what's your gut reaction when someone you've known for a good long while turns out to be completely different than how you've always perceived them? does it make you wonder 'have they hit their head in a fall or something?', or do you ask yourself 'how could i have been so naive/gullible/blind?' how does your faith influence or temper your reaction? before i found Christ, i always figured 'the other person' was just some kind of jerk who had been successful in hiding their real nature...now i wonder if my perception and desire to look for the good in people has, at times, clouded my better judgment. has anyone else experienced this?
2007-11-09 13:36:37 · 10 answers · asked by spike missing debra m 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
boles-thanks for the laff!
2007-11-09 14:06:43 · update #1
Sure. Even when I don't feel like it, I MAKE myself give people the benefit of the doubt. That's grace. I try to be as open and honest as possible and I expect the same from others. That's the Golden Rule.
Sometimes I'm disappointed and even hurt personally. On the other hand, some people who've proven to me that they're not to be trusted have come around with time, patience and love.
Wouldn't BE love if they were all easy to love and trust. And if they were all that perfect, they probably wouldn't want anything to do with me.
2007-11-09 13:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by r_moulton76 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you would have known me before I found Christ then know me now. You would know just by seeing the difference in the 2 mees you would know just how Christ can change a person. I'm still not perfect I have some rough edges still but I know Christ changed me. Because of where I came from I make no judgements against nobody. There is nobody as bad as I was.
2007-11-09 13:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tommiecat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have experienced this. We had someone who pretended to be a strong leader, and his wife also. Then they changed, and are no longer following along with what they first came 11 years ago. We were all fooled. We all try to see the good in people, but sometimes we just don't pay attention to the bad, and we are fooled. That is why the Bible says to beware of wolves in sheep's clothing. We need to stay alert to the truth.
2007-11-09 13:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by salvation 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the situation. If you are seeing something immoral and sinful in somebody you need to keep your distance no matter how close they are. You as a christian have the responsibility to God to not involve yourself. That's not saying you don't love this person but you have to love God first and foremost. You do end up seing people in a different light but don't find yourself in the spot of judging them. God is the only judge. You can explain why you can't be involved with this person and they may not have the best reaction but don't fear them, fear God.
2007-11-09 13:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mamamia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they do no longer look to be fullyyt sturdy, yet 9 situations out of 10 i could say following your gut instincts is generally the nicely suited direction. seems such as you may desire to take a seat down and have a severe chat along with her so which you be responsive to precisely what is going on and the place you stand.
2016-10-15 23:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel really hurt that someone I thought was a friend had deceived me, and I wonder why he/she didn't tell me the truth.
My situation involved a guy who let me think he cared, vut he used me for money to buy drugs, tried to slip a drug into a coke that he brought to me (which I did not drink because "something" told me not to do so), and then stopped taking any calls from me after I'd given him $200 for what I THOUGHT was to help a friend. It turned out he used it to buy crack.
2007-11-09 14:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by batgirl2good 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I learned in communications class that we form an opinion of a person the first seconds we meet them. Usually it takes a lot for us to change our opinion once we have made it. I try hard to see a person as they are.
2007-11-09 13:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by Fish <>< 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since everyone is a sinner, you have to at least consider the possibility that, every person is capable of letting you down, no matter who they are.
Only Jesus is perfectly faithful. Sinful man can't do it
2007-11-09 13:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
oh yeah, this has happened to me too, but I continue to respect them and do good to them realizing that if not for the grace of God there goes I.
2007-11-09 13:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're Christian and you are surprised when you realize you have been "naive, gullible and blind"? How ironic.
2007-11-09 13:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 11⤋