Just recently my father died after battling with lung cancer for six months. As I sat by his bed for three hours I watched him suffer struggling to breathe with each short breathe. His eyes glazed over looking back up into his head, him grasping his bald head with his hand as he labored to breathe, and finally him starring at my mother as he gave up his spirit and his heart finally stopped. It was a horrifying experience to see, watching him literally suffocate to his death.
2007-11-09 19:56:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
wow. i am really sorry. that is a really hard thing to have to deal with.
not only is it possible but it is probable. there is no way you can not be traumatized watching some one you love in some much pain and then die.
i would suggest you talk to some one about this. a counselor or something. don't hold all of this in!
like i said, I'm really sorry for your loss and I'm sorry you had to experience that.
god bless!
2007-11-09 20:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by lyssa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How terrible for you and your mom to have had to watch that, and I also know when we are losing a parent it's impossible to leave, we need to be there. I can't imagine how difficult this must have been for all of you.
Yes, I think this could cause you trauma and may take some time to get that out of your mind or vision.
I feel for you! and don't know what to say except perhaps remind yourself when these thoughts of his last hours come back to you, that you and your mom were there for him and I'm sure that your being there with your mom helped him pass on to the next stage with some comfort knowing that he was loved.
I was with mom for the 24 hours after her stroke and when I think of her I always remember that she is in a good place now, without pain, and, like your dad, she didn't pass over alone, (somehow that is very important to me) she had some of her children there to comfort her through the passing.
My prayers will be with you.
2007-11-10 06:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by susandorey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bren first of all I am truly sorry for your loss. Of course you were traumatized by watching your father die. It is traumatic to watch anyone die even if it is peaceful, but to watch someone you love struggling to breathe is shocking and heartbreaking. I hope that you will get some grief counseling so that you will come to peace with your father's death. Sometimes when our loved one are struggling with death, they need to be told that the ones left behind will be ok and then it is easier for the to let go. My prayers are with you and your family. God Bless you.
2007-11-10 04:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by Diane B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm so sorry about your father. My prayers are with you. As for your question yes it is very possible. Watching anyone die, esp a loved one is traumatic. Your a wonderful son to be there with your father and comfort him.
Your father is no longer in pain, keep that at heart and God Bless you
2007-11-10 04:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by red 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be traumatic. I would go talk with someone to get a perspective on what you saw. I would talk to people and cry about it if I felt like it. You need to get it out and find some way of coming to terms with it so that it doesn't cause you further problems.
2007-11-10 08:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes...very possible.
It's a very traumatic thing to see someone you love die.
2007-11-10 04:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Rei 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋