Doesn't forcing them to apologize when they don't mean it send the message to the child that it's O.K. to lie as long as the lie makes someone else feel good rather than to encouraging them to be honest?
2007-11-09 17:58:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
They do it hoping the child will someday learn the meaning of apologizing and will do it without any false feelings.
2007-11-09 18:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by ez123ed 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This question is really a struggle to answer. I think parents force their kids to say sorry is because they are hoping that their child will get into a habit of saying sorry, that they will feel bad and they will see that it is wrong.
About honesty though...i think it strongly depends on the parent and their way of handling the kid. If the parent is good at punishing, and talking to their kid and showing them what is right and wrong, then kid is not as likely to be dishonest about the apology. If the parent does nothing but ask the child to say sorry, you end up with a kid who thinks they can solve everything with an "i am sorry". In shorter words...disciplining parent = honest kid....parent that only asks for an apology = dishonest kid.
2007-11-09 18:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by CC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. I would not force my kids to apologize before they know what they are apologizing for and before they believe in the apology. I don't know the age of the children you are thinking about but, all kids need ot be able to understand what they are saying and why they are saying it in order for it to mean anything to them. Children should not be taught to just say things because it's how they are supposed to behave. This just creates robots who have no idea how to express their true feelings. A genuine apology from a sorry child is beautiful. A quick "I'm sorry" from a kid who simply knows what to say is useless and meaningless to everyone.
Parents force their kids to say and do lots of things that do nothing beneficial for anyone -- because they think it's right or easy or expected. Parents really need to talk to their kids and explain why an apology is called for and do it over and over in various situations before the child is capable of understanding what is going on and how to react.
2007-11-09 21:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one, can force a person to divorce, even the partner who wants out. It is called freedom of choice and you need not sign anything you do not want to. Nor does one need both parental signatures, one will do. If your partner wanted out and you won't agree to a divorce, then the partner only need wait a certain amount of time and that divorce will be granted anyway. The partner need only get a legal separation, to protect themselves from the responsibility of debt or being sued for cheating, it allows the court records to show a persons intentions to divorce, and the starting date of the required time allotted. It does not stop the person seeking a divorce from living common law or dating until the divorce is granted. Nor does one need the partner who refuses to accept the divorce to sign or agree to the separation. This is what a common law relationship requires, if one wishes to protect themselves or property after the fact. If a woman, who's mate filed for a legal separation, or has already been granted one, ends up pregnant again by the mate who filed, that nullifies the separation, if she wants to cause him trouble, she just has to prove it's his and he must start all over again, so beware of the ex guys.
2016-05-29 01:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree, but to be the devil's advocate, sometimes it does make people feel better after you apologize to them. Say your four-year-old hit another kid because they took away the red paint that he was using to draw a picture. Maybe he hurt the other kid. He's not sorry he did it, because he thinks it was wrong of the other kid to take the paint, which it was, but he has to apologize anyways because it's the right thing to do.
2007-11-10 02:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regret and empathy are learned emotions. Young children are egocentric by nature and must learn that their actions effect others, sometimes negatively.
Apologizing teaches a child that intentional or not, his/her actions have impacted another.
2007-11-09 20:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are over analyzing this. A young child will not recognize it as a lie. They will think that it is an accepted behavior and they will model it if it is re enforced. Remember that a child is not a little adult, they have much more simplistic thinking.
2007-11-09 18:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because we want our children to respect others, and to admit to their errors rather than deny and lie that they are responsible. If we leave it to kids, then they will choose DISHONESTY over accountability. "I didn't throw the ball through the window, honest?"
2007-11-09 18:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by Signilda 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
to develop your sense of accepting mistakes,, and your humility.
2007-11-09 18:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋