work college from hell, what do i do about her?

Question

recently my work college and i got a promotion, shes a step higher than me and still is but shes always snaping at me talking to me like an idiot and when i ask questions shes just telling me shes doing it "coz i want to". only me too and undermining me at every oppertunity. ive already spoke to the manager twice about her but hes made no attempt to sort it out. my friends think i should take it a step higher and put in an offical complaint but i think it will make things worse. i used to like my work but im now finding it hard to go in every morning.

I cant move departments cos it'll be more traveling and it takes me over an hour to get to work as it is. thanks for picking up on the spelling and if your rude enough to comment on it then dont bother answering the question

Answer 1

Go to your HR department

Answer 2

Dear Friend,
This complaint that you made to the Manager, did you email it or did you just verbally make this complaint? What you need to do is send your Manager an email explaining the fact that you have previously made two complaints to him/her about your college, and this is your third complaint. You need to mention in there that if things are not resolved right away, you will be forced to make an official complaint with the Human Resources department, and your Managers boss regarding this harassment at work by your college. Honey, what ever you do make sure you have all this in writing, so that tomorrow if you need to take further action, your Manager can not blame you for not letting him/her know what your next step was. Believe me, once you put all this in writing, things will change. In the mean time, just ignore this college of yours, and pretend that she does not exist. Some people like to let their positions get to their brains. Good Luck and keep smiling. Don't let her acknowledge the fact that she is getting under your skin. Once you let on, she will do it more.

Answer 3

1.
Prepare a list of problems that she is causing you, Also think about the answers she may give you.

2.
Approach and ask for a sit down informal meeting with her on her timeline but within the same day,

3.
Explain the lot and explain that you will consider raising a formal grievance if she persists, document a rough outline afterwards, the time, location and date, also with bullet points of what you have discussed and what agreement was reached. then write to her outlining the above agreement.
(Hand Deliver & document the reciept time date loc,, witnesess etc ) Her **** will drop !
4.
If she persists then you must raise a formal grievance, however as you have been clever as you have given her every opportunity to repent, also you will be able to evidence this with the copy of letter you have hand delivered to her. You need to know what you expect the outcome to be ie, i want her to say sorry, or diciplined.(You can not demand) FOLLOW ALL COMPANY PROCEDURES REGARDING GRIEVANCE ! if you dont this could damage you later on.

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As an employer this happened with one of my Team leaders bullying, i was so impressed by the person raising the this and the fashion in which he done it i promoted him at the next opportunity. It shows you understand the bigger picture and the implications of actions through basic employment law and support functions of your businesses p[rocedures and departments.

5. In the event her manager does nothing you then have a right to appeal to his boss, this will form part of a grievance also that covers her boss too if you feel he has not done so properly. (Must be seperately documented grievances) If he does conduct an investigtory interview with all parties and an outcome is reached that you are not happy with then you can appeal.

6. If you get no joy get an ET1 off the internet(Employment Tribunal)form and watch their little bums twitch when you site Bullying & victimisation, if you decide to leave the ET would also view this as constructive dismissal, you will gain an outcome from that point. You would have a good case, you need however from memory and this point document it all, times dates witnesess, locations and situations. you should have already started at point 1.

Remember in the eyes of an ET you are automatically in the right however your employer must prove that they have taken all reasonable steps to control this problem.

The business owner / Board / HR Manager, will not want you feeling like this, if you leave they will have costs of recruitment / advertising / training, uniform,,,etc then an ET, a senior manager would be impressed if you follow the steps above as clearly your understanding of reducing the cost to the business due to litigation is one that even this girls boss doesnt understand,
All this money comes from the people that are making the profits.

DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!

My email address is:

[e-mail]

just drop me a line with any further questions.

Or just punch her teeth in!

Answer 4

College is a four year vacation from the real world after high school. Go, have a blast, study as often and as hard as you need to get the grades that you want to receive. It is what you make of it. Being in AP courses in high school doesn't guarantee success, but it does suggest that you have the ability to succeed and that you understand what you need to do in order to be successful. I did well in college, but I also partied my butt off and made sure that I enjoyed my four years. Experience everything that it has to offer. This includes getting hammered on a Tuesday at 9:30 a.m. because the girls' softball team just won a game that you didn't go to. The key is not to fall into the category that some of your friends will, which is the whole "seven years to complete a bachelor degree because I changed my major from Engineering to Business and after partying too hard settled on a degree in Interdisciplinary Studies." My advice would be to spend your first year partying and studying in the dorms. Your second year can be in the dorms as well, but if you can move to an apartment, move in with a bunch of dudes and have a good time. You'll probably not be friends after that year with that group, or at least with a few of them, so then you can tone it down your junior year and move in with one other person. Usually by your junior and senior year, you are entering into your major courses and core curriculum. Your first two years are a joke anyways as you get your pre-reqs out of the way. Good luck.

Answer 5

It's sad to hear that the job you once loved has been spoiled by a work colleague. However, you have to be stronger than that and get on with your job. Confront her when you think she is talking down to you or trying to make you feel uncomfortable - often bullies only do it because they can get away with it and can't stand confrontation if someone is willing to challenge them. Give it a while and see if things improve - if not, then you'll have to take it further and go to the HR Dept or similar, if you work for a small company. Good luck with this - but dont let her chase you from the job you once enjoyed.

Answer 6

Don't stand any nonesense at work, if you don't think you can go any higher to get the problems resolved there are only two ways to sort it out, either give your collegue a real good verbal dressing down out of earshot of anybody else or find another job, remember that you work to live not live to work, you will be working for the rest of your life so why put up with things, I never have.

Answer 7

is it possible to transfer to another office/store? I'm not saying we should always run away from our problems but life is too short to put up with idiots who will never change and we spend a lot of time in work. as you say an official complain in this particular instance is bound to make things worse, I would suggest you don't tell her but you start looking around for another job. when you leave don't say goodbye or anything.

Answer 8

First thing to remember. You are on your own. Do not rely on anyone else, or expect any help, in fact, 99 out of 100 times HR and management will side with the person who has higher status. And they will side with the offender and label you as a whiner. You have to trust me. HRs first concern is protect themselves then the company, then management.
Two ways to go, if you fight the battle through HR, you most likely will be fired or pushed out. If you want to keep your job, work behind the scenes.
The first thing you do is silent treatment. I MEAN silent. NOT one word to this person. Do not ever ask her any question. Take everything to her manager, ask him to get you the information and get back with you. When asked why you are not talking to Suzie. You acted shocked, Mr Manager you are not aware of her behavior? They will want you to talk, NO NO NO!. Ms Smith is aware of her behavior, you should speak with her first. I am sure she would not lie to her manager, right?
So you are getting her manager involved, most managers want to sit on the sidelines and then say....Oh I didn't know, nobody told me ect. Keep interacting with him/her. Do not be shy. Do not take no for an answer. When he/she says, I told you to talk to Ms Smith, you say. I told you I do not deal with Ms Smith as she is unprofessional, its not my job to get her to change her behavior. You are trying to tweek this person, just enough to get them to force her to change her behavior.

Print out any email communication related to the subject and take it home. Make a copy of any HR policy manuals and take home. Keep a log of all activity.
Good luck. You can email if needed.

Answer 9

you have tried the informal route by having a word with the manager and nothing has been done, as you are essentially being bullied you should take it formally by raising a grievance.

your union rep should be able to advise you on this (if you are not already a member, join today!)

Answer 10

Your Friends are right Go to HR and file a complaint. If your manger isn't doing anything about it. It's time to talk to someone who will listen!