Losing your virginity at 14?

Question

thoughts on it?...

the guy thats interested in me lost his, and he knows i dont want to, but he did it all the time with his ex bf and i dont know what to do.

the guy thats interested in me had sex all the time with his ex gf at this age, and he knows i dont want to and i dont know what to do

Answer 1

Mady,
Please think about this. If you don't want to have sex with him then don't and stick to it. He only wants sex and that's it.
He does not care about you or your feelings. You are only 14 and way too young to have sex. There is a lot to worry about,
pregnancy and diseases. Please don't give yourself to him.
♥HUGS♥ Nicole

Answer 2

Not proud, but that's when I lost mine. I really thought the guy loved me as much as I loved him. HOW embarrassing looking back. I'm 38 years old now. At the time I was crushed, it's all he wanted, and I was not ready for the emotional hurt- because I thought he cared , he was 16. I didn't have sex for 2 years- that's how bad it hurt me. However, looking back- LOVE at 14- please! I think people should want until they are emotional ready to handle an adult act. Also, ending up, I didn't have a period for 3 months- after this 14 year old thing- got back to my parents, I could be pregnant. To be honest that was the hardest part- they trusted me- and I had sex in their house, when boys were not allowed over unless they were home, more than once.- with that same guy.

Answer 3

Boy, I've seen a lot of false information here. To whomever said the female body can't orgasm at age 14 is dead wrong. Where are you getting your facts from?

If I were you, I'd talk with your boyfriend about the fact that you don't want to have sex with him right now. There is nothing wrong with not being ready.

However, if you decide you are ready, without pressure from him, check into the laws of your state. States vary on the age thresholds and differences that would constitute statutory rape. And as always, practice safer sex...use a condom or some other method of STD prevention. Getting pregnant is definitely not the worst thing that you can get from having sex.

Answer 4

I think there is a difference between "losing" your virginity and giving it up. The circumstances surrounding that could play a big part on whether or not society would frown upon it. I personally believe that 14 is too young to have sexual relationships, because when you're that age, you usually are not ready for anything that could result from that intercourse. Such as a child. But as I said before, the circumstances play a big role.

And if your boyfriend is man at all, he will respect you all the more for it. But chances are, if he's not willing to wait, or willing to commit to a long-term relationship, he's not worth your time...or your virginity for that matter. If all he is looking for in you, is to have sex with you, he is most definitely worth your time! Stay strong girl! Don't give in to him.

Answer 5

I am 14.. and my best friend lost it at 12. 2 of my other friends lost it at 14. I believe this is very irresponsible and stupid. I have the oppertunity to have sex.. but I'm not going to take it. I am going to remain a virgin until I am married. I believe that is the best thing to do. I know a lot of people who lose it too soon regret it later on in life. I highly suggest that if you're still a virgin, you should hold on to it. People respect virgins alot more. Also, most girls who have sex when they're young end up being washed up tramps. I come from a Christian family, so I am going to maintain the morals of my religion. I value myself, and a guy has to be VERY special to take one gift God gave me. Virginity is purity--and it's very rare these days. You want to know what's sad? Sex is all over the TV.. and it's like a messed up trend. People think you're cool if you have sex. You are actually very naive and stupid. In fact, most sex hormones aren't even developed until your 20s. 14 year olds are WAYY too young to be having sex. That's all there is to it.
So get yourself a pretty little commitment/purity ring, like me, and keep yourself pure until you're married.
That's the best gift you can give your husband.
You'll be glad you kept it in the long run.
--♥Cheers

Answer 6

You know what? I've lost my virginity at 13 years old.
Do you know what you are loosing? If you loose it you will never
get it back what so ever. Sometimes I just wish that I could have lost it with someone special. Hon, it is your choice is he worth it?
Think hard, because you may think that he is, but just really think.
If anything ever happened, would he make a commitment? Probably not depending on how old he is.

Answer 7

I've known several now adult women who lost their virginity at 14 - or younger. Pretty much all regret it. In contrast, those who lost their viriginity at 16, 17, 18, etc. tend not to regret it. There's a lot of responsibility that goes along with sex. Most people mention STDs, pregnancy, etc., but the emotional impact is often overlooked.

I'd say wait another year or so. The average age for American girls is 16 or 17, so it's not like you'd be a freak for waiting.

Answer 8

Well, I lost mine at 13 and I have no regrets at all. You have to have a first time so you can enjoy all the following times. As for your situation, losing it for that reason probably isn't the best idea. You need to be ready and decide based on what's right for you.

Answer 9

I'm not going to be judgmental about this like some. We may have bigger brains and have higher level thinking, but we are still animals. And when you hit puberty, you have become an adult and are fully capable of reproduction. Our world puts artificial constraints on what is an adult. In the animal kingdom, once you are able to reproduce, you are an adult. And when you hit puberty, the drive to reproduce as strong as it will ever be. That is how we evolved, that is what nature required to ensure the survival of the human species.

However, we are no longer living on the plains of Africa, struggling for survival with each day of our existence. Our species has evolved technologically and intellectually, the biological drives are the same as they were hundreds of thousands of years ago. The reality of the situation is that you are not a "legal" adult. You most likely lack the education or means to raise a child, which is what reproduction is all about.

Having sex at 14 may feel good, but the sole purpose is to make babies. I repeat, SEX IS DESIGNED TO MAKE BABIES. Unless you are ready to deal with the consequences, then I suggest that you proceed with EXTREME caution.

First, become educated about human reproduction. I suggest contacting Planned Parenthood. Don't listen to your friends about what can or cannot happen if you have sex. You need FACTS. The consequences are too real and too difficult to deal with if you don't get the facts.

Second, use a realiable method of birth control. Do not rely on your boyfriend "pulling out early," or any other urban legend. The fact is that if he puts his penis in you, you can get pregnant. If you do not take measures to prevent pregnancy, odds are you will get pregnant.

Third, protect yourself against sexually-transmitted diseases. All it takes is one time. There is a list of diseases, from herpes to gonorrhea to HIV, that you can get from sexual contact. Protect yourself. Don't take your partner's word that he's "clean." You can be a carrier for many diseases without any symptoms. Protect yourself!

You have only one life, so don't take any unnecessary chances. You are 14! You have your whole life ahead of yourself, so don't let a moment of passion lead to a lapse in judgment. A lapse in judgment could lead to difficult times at best, and a fatal disease at worst.

Sex is a beautiful, wonderful thing. It is a pleasurable and spiritual experience. I hope that when you have sex it is wonderful and fulfilling, and that you enjoy it with all your heart and soul.

However, we live in a world that is complex. Simply being able to reproduce doesn't necessarily mean we should. Our economic environment and the health consequences pose significant problems if you do not proceed carefully with sexual relations.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Don't do it. It's a dumb decision and it will hurt you the rest of your life. Even though lots of people call it a one night stand, it lasts more than a night. You'll always know, no matter how much you want to forget. And this guy, if he's trying to pressure you into it, leave him!! You already know you don't want to, he knows, and if he can't respect that, it's not worth it.

Answer 11

I think a lot of young people are curious. They see sex on tv, movies, and hear about it all over songs. They want to see what all the fuss is about. I don't think it is a good thing for anyone to think about sex that young. Any time you have sex there is potential for diseases (not everyone is honest, even people you think you can trust) and mistakes can happen, and babies are the real deal. Not to mention, people talk, and soon many people will know that the young person had sex and will judge them for it. Every person I know who was sexually active at a young age regrets it.