Could I be depressed?

Question

I'm thinking I might depressed, because sometimes I just get so sad...and I just sit around, and sometimes when my nana comes over she's says I look like I'm going to cry. Sometimes I feel like that, for example when I come home from school I just feel like crying. I don't know why though..I mean I have friends and we laugh and talk at school...so maybe I'm not depressed? But I think I started feeling this way when I found out my mom was having another baby(now I have 2 brothers) I got really sad and cried, and I didn't talk to my mom for 4 days, I was so mad at her! Maybe I feel this way because maybe I feel that my parents don't love me as much any more, and I told them that but they said they love us all them same, but it just dosen't feel that way. And also my 6 year brother and I fight A LOT, sometimes I can't wait untill I move out. Oh by the way I'm 14, please help I would apperciate it so much.

Answer 1

You do sound like you are depressed, but depression is not always a lasting emotion. It seems as though you are going through a lot of changes at home and that is always hard. Being 14 is tough enough. You're body is going through a lot of changes too and that will cause your moods to go up & down. Your parents are having a baby, that doesn't mean they won't love you just as much as they always have, even thought it may seem that way to you now. It sounds like you have a pretty good relatoinship with your parents since you were able to tell them about feeling like they didn't love you as much so please tell your mom you need some extra time with her. She may not realize the extent of your feelings and just needs to be told. As for you and your brother fighting, that porbably won't end for awhile or until you decide your not gonna do it any more. unfortunatly it's up to you to put and end to it since your older and much more mature. Six year old brothers are a pain, plain and simple. I'll bet you are a very bright, intellegent girl. you sound like it, so for now try to focus on the blessings in your life and the depression you are feeling will pass. Maybe spend some time with your Nana and talk about your feelings. It may sound cliche but your school counsler would probably love to talk to you about what's going on in your life. Talking about it does help and knowing your not the only one who gets depressed does help. Get involved in your moms pregnancy, read about the changes that happen to a woman when she is carrying a child, it's a special time for all of you and can be a lot of fun if you let it. I wish you the best and remember how special you are.

Answer 2

Well it's hard being the oldest. You have to understand u were lucky at one point and were able to have the undivided attention of ur parents at one point that ur bro.'s will never have. I think u maybe mildly depressed. I do not think u'll need medication, just maybe a counselor to get some of these things out. I just think that u have too much going on in ur head and need someone who won't judge u to talk to and that u are comfortable telling everything to. They can also help u w/ ways to be more positive and what to do when ur so sad. Maybe a new hobby is in order.
Siblings always fight and maybe part of the trouble between u2 are the resentment u have towards him. try 2 give him a break and put ur self in his shoes. I don't think ur wrong w/ what ur feeling, just have to be more positive. In time trust me u'll see everything differently.

Answer 3

I've thought I'm depressed sometimes, and I think that the doctors who said that depression is an actual medical disease is wrong. I go through cycles I guess you could call them. My parents just split up and I can't stand my mom. I'm forced to live with her though. I've thought of suicide but the next morning I'm totally fine. I have friends and stuff like that at school too. I would say that 'depression' is a really serious sadness, but not a medical condition. I think people just swing through depression and joy just as easily as we change the channels on a television. It all depends on our mood. You could be what they call 'medically depressed' but I don't think depression is a sickness, just a mood. You could get some anti-depressants to help cope, but otherwise, just wait it out and don't do anything to harsh. It'll pass. I'm 13 by the way.

Answer 4

You could be depressed. It is hard when new babies come along. It isn't that they love you any less, it is that they need more attention because they can't take of themselves like you can. Just try to help out more around the house - they will appreciate it. You will grow out of it. I went through that when I was 12 and had a new baby brother. But I had a step dad who didn't care about my sister and I so it was a worse situation. Hang in there and feel free to email me if you need to talk - I am a good listener. [e-mail].

Answer 5

You could be depressed and it could be because your mom had another baby. But you have to understand. Trust me, I have 6 kids. And I love EVERY ONE of them the same. Each one of them is very special in there own way. They each have there own personalities, they each like totaly different things. I couldnt love one more than the other. And your mom loves you just as much as your brothers, trust me. To tell you the truth, mothers are usually more attached to there daughters than there sons. They were a young girl like you once. And its normal for you to fight with your brothers. BUT, if you dont want to fight with them. Just be nice to them, even if there being a total ***. and I guarantee you, they will be nice to you. Maybe not at first but it will start to change there attitude about you. If your the big sister, you should protect them. When you get older you will feel differently about your brothers. I fought with my brothers, but now, I couldnt live without them. But if you are feeling depressed, talk to your mom and dad and maybe they can take you to see a doctor. They have medicine that can make you feel better.

Answer 6

It is very normal that you feel this way considering the circumstances with your family... If you feel like you cannot talk to your parents about this, talk about it to your best friend. You are a little stressed and you feel neglected by your parents. Things will get better for you. It just takes some time... don't forget that your parents will ALWAYS love you -- even if it feels like they are preoccupied with the new baby that's coming.

Try to avoid things and arguments that make you depressed. Hope you feel better soon.

Answer 7

this is a very common problem, and no your not depressed, i don't think so. i think your just worried about your mom not loving you or your other syblings as much. She loves you, no matter what, just sometimes parents like having more kids, for various different reasons depending on the family. A child is a great gift, you should try to be happy for your mom and learn to accept it, after all, they are going to be a new addition to you family! besides, i'm sure she would love it if you cared and were happy for her, and she probably really needs it right now!

Answer 8

I would say you are about an average typical 14 year old. Not an easy age to be. You have a lot going on and sometimes it is hard to deal with. Talk to your parents. If they aren't taking you seriously, find another adult who will. I think one of the worst things about being a teenager is adults blowing them off and not validating their feelings. You have a few years to go before moving out, so my suggestion would be find someone to really listen to you and talk things out.

Answer 9

well i understand how you feel but trust me once your out in the real world you regret it sometimes... there's no place like being home and trust me your parents love you all the same but some of you need more attention than others and you had yours (don't forget it) you must not think of yourself only hope for the best and well be happy cause you'll be having another bro or sis and babies are just enjoyable aren't they so be happy and don't think like that think positive, who knows the new baby might look up to you someday:)

Answer 10

you are a typical, average 14 year old. Your hormones are on a roller coaster that you can't stop yet. Do things to keep yourself occupied, but keep close to your family, don't fight with your mother, one day she might be all you have. Find happiness with your siblings, be a good role model for them. You will start to feel better.