how to make my daughter quit computer and tv?

Question

scoring less,day dreaming,lazy, aversion from reading.My life is in hell.What to do.

Answer 1

You're the parent here, so you have the power. Set some limits on computer and TV. Tell her that until her schoolwork improves and she develops other extracurricular activities (her choice) that the limits will stick.

Be clear on the limits and very specific on your expectations (i.e., must maintain a certain grade point average). Above all, be consistent.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You are the Mother....take control

Limit television and computer time to a minimum

Remove BOTH from her bedroom and anywhere else that she can watch them by sneaking behind your back.

Inform her friends parents that you have done this because of her low scores in school, her inability to focus, her inability to be motivated and read or do anything else. Ask the parents of friends to please follow your rules. Ask them politely to please let you know if they can't, for whatever reason...and then do not allow your daughter to go to their house.

If you MUST go to extremes, remove the computer and television and/or password them. Almost all cable companies have the ability to put a parental password on the tv ..it would take a bit but you could program it where she can't watch anything unless YOU decide the times she will be watching.

Password protect your computer, and do not give her the pw.

Get tough....she needs rules and guidelines...and you're the parent, you have to set them.

IF she also sees you reading, doing other things besides being on the computer or infront of the TV..etc...it might help her.
Make watching TV a family time together for a specific time limit each day. NOT until all homework is done ..PROPERLY.

You can do it!

Answer 3

what to do? it's called being the parent. You turn the tv off, you turn the computer off, you provide alternatives like going for walks, get her some good books. It's called putting your foot down and being the parent, not being afraid of her anger, not being to much of a whimp to provide discipline. The only way a child learns discipline is when the parent shows them discipline and consistency. You sound like you are afraid to make her angry, and you need to get over that in one big hurry.
She is going to be angry, she is going to whine and carry on like a two year old, but if you stand firm, she will end up respecting your decisions. Time for you to take control and be the parent she needs.

Answer 4

You don't say much about her, and I have no idea what "scoring less" means, but I eliminated TV from our house on weekdays, and it helped a lot. She raised holy he** at first, but then got used to it and stopped whining. Then put a limit on computer. Together, that should help a lot.

Answer 5

Better computer and TV than boyfriends, sex or drugs don't you think??
Anyway you can try to get her to sing up in to some activity with the excuse that you don't want to go alone i.e. gym, dance lessons, tennis...then you might bond and you might be able to talk and get her interested in reading and studying.

Answer 6

unplug them both and keep her away from them. One of my kids isn't allowed to use the computer at all. She didn't obey my rules so she gets absolutely no computer. Try getting off of them yourself and engaging in a creative activity with her.

Answer 7

Well....just limit her.

Just be like, "ok sweetie, youve been spending alot of time on the computer, id like it if you would get off in an hour"

or something

Answer 8

Set an alphanumeric password lock (e.g.: xyz456) on the computer: you unlock, and relock later. Or get an electrician to cut their power cables, putting fittings such that a special adaptor is required, which you keep with you. ALTERNATIVE HEATH: TELEVISION.

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How Television Affects Your Brain Chemistry -- And That's Not All!

Many of you believe watching TV is a harmless, entertaining activity worthy of your attention, but the video below will give you some eye-opening things to consider.

In just under four minutes you’ll learn why television is essentially a platform for elite advertisers to peddle their wares, and how the steady stream of images could be making your life in reality seem dull and slow in comparison.

If you watch TV, you owe it to yourself to watch this video.


(Please watch this video -- 3 minutes, 43 seconds)

Dr. Mercola's Comments:
Regular newsletter readers know that I am no fan of television, but I am obviously in the minority here in the United States. The average American watches nearly FIVE HOURS of TV a day. This is more than the amount of time I spend in front of a TV in a month, and more than 90 percent of my TV time is spent watching health videos I need to review.

Imagine what you could do if you cut out TV and suddenly had five extra hours in your day to do something productive, good for yourself (exercise!), creative... or maybe simply to relax!

Beyond the time it takes up, though, is the very real impact it has on your brain. As the video alludes, TV is one of the most powerful brainwashing devices there is.

Every year between the food industry and drug companies well over $50 billion is spent on marketing messages to U.S. consumers to influence their food and medication choices. The majority (75 percent) of commercial network television time is paid for by the 100 largest corporations in North America. Some of these companies even have budgets in the billions, and not surprisingly these budgets have the power to influence TV producers to create television that suits their agendas.

And, frequently, these agendas are not aligned with your best interests.

If you do choose to watch TV, even the network news, you must constantly ask yourself who is trying to “sell” you something. But be warned, these corporations are spending large amounts of money to seduce you, so even the most conscious person may not be immune to the messages.

TV itself is not intrinsically evil, and there clearly are many great shows out there, but the KEY is to NEVER watch the commercials. So if you have a TiVO or only watch DVDs you will radically reduce the media’s influence over you. I have been doing this for the last 15 years, and it is one of the reasons why I have been able to get so much done.

I simply do not waste time in front of the TV. As I said earlier, I probably watch less than five hours of non-commercial TV or DVDs per MONTH; typically an hour once a week provides enough passive entertainment for me.

If Not for Yourself, Turn Off Your TV for Your Kids

As an adult, it’s up to you to decide how much time you want to spend in front of your TV (if any), but if you have kids I suggest you set a good example and dramatically limit it.

A growing number of experts agree that allowing children under the age of three to watch television can impair their linguistic and social development, and also put them at risk of health problems including attention-deficit disorder, autism, and obesity.

Older kids are also at risk from watching TV. Too much time in front of the tube may:

Change your child's views and food choices
Make your kids fat
Make your kids more materialistic
Cause your children to go into more debt as adults
Cause your children to be more aggressive
Lead to smoking
Increase your child's risk of becoming seriously injured
The good news is that one study found a great majority of parents -- 72 percent -- are worried about their kids' exposure to the media.

However, only 23 percent actually took the step of restricting their kids’ TV and video game time.

Although giving up or limiting TV may seem like a drastic step, I suspect that once you do it you will be thrilled by the new activities you and your family will begin to take part in… and I doubt you will ever look back!


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Answer 9

I think it is ironic that you use a computer to ask advice on how to get someone to not use the computer.

Answer 10

Sell them. The computer and TV, that is; selling her could get you in trouble.