy around boys but they pretend to be ok. if you'll wait for them to come up you can be waiting for a long time. but too flirty girls ussually don't have a steady boyfriend. shy ones usually attract boys who are serious. you'll be fine. that'll stop with time. don't worry. everybody is nervous, boys too, nobody is a superman, but people still date, marry, give birth to children.
2007-11-10 04:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ive been brought up with my mum being friends with lots of people who have sons and i find the best way to get on with them is just to have a laugh. If he makes a joke...laugh. People who smile more are more approachable and if a guy approaches you it'll just come naturally
2007-11-10 05:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-12 01:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its allright.im shy around girls that i like.Just act like your talkin to your friends when you talk to boys, and we allways understand if a girl is shy,we like it when they are shy to us
2007-11-10 04:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by Studd69 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most of my friends are guys. find something in common with them. talking to guys was never a problem with me... guess i'm really lucky. a sense of humor definitely helps. don't act superficial. help them out when they need it. the guys are probably more scared of talking to girls than you are talking to them. be confident. don't think of them as boys, think of them as people.
2007-11-10 04:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Gain self-confidence by pleasing yourself till you know what you like and dislike. Then throw yourself at whatever boy smiles your way next.
2007-11-10 04:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋