Muslims....weddings?

Question

Salaam fellow Muslims,

a question about Muslim weddings. I know they are different depending on where you're from, so tell me what is a typical Muslim wedding like where you come from?
Where I come from, they are very similar to a hindu wedding ceremony. This includes booking a grand venue, posh cars, lots of dressing up, music, dancing and the bride sitting in a 'doli' (click on the link if you don't know what a doli is)
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Personally I don't like all this because it has nothing to do with Islam. It is all based on a hindu wedding ceremony. Why are we copying non believers?? It's not right. If it was up to me, I would be happy to have a simple Nikkah ceremony, keep it all short, sweet and ISLAMIC.

Answer 1

the nikkah ceremonies i have been to are as follows:
-------bride on one side groom on the other
-------quiet
-------imam talks, makes a few jokes, no one really laughs
-------short i must say (i was in my cousins "traditional american" wedding i was about to pass out from standing for soo long)
-------modest, no: you may now kiss the bride
-------to the point, i guess you can say


i am just saying what happens from the spectators point of view

the recpetion was another story altogether......if you know what i mean

Answer 2

We here in Tanzania do the wedding a lot like in India but there is also a mixture of European wedding. Usually there is mehndi party one day before before the nikah and then there are few other rasm which is typical to Hindus the second day there is a dinner party which is with cake cutting as the Europeans do. As you say even here there is a lot of posh items, dressing up etc.

If you want to get a fruit full married life then follow the sunnah of the Prophet that is Nikah and a simple Lunch

Answer 3

Salaam Alaykum, I attended a very colorful Pakistani wedding lots of food and the bride Jasmine is the daughter
of the siters very active in the Mosque. The turn out was huge she had a beautiful red dress her husband in white they shared some sweets and everbody threw gifts of money from the groom's side and she kept her answer as her friends laughed and asked for more..she agreed when it was when they said ok! Great wedding she was beautiful and had henna perfectly apllied to her...yes this was a Muslim wedding not hindi but there is some similarities. We were seperated by a screen men on one side women to the other and lots of food. No dancing though Wasalaam

Answer 4

I live in kuwait and weddings in my country are really different than yours. I will tell u how:
First the girls have a different place than boys.
There is a band or a singer singing(not at all weddings).
Im sure ur asking where boys are but boys enter in the middle maybe on 6 or 4 it depends on the person, at the same time girls will not dance in front of boys so they all sit and they wear there hijab or a jacket because maybe a man passes by and thats haram a man sees a girl like this after that in 5 min the bride comes in and she sit next to her husband in the chair after every body settles the go for dinner.
Hope that helps!

Answer 5

In India too now a days Muslims are performing marriages in a Islamic ways, that is Nikkah ceremony only.

Answer 6

in malaysia we follow the arabic + indian

1: The Nikkah
2: The real wedding
3: We dont drive the bride.. we walk them..
4: The feast is twice as longer than the actual wedding..
5: WE give gifts as a token of thanks
6: We sometimes want to do posh weddings..

Posh weddings are not wrong.. Whats wrong with wanting a grand wedding?

Answer 7

Salam

Last time I went to one I felt like when Moses came down and he found them in terrible transgression and they where worshiping the cow. I don't know anymore what is a muslim wedding. You will need to go to the desert for that, I have yet to see the weddings of the Hadith take place as such in this earth today unless you are living with nomads.

Answer 8

oh you sound like from paksitan. i am from paksitan, so same ceremonies that you mentioned. big waste of time having so many events and people dont really care about punctuality too. there are three days, mehndi, nikkah and valima. according to islam, there should be only two days for this event, the nikkah and the valima. mehndi is copied from the hindu culture, quite a shame but everybody do it. only a very few dont do mehndi.

Answer 9

This is more a matter of culture rather than religion. Customs differ region- wise, but the religious ceremony is the same. The number of functions you have and austerity or otherwise depends upon you. India and Pakistan share the same culture.

Answer 10

im from pakistani origin and our weddings are exactly like you describe them heavily influenced by hindus.last year we went to pakistan where our brother got married and had a big lavish wedding and mendhi ceromny there was dancing music and it was really bad islamically.

four years ago we went to saudia arabia where my other brother got married mashallah that was so cool as both my family and my sister-in-laws family we travelled from uk to saudia.we did a simple nikah and went out for a meal in a restaurant and that was it .plus we had the pleasure of doind umrah and seeing the holy places it was amazing

inshallah now my youngest brother is planning on getting married and we are trying to persuade him to do it in saudia as well.although our pakistani community do not approve *** they want something lavish and extravagant to talk about
but you cannever make everybody happy so thats it

im divorced and inshallah when i do get married again i would like just a simple ceromony at the mosque thats it.i believe how simple the wedding is you gey more barakah from allah in your relationship