Question Details: He called me up and said he wanted to 'celebrate' my 21st birthday with me. We met in town, and he walked me around town to look for a restaurant. In the end we settled on this cheap low end cafe and the food was disgusting. He did give me something thoughtful as a present however
When he called me out, it sounded as if it would be something more meaningful than a day without even planning ahead what restaurant to bring me to. Come on, it's my 21st. And because of what it sounded it would be, I turned down other people's offer to celebrate it for me on that day.
Or should I be the one holding a party for everyone? Even then, I feel so angry that I effectively had no 21st celebration.
I want to hold a 21-and-one-quarter birthday party. I feel so demeaned that I let this guy ruin the most significant birthday in my life. I see my friends and I celebrated with my friends in th ebest way possible fo
2007-11-09 15:28:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
he could have thought of some place nice to make reservations if he cared.
2007-11-09 15:40:32 · update #1
he could have thought of some place nice to make reservations if he cared.
2007-11-09 15:40:39 · update #2
sounds like you should be more appreciative to him. It's the thought that counted he obviously cared enough to take u out. You can be shallow and say because the food was bad at a cheap restaurant, or you can enjoy the time you spent with him. Sounds to me you need to grow up and quit being so artificial and yes I may get bashed but it's my opinion :)
2007-11-09 15:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? 21 is just a day. You had a birthday at 12, 16, 10 and 19. So it is just a day and you will have may more.
It is sort of shallow to say HE ruined your birthday. You chose to accept his invitation over others. You say "he walked you around". Are you unable to take control of your own life? Why didn't you suggest a place that you wanted to go?
You don't need to have a birthday to have a celebration. Go! Enjoy! Make a date with some friends to a place YOU want to go. Then just enjoy yourself. Seems silly to waste time agonizing about the past.
2007-11-09 15:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get over yourself. The point of celebrating with someone you care about is being with someone you care about. If this is the kind of thing you get angry about, a crappy date on your birthday, you need to either realize that you are not Queen of the world, or be prepared for an angry life. People, and life, seldom meets our expectations. We are responsible for our own happiness, on dates and in our lives as a whole.
You should give the 'thoughtful present' back is this is how you really feel.
2007-11-09 15:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bartmooby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that you're disappointed... -But I can't see anything that He "MADE" you do- against your Will. You CHOSE to go out with Him- & things didn't go so great. So HE'S the one to blame??! If it STILL "bugs" you THAT much- then have a BIG 21st Year Christmas Party- & arrange it the way YOU want it to be... (& if you're SMART, you'll invite that Guy who took you out for your Birthday-so that He SEES what a REAL Celebration is supposed to be like...). So Have a Happy "21.1" Birthday! :)
2007-11-09 15:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm yeah a recelebration would be a great idea. dont blame everything on your friend. you turned every offer down, he dint if you have excepted peoples offers and tell them youll eat at their party later in the day or at night or whenever then you would have had an awsome party, 2 places in 1 day, 3, 4, 5, or 6! i think youve learned a good lesson. happy [late] birthday. :]
2007-11-09 15:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lina ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you realize what? 21 is in basic terms an afternoon. You had a birthday at 12, sixteen, 10 and 19. So it relatively is in basic terms an afternoon and you will in all probability have would desire to greater. it relatively is style of shallow to assert HE ruined your birthday. you chosen to settle for his invitation over others. you're saying "he walked you around". Are you now no longer waiting to take administration of your man or woman existence? Why did now no longer you advise a place which you had to pass? you do now no longer would desire to desire to have a birthday to have a social accumulating. pass! take exhilaration in! Make a date with some buddies to a place you commit to pass. Then in basic terms take exhilaration in your self. looks stupid to waste time agonizing relating to the previous.
2016-10-15 23:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel. You can never get that day back. Most people go bar hopping so they can get there two free drinks. Others go to Vegas or Atlantic City. But you choose to be with "HIM". This "HIM" person is some one special to you by choosing him over others. If its the day you want back then go ahead with the party, but if its the time you spent with HIM you want to be better, then plan anthor day and do it right.
2007-11-09 15:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by The MO_Minator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh definitly. the real party is when you want to have it jsut put up a big 21st birthday sign. and have huge party 20 days later if u want( thats kind of pushing it) and now that your 21(although im sure youve done this) you can leagely get smashed!
2007-11-09 15:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋