he has a 48 hour limit on the time he wants to spend with me. Also, he is adamently against residing with anyone in the future as well as marriage (he is 42 and has never been married). I feel as though any future with him is out of the question. Am I overracting?
2007-11-09 14:51:06 · 37 answers · asked by yvetta2203 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been married , but I am still only 35 and I don't wish to live alone .
2007-11-09 15:38:53 · update #1
I want to leave the doors of possibility ajar , not completely closed.
2007-11-09 15:41:25 · update #2
I appreciate all of your anwers tonight! Kudos to each and everyone!
2007-11-09 15:46:22 · update #3
there is nothing wrong with you
him on the other hand has some issues!
2007-11-09 14:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you would one day like to be married and settled then No you are not overreacting. As wonderful as the man may be, if you do not have the same ideas about the future than do yourself a favor and find a different wondeful guy that does.
I mean you really have to ask yourself.. Do I want to be married? And if the marriage is not so important do you want to live by yourself forever ? Can you settle for a 48 hour time limit forever? I know I sure wouldnt and I doubt you would either.
2007-11-09 14:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by tru_dymond 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're not overrating. That is a very peculiar situation. I imagine that he does not want to be crowded and feels like being with someone after 48 hours starts to invade on their space. I don't see how the two of you would have a future honestly. Does he think he is gonna go stay at a hotel every two days? This kind of thinking just doesn't work when trying to have a future with someone (especially marriage). You should talk to him about it, ask him why he's like this and ask him why does he want to be like that during marriage, discuss any alternatives and if he still doesn't budge, I'm sorry you've got to go, either that or be happy having a husband who doesn't want to be with you for longer than 48 hours at a time
He could also be cheating
2007-11-09 15:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by First Lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a 48 hour time limit?? Are you serious??? So he wants you around long enough to sleep with you, but not long enough that you'll get too comfy with him - what a selfish jerk. If he is "adamently against" residing with or marrying anyone, what the hell else is there as far as a future goes - a long-term bootie-call?? Kick him to the curb unless this is okay with you, but at his age he's not going to change.
2007-11-09 14:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by Flusterated 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Madam,
I think you need to kept back with your emotions.
Guys will come and go especially like the one you said.
He may have many last time and will have many in the future.
I know such peoples and they will act as very intimate while in the relation and will simply drop you easly leaving sorrows to you.
I am not telling you not to trust him but be aware and if you are feeling that your are overacting it may be true as you yourself is feeling it. Keep it low and don;'t show over emotions or attachment to him.
Thanks for the question and Hope I have helped you a little.
2007-11-09 14:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
Move on...this guy has absolutely no plans to commit in any relationship... or at least with you. From your description, you are probably just someone who can fit into his free slot of 48hours in his pre-planned schedule.
As a 42 year old who has never been married, he will probably stay unmarried for the rest of his life.
Overreacting?? Definitely not! Dump him and find a better man!
2007-11-09 14:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by Noah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At his age, he is rather set in his ways.
A 48 hour limit could mean a lot of things, but its not likely to change.
Being against living with someone or getting married is also not likely to change.
If you stick with him, you know the "rules" and you have to be prepared to accept those rules - he isn't going to change without a LOT of work and possible heartache for you.
2007-11-09 14:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that's the kind of relationship you want, then it's a good thing. I know a couple who have lived 4 blocks apart for 20 years. They are exclusive, but aren't comfortable with each other for more and a day or two at a time.
It work for them.
2007-11-09 14:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dan H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has given you his profile. If you can't appreciate what he wants without asking for more, take your candy away from him and go home. There are others in the world that can fit into your lifestyle. Learn to think for yourself and don't let some man do your thinking for you. This guys has told you that he wants to dance with every girl who will let him, but he does not want to pay the fiddler.
2007-11-09 15:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by ernesto_rodriguez2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is 42 and has decided what he wants to do in life and how he wants to do it. People can not be changed nor should they be changed. If you feel that this is not how you want to live your life with him then it is time to move on. Life is to short to be wasting time on something you already know. Good Luck! Happy Living!
2007-11-09 22:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are definitely not overreacting. I kinda can understand the 48hr thing - he needs his space, blah blah blah. But the fact that he is so against living with anyone does not seem cool for you. You shouldn't have to give that up. Tell him that it's a deal breaker for you and maybe he'll consider changing his mind.
2007-11-09 14:55:08 · answer #11 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋