Okay, I want to know if this is considered by all as "Anti-Semitic"?

Question

I was trying very hard to describe some women who were of the very same heritage that I am.(I am half Jewish by family only..I was NOT raised to be Jewish..and my mom is not Jewish..but, I still believe myself to be Jewish anyways, despite the fact that I will never be recognised as such!)
But, anyhow,, I used to work at a Jewish community center..and I over heard several Jewish women(mostly parents) talking about me...(I believe they were) that I should NOT be teaching and or helping out in the Jewish preschool..that they should have people who are ALL Jewish that teach there.. instead!!! (incidently, there were other women and men who were NOT Jewish at all, and they taught there,,and were quite good!)
anyhow, I felt really insulted and it hurt me..and I said something about this on some racial boards.and pretty soon, two Jewish women got really really angry with me..and told me that I was anti-semitic by me just describing what the women were..so was I?
Help!!

thanks for your help.I didn't think that I was either! But, some women..God!! They just did NOT get what I was saying at all! ANd the more that I tried to explain..the more I stuck my foot deeper into a well!!
ARRGH!

these women I had told this to..it was on a racial board..and while they are usually supportive..and ironcially some of the AA women said things exactly in the same manner that I had said about my culture..and NOBODY came after them!!
But, I just said on the boards that I felt that THESE Jewish women were hurting my feelings.. I used to think that maybe I was racist towards my own race..but, I do NOT hate jews..I don't have much respect for SOME who happen to be Jewish..those of whom, DISrespect other Jews..that is what I have a huge beef about!! They can be rather "uppity" and I kid you not!!
But, no, I don't hate Jews...I don't even want to HATE either..because it is a sickness that grows..and infests and it is revolting!!
No thanks!!

Answer 1

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No, nothing you did or said at all was considered Anti-Semitic. The fact that you are employed at the JCC speaks for your character because if you disliked the Jewish population, you wouldn't be part of that community.

So let me try to explain it in other ways. I was raised Jewish, and Jews simply are protective of other Jews. If the issue was you being in the preschool and teaching the children, my guess is that those women might have felt you did not have the Jewish education to teach the children when it came down to the cultural aspects of Judaism. I'm also guessing this was either a Reform or Conservative JCC, because the comment from those ladies are typical of the stereotypical Jewish gaudy gossipy women. (Sadly to say, my mother is one of those kinds) You don;t find that kind of Jew in the Orthodox domain.

I personally would not have the religious background to teach in a Christian preschool, or any Christian school of that matter and I have been teaching for 12 years. My religious background and upbringing taught me Judaism. I'd try to join some of the adult classes that most JCC's offer to educate yourself a bit more about the faith, and DON'T worry about what those women said about you. Jewish women gossip-it's what they are good at when they can't be straightforward and say it to your face.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

I don't think you were wrong at all. I hear this type of thing happening all the time and it strikes me as if they were trying to get you out of your job because they had someone else lined up for it, like a member of their family. You say you "used to work at" - I sure hope you didn't quit your job over this because you have a case of discrimination on your hands and you would most likely win. Also defamation and slander! You simply cannot be called anti semitic if one of your parents is Jewish. I have just finished reading a book called "Overcoming Verbal Abuse" and it gives a lot of good advice for when people are verbally picking on you. Go to the library and look up the "Verbal Abuse" category and read some of the books. That way you can be ready for next time!
Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

No, how is that anti-Semitic? You didn't say anything bad about them, did you? What I thought was bad were the people who were saying you shouldn't be able to help out with the kids because you "weren't Jewish"...

I don't even have words for what I feel about this, but I think I know how you feel...(It has nothing to do with religion, but it's a long story.)

Answer 4

I am Jewish moms name is Felder so I feel ya. I have all sorts of parts and all make a person.
Once my grandmom was telling this lady where she lived and the lady said near all those old jewish women? And my grandmom pulled out her star of david necklace and said hi I am mrs felder,

Answer 5

First of all, the term "anti-semetic" is a phrase used by Jewsish people to harrass, intimate, and bully Americans & Westeners who correct them when they are wrong, racist, and illegal in any way.

Those women were rude and mean, and they were probably jealous of you for some reason. It was racsist of them to wish to get you fired because of your ethnicity.

Answer 6

You can't please everyone in life. No one will ever be totally happy with you all the time, regardless of your religion or heritage. Since the women were so snotty and spoke behind your back unprovoked, I would say you should stick around (let it continue to bug them) or move on where the people are more friendly and unbiased. I'd be tempted to say something back to them, but that's up to you. It's their problem, not yours.

Answer 7

Short of using racial slang to describe what religion or background a person is or comes from, I don't see how you can be at fault or naming what religion a person is.
Would help to link your former post to see if you wrote something by mistake that could be taken badly.

Answer 8

you were the one who got hurt right.... how could they judge you just like that?! they dont even know what really happened to you right.. you just described them right.... no you're not anti-semetic if you were then you should've never worked there in the first place right... why do they have to discriminate or hurt other of different race... fights always start from those kind of issues.. were all humans right... we should be respected the same like others.. what if they were in you position... then they would realize what they have done...

Answer 9

It sounds like they are trying to "exile" you from the preschool, i bet it has nothing to do with your faith.

They seem like the type that are going to do things then when you respond in any way will scream anti-sematism in order to further exile you.

My advise - Stop trying to explain it. Dont say anymore to those people. When approached about it say "im sorry you misunderstood my intentions."

Anything further will just give them more fuel.

If they continue to press anything agenst you in other ways ask "why are you trying to make me out to be some monster?"

id say ignore them, they just seem like the "better then you" types... there is nothing short of being inferior to them that will make them happy. Dont let them put you down, dont value their twisted interetations of you, and dont worry about it.

just try your best to do the right thing... and when describing anyone around them, try to use those peoples names... use sex, and rough age... (no religious prefernces, no race, nothing descriminating)


hope it helps

Answer 10

No. This is ridiculous. Some folks I reckon lay around coiled like some snake in the grass mindlessly lashing out at whatever might happen by. Helps them feel "important somehow.
(Ha hahhahaha Taze...loved it!)