how old should you be before you have children & a marriage?

Answer 1

Marriage: Mid-20s or older for a guy, early to mid-20s for a girl, due to the difference in maturity. It gives them a chance to finish their education, get a start on their careers and actually have a chance to meet a variety of people and get to know themselves well, as well as kick up their heels for a bit, drive a little sportscar, stay out all night with friends, etc.

Kids: Whenever you like, after you are married. I happened to wait six years, because my husband and I moved several times due to his job, and we had a chance to do a lot of traveling abroad. When we decided it was time to have children, we didn't feel like we were missing anything, because we had already done so many things together as a couple.

Answer 2

There is no exact age. We are all different, however with that being said....look at statistics. People who marry and have children young are more likely to be unhappy and divorce than a mature person who has really had the time to know themselves. My thoughts on marriage have changed so much over the last 10 years. At 22 I thought that marriage was like Cinderella land...I thought we would love each other so much and that was just it. Now I know that romantic love is just a part of marriage. Can you deal with him chewing with his mouth open 365 days a year? Can you stand that he moves the toothpaste everyday, or leaves his clothes on the floor? Will it make you nuts that he cleans everything? How will you deal with his ability to manage finances? Or jealousy? And so on! You have to be able to count the cost, so you do not pay for it later as a single mother! SO my answer is about 28-32!

Answer 3

Both partners would need to be mature enough to handle a committed relationship and everything that comes with it. Maturity is more important than age.

There are many benefits of waiting though. One of the biggest ones is education. Getting a college degree would help you earn a lot more money than a high school diploma, or being a high school dropout. So waiting until after college may be a good idea. Also, it gives you more time to think about what you really want in a mate and in life.

Also, do not get married just because you are pregnant. I know someone who did that, and 13 years of misery and 4 kids later, she is still suffering.

The biggest thing is are you guys ready to commit to each other, in good times and bad, and do what is necessary to support each other and your children. Getting married and having kids is a huge commitment. Do not take it lightly.

Good luck and think hard before making a decision like that. It can be the happiest decision you ever made, or the worst decision you ever made. Make sure that it will be the right decision for both of you. :)

Answer 4

Well, I think you should finish your education first. Decide what you want to do in life. Find out what your purpose is here in this world. A good indication, and one I used when deciding what I should 'be', is what subject are you good at in school? What subject do you really look forward to in the school day? Is it art, English, drama, math even? THAT is what you should do for the rest of your life. Imagine getting paid for doing something you love?! That's the only way to get rich! Because you'll never want to quit! Then, go to a good university or college, finish your degree(s), start a career in what you decided eariler, and see how that goes. If you don't like the career you can always switch. The important part is getting a solid idea of who YOU are first. THEN, you can consider looking for a spouse. This should all take about 15-20 years, so you're looking at getting married way after 30 and having children around 33 or 34. Life is not a race, so don't rush things.

This is the best way for you to get financially secure at a career you enjoy and finding a husband who you can truly love and appreciate and whom loves you for who you are. Your children will be much better off with happy, successful parents who love one another and love them. Money won't be an issue and you can truly get ahead in life.

That's my humble opinion. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 5

Age is not so important as is financial and emotional security. I think you should at least complete college and have lived on your own a bit before you consider marriage. Once you are married and start having children, it is easy to lose yourself in taking care of them. It's better to know first who you are and what you want before joining your life to another person or bringing new people into the world. Some people can do it early in life, others take longer.

Answer 6

You should me mature enough to commit to both for the rest of your life, no matter how hard or impossible it gets.

Iam 24 and this is the 5 year of being married, and I have a 9 month old son.

My mom and her mom were both 17 and 18. My great gramma was 15. My other gramma was 18. No one in my family has ever been divorced. They're either still married, or their spouses are dead.

Answer 7

age is not important it is being financially ready and mature enough to deal with it all i know some people who are ready at 18 both in the mature sense and the financial sense yet i know a few 30+ year olds who are no where near ready

Answer 8

age is not what matters, be smart get an education, find mr perfect and go from their, make sure you have a good job, nice home and car then bring a baby into this world, I had kids early and was not ready and it was hard, so be smart make sure your life is ready for a marriage then a baby.

Answer 9

well, you have to meet mr. right which will happen when it happens.

be financially stable

give yourself time to complete goals you have for yourself that can be pushed aside when the whole marriage/family comes into play (eg: travel, moving, military) not saying these can't sitll occur but trust me, its harder because then it doesn't just effect your life.

know that you are doing those things for the right reasons, not because you are feeling antsy/impatient, or like your clock is 'ticking'.

Answer 10

when everything is settled down, that's what i would do instead of being married as a teen even though you don't have a siutable job & you think that "you're actually in true love".

if you have a baby, the guy you loved will leave you! that's what happens to most teens.