I'm a bisexual girl and i have a boyfriend who i've been with for 3 years now. He's somewhat abusive to me (doesn't actually hit anymore, just pinches and twists my arms back alot) and he neglects me alot. He's always focused on his cars more than anything.. including me. He's never gotten me flowers or anything unless i've hinted it to him.. and he acts like it's a chore. I'm too wound up in our relationship to let him go though.. i love him. But there's a girl who i've recently met. She's so great, we've only been seeing eachother for a week now and she's already bought me 3 necklaces & a life size teddy bear. She calls me every single night just to say goodnight, and she always makes sure her touch is soft and sweet. I don't think it's right because it's cheating, but i want a break from the relationship i'm in with my guy... and he knows about her. All he's said is he wants a threesome. But it still feels wrong. What should i do and what are your opinions on this??
2007-11-09 12:44:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The way I see it, you don't have a quandary here.
Dump the guy.
2007-11-09 12:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You have quite a bit going on there don't you. Well, for starters why would you stay with this guy to begin with..it doesn't sound so great to me. My guess is you have this pattern with men for some reason. It will be hard, no doubt, but you need to get away. If he is "somewhat abusive" now it will only get worse. You deserve to have someone who treats you nice and respects you...gifts or no gifts. After all, that doesn't make a relationship work...mutual effort does and it sounds like you are putting in way more than you are getting back!
Now is the time to just be done with it. I think you will find that you are much happier with this new girl...or even happy by yourself.
2007-11-09 20:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by I love my pug! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him and give this girl a chance. I f that doesn't work take more time in picking your next relationship. I know people always go after the most hottest thing but when the hotness wears away you have to deal with the person. For most people personality always becomes the problem. Pick out someone better who you feel you are truly compatible with instead of settling for second best. It takes more time but it's worth it ;)
2007-11-09 20:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alisa its time for u to move on...come on...that guy treats u like 'one of his old furniture'!!!
Tell me Alisa, whats not right-that a woman treats u like a beautiful Goddess that u r or a man who hurts u whenever he feels like it!!!
No,this is not easy for u or fair for that matter but please take the rite step!!! And as for him wanting a trio-just say no!!!
Because what u guys(u and that girl) r feeling fr each other now, should be just between the 2 of u-special and mind blowing!!!
Alisa i sincerely hope u will make the rite choice and get through this safely.....please keep us informed.
Good luck!!!!!!!!
2007-11-12 17:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by Notsure 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He just wanted a threesome form the get go i bet and thats all he ever cared about. hes just not worth it ya know. he dosent even care that your with some one esle as long as hes geting so action.
2007-11-11 09:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by Theophena W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't care if you get with the girl or not, but you should definitely ditch your boyfriend. No one deserves to be treated like that.
2007-11-09 20:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by WordNerd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the guy sounds like a jerk. break up with him then go out with me and then we can have a threesome with your friend
give me an email zooleat@yahoo.com :)
2007-11-09 20:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u truley feel this way you should break up with ur boyfriend and just go for this girl
2007-11-09 20:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by CinderAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No questions about it leave him. if your more happier with your gilr leave him and done look back. asap
2007-11-11 11:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by Cutie Pie 10 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to let him go... if hes abusive he is not worth it
2007-11-09 20:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋