Read this, debate about slim/skinny girls & curvy chubby girls?

Question

We had this professor give us a talk about different types of women & came to the conclusion that skinny/slim girls have a more successful life then any other, slim girls tend to be successful in careers, relationships etc because they are more secure, more confident, more open minded then curvy bigger girls, slim girls arent insecure about their looks/body so therefore dont have many problems in life whereas curvy women seem to be jelous more, get upset easily & are insecure, recent poll here in the UK & Eurpope suggested 98% of men prefer girls NOT bigger then them, as in prefer girls who are slim tall attractive, suppose thats human nature, guys would never want a girl bigger then they are no matter what, love is part of pshycal attraction so love is not an excuse, the Professor didnt say every single slim girl but comparing as majority, suppose this is already know anyway, even in the working industry employers prefer slim attractive women because they look good & attract.

Answer 1

i don't agree with this i have always been very slim, at one point waaay too thin and i have never really been happier more confident or more succesful than any of the bigger girls/women i know if anything the bigger girls i know are way more out going than the slimmer people

Answer 2

Ok, I'm no pin up, but I am successful and I have a family, a loving husband and I am very happy.

In reality there is hardly a woman in the world that doesn't wish she wasn't a little slimmer, so to say that slim women are more confident and more successful is incorrect.

I was the same size I am now when I met my husband, and he fell in love with me, not what I look like, sometimes skinny women with too much confidence can cause a real problem for a guy who just wants his lady to go home to at night, because they know they are gorgeous and they play up to it.

I had to work harder to get where I am because I don't fit the 'prefered look' for a woman of my age but that doesn't make me any less of a woman or any less likely to be confident or insecure.

Answer 3

i think that this is a debate that could last a very long time. i think that it is true that attractive people get good jobs, purely because the fact that its' "easy on the eyes".
But i do not think that they are more successful in life. women who try hard and work hard are the ones that succeed, if they look good that's a plus.
i also don't think that slim girls are necessarily happier with their lives. i think i come between the bands, i am not super slim but i am no big. Yes sometimes i don't like myself, what girl doesn't but that doesn't make me more or less inclined to do well or reach my goals in life.
but that's just my opinion :) x x

Answer 4

I'm a slim girl, and yes I do know I'm beautiful, and confident, but my friend is chubby, and she's just as beatiful and confident. I dont htink it depends on the size, it really depends on the girl, where they live, and who they are as a person. And slim girl's have insecurities too. There's atleast one day every girl looks in the mirror, and doesnt like what she sees.

Answer 5

being a small 'slim' girl, i can tell you that we have our insecurities too. i know many confident, successful larger women too... it depends on your state of mind and the support you get from others. i've also seen a lot of guys with gals bigger than them. its sad that our society is so focused on the external but thats just the way it is i guess!

Answer 6

At it's most superficial level, the debate is about fat versus slim, but in the wider context of life, I think the debate is more girls who feel good about themselves, versus the ones who don't.

For hundreds of years, obesity has been linked to poor health, and so the logical deduction is that being slim means being healthier, which in essence is right, but it has grown into the assumption that being slim also equals being more attractive and desirable.

The psychotherapy-dieting complex has latched onto this belief, and created industries where millions of pounds are made out of the need to be slimmer. Over the past thirty years, this have become pretty entrenched into the psyche of the developed world that it has subconscious offshoots, relating to success and life achievements. The popular media then feeds us images, further deepening this belief, because they believe that this is 'what their readerships are interested in.'

They prey on semi-falsely created cultural assumptions, which could be why larger girls do develop strong dislikes for their figures; but just about every woman in the world has felt some sort of bodily insecurity at some stage. The popular media are also trying to pedal the same 'insecurity and ideal myth' to men suggesting that if you don't have rippling six pack stomachs, a He-man physique, a large penis, or an aptitude for bedroom nirvana, then you fall short in some way.

The debate is not nearly as cut and dried as fat v thin because it only concentrates on the physical and visual aspects, but doesn't take into account people's more visceral preferences. A girl - fat or thin - with no discernable personality will not win many admirers; even if she is physically attractive, the attention she receives will soon evanesce when lack of human connection emerges.

But a personable girl - slim or chubby - who looks after herself and is fun to be with, will certainly have admirers in romance and other areas of life, for she will be perceived as radiant, vital and have something to offer. I noticed an example of this just last night, when I was in a funky bar in London. There were lots of beautiful girls in there, but the one who had the most male admirers was one who was elegant, stylish and chubby, because she gave the impression of being up for fun, and not being a self-conscious poser.

The outer reflects the inner: girls who are scruffy, messy and sloven on the outside, are usually deemed as scruffy, messy and sloven on the inside, and lacking a self-respecting mindset, which is why they probably won't get on in life. This works the same whether a girl is chubby or slim. Low self-esteem manifests as a self-fulfilling prophecy of worthlessness in everyday life.

Mens' romantic preferences are also not nearly as cut and dried as women may think (and women's magazines may try and put across). The assumption is that all men like slim women, and the rest don't matter, but the more broad-minded, and discerning men tend to find things to appreciate in and are attracted to, all types of women. In my friendship network, there are some plus-size girls who are never short of male admirers and boyfriends or husbands, because they 'broadcast' qualities for us to appreciate. Men are pretty adept at picking up 'vibes' from the girls and women we approach.

As for men preferring smaller women, I am also not so sure. A tall or large woman will have admirers, simply because she stands out from the crowd; just the same as small women having admirers because they are deemed more conventionally feminine. Again, it depends on them 'transmitting' traits which men find appealing.

I also disagree with the notion that slim women get on and fuller-figured ones don't. There are plenty of plus-size women who are role models of success and attainment: Dawn French, Catherine Tate, Oprah Winnefry, Charlotte Church, Alison Moyet, Angela Merkel. These ladies have achieved great things because they have gone beyond falsely-created cultural notions, to develop robust self-worth and personalities, and develop the strengths of their characters.

Any woman with something to offer will find appreciators.

Answer 7

Its true in my opinion.

I go up and down with my weight a lot, and when I am slim, I am more confident and successful in what I do.

When I carry a bit of weight I am miserable, unconfident and unsuccessful.

Answer 8

iam a size 9{American} and my body does not define who iam .... my parents,Friends,life lessons,education help to define me..... OK sure looking good gets you to higher places and mix with different people......Iam confident for the things i have done with my life......

Answer 9

so where's the question?