why am i so lonely? my friends that are girls say be yourself,which i do but nothing seems to happen, my friends that are guys say to be a little mean but nothing happens,im sitting in class and all the girls i like walk pass me like nothing and go talk to my friends , but they see me and im just a friend or just "that guy" i work hard everyday on just haveing one girl that will like me but i always fail.and when i get my friends to help me everything goes wrong. what should i do?
2007-11-09 17:18:42 · 16 answers · asked by g.f. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may be trying too hard. The most attractive people have many interests, activities and are busy. Let your life speak for you and the opposite sex will come looking for you - concentrate on yourself and not others and i PROMISE you will see results.
good luck, honey.
2007-11-09 17:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you ugly? Just kidding. I'm sorry. Mean joke. Anyway, if a girl doesn't come to you, then you'll just have to go to one of them. If you're shy, then gather up your courage. What's worse, you being a hermit? Or you being embarrased for a few weeks?
Look, from Prom to dates, most of the time, guys make the moves. Seriously, everyone in my school thinks it's lame when a girl is that desperate to ask a guy out then the opposite way.
Make the first move. C'mon, you can do it.
If you're worried about flirting, and whats the deal with your 'no attention' thing, don't be upset.
Outgoing guys usually shine at first. The shy kind takes a while to notice. I know. Because sadly, I'm a bit blunt. If a guy asks me out, I'll say back an answer on the spot. No dawdling.
It's cute though, when a guy tries hard for someone to notice him.
2007-11-09 17:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by hollynguyen11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too often we fall into a rut or can't get things started in one area and we become negative about it and begin to believe we will never get it right. Once we get that far, it's very hard to return. Do yourself a favor and relax. There is love in the world for you, and you don't need to work like crazy to get it. Spend private time working on your own mental outlook and try to intention that love into your life.
Start by sitting quietly and imagining yourself in your mind as clearly as you can. See yourself happy and fulfilled. See a woman in your arms. Feel that satisfied and delighted feeling of being in love, if only for a moment. Do that as often as you can (in bed before you sleep and when you wake are good times) and see if you don't see a difference in just a few weeks.
Secondly, avoid negative statements regarding this area of your life. "I am alone" and "I am between relationships" mean largely the same thing but one gives a negative feeling and the other a positive. Any time you hear a negative thought in your mind, gently correct it by saying "no, that's not true. I am open to love and it's coming for me!"
This costs nothing and dilligent practice will yield quick results. You have nothing to lose.
Peace!
2007-11-09 17:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start by doing it on your own.
Seriously, just be yourself because the right one will come along who likes you for you and not this person you tried so hard to be. I know it's hard to be alone, I really know, but if you let go a little then things will start getting better.
Have you ever tried to say something to a friend then forgot what it was, moved on to something else (forgot about trying to remember) and then it came to you? Same thing. It's hard to forget but try it. Just be you.
2007-11-09 17:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U know...that used to be me. U gotta find yourself. I think half the time that ppl are lonley is that they don't let anyone get close. Having friends is being a friend yourself. And i'm sure you heard of that...it works. Calls some friends over to your house....call em just on a week night and see whats up... IT is hard to break into the social world...but its not impossible.. hey i've done it
2007-11-09 17:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia89 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lack of confidence is root of your problems. Without confidence, you can't hold a proper conversation with anyone and everyone.
Brush up your confidence like how you would train for a sport. Do something everyday that will make you shine with confidence.
2007-11-09 17:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by 27% Best Answers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're in luck- I just wrote a 1 1/2 page blog post on this today- I think you'll find it extremely helpful.
http://jbcandid.blogspot.com/2007/11/security.html
2007-11-09 17:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you a guy or a girl? First thing you have to do is build attraction to those you desire. Then you have to be genuinely interesting to keep their interest. You have to search out something you're both passionate about and have in common.
That's the short of it anyway.
2007-11-09 17:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop looking to other people for help! Get out there and do it on your own. If you have the confidence and the balls to speak up, you can get any girl you want!
2007-11-09 17:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by .e.l.i.s.e. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try talking!! just for practice,, sounds like you haven't gotten your social confidence yet. Don't be in a hurry to have girls they will cost bundles later on!! lol
2007-11-09 17:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋