Why do they look/hope for things to go wrong in a relationship? Why do they require so much drama? Please help me to understand women.
2007-11-09 21:33:45 · 9 answers · asked by sdsrfbum69 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I suggest it's not just the women, but it's those creatures who watch soaps on TV or watched the cartoons screaming at each other on cartoons as kids.
Instead of seeing examples of easy-going, workable relationships, we are exposed to every possible dysfunctional person out there from Charlie Brown to Al Bundy, and the bossy girl in Rugrats to Eva Longoria's character in Desperate Housewives.
It's all funny until everyone's laughing at us.
Instead of glorifying the ride up and the ride down, couples need to glorify each day without major conflict.
2007-11-09 21:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My friend is like that. She drives me nuts because she always makes mountains out of mole hills and then she cries and complains about it for days on end. But I'll quote her boyfriend on this one "she's crazy". She has to create drama to get attention.
Not all women are like that. Like me. I've been with my fiancee for basically 2 years. We don't actually fight. Yea we disagree but we compromise or we agree to disagree. And when we disagree we never ever raise our voices to one another. I find that this is many couples problem, they have a disagreement or a fight but instead of acting like adults they act like children and yell and scream. And when you have two people yelling and screaming the communication is at that point shut down. Heck when one person yells and screams communication stops because the person getting yelled out is no longer listening and the person yelling honestly doesn't know what they are saying.
So Lesson 1 - Learn to "fight" like adults. No yelling and screaming. Calmly discuss ANY problems you have with each other. I find that is also a problem for most couples. They have this tiny problem that they ignore but it's like a cut, if you ignore it for to long it's going to get infected and get bigger. So Lesson 2 - no matter the problem discuss it
Many women look for things to go wrong in the beginning because they're scared to have their hearts on the line. They like the man so much and are possibly falling for him then they remember "bob" there last boyfriend that jaded them horribly and they think that you might do the same thing to them. Men are guilty of doing that too, but I have to say that women are 20x's worse at doing it. You've probably heard a woman say or seen it written somewhere that old little quote that goes "I'm just looking for that one guy that will show me that they're not all the same" It's a horrible quote in my personal opinion but most women feel that way, particularly the younger they are.
Lesson 3 - Women really do love it when guys are as open and trying in the relationship as they are. This means that you need to reassure her that your not like "bob" and whatever you do know about that guy DON'T do it. Try hard to get her to open up and talk when you can clearly see there is something wrong and she says "nothing" She's lying, no matter how old a woman gets we'll always do that. (I know it's annoying. I apologize but that's just the way we are)
Lesson 4 - Here's the thing. . . If YOU don't allow the other person in your relationship to cause drama there will be no drama. I know it sounds like it's impossible but it's not.
*I can't stress this word enough COMMUNICATION it's the key to a drama-less healthy relationship.*
I hope that helped some. Good Luck!
2007-11-09 21:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by Bast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women require alot of attention from there mate just to be made to feel like they care/love them because men for some reason not all but they are in a world of there own and women just don't seem to get it .... yes i am a woman and i've been through all of that growing up now i'm like what the hell he's grown either he wants me or not because i do not like DRAMA and hope u will be able to live with out it
2007-11-09 21:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by siatajamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in a very conflicting relationship. Two completely opposite personalities. If you say it's black, she says it's white. If you say, you're right, it's white. Then she says, no, it's black. You just can't win and you realize that you aren't compatible. Such a relationship will exhaust you and drain all the energy out of you. You never know when the next "blow-up" will happen again. If there is just no way you two can deal with conflicts in a healthy way, then maybe y'all should go your separate ways.
2007-11-09 22:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like Drama. It's hardwired into them. There is a reason that Soap Operas fill the entire afternoon line up on TV. Drama makes them feel alive.
2007-11-09 21:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's the sympathy. A lot of women love the sympathy they get when they get out of a "bad relationship".
2007-11-09 21:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study psychology and social psychology.
2007-11-09 21:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by KOTEHOK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women. weird creatures. just like men.
2007-11-09 21:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by rachel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
women are guided by emotion and men are guided by logic.
2007-11-09 21:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋