why do you have to marry so you can have sex?

Question

why is it so wrong to have sex and not being married? why is god so against this?

Answer 1

God gives some important advice to those who are tempted to commit fornication or adultery. In this age of sexual stimulation and lust, it is invaluable to heed this advice if you would enter into the Kingdom of God and eternal life. God says: "flee sexual immorality" (1 Corinthians 6:18). He does not say to let your mind dwell on honoring sexual ideas or desires. He does not say to place yourself alone with another person’s mate or with a single person with whom you might be sexually tempted. He does not say to watch movies or television or read books that wrongly stimulate the sexual appetite. God does say to get as far away from these things as you possibly can! He says to run—flee—away from temptation to sexual sin.
Sex is not a toy to be played with and experimented with. It should be regarded as a God-given blessing in the holy and sacred marriage union that the Creator Himself has ordained. It should always be thought of with reverence, and as an expression of unselfish love in a Christian union that pictures the everlasting faithfulness of Christ and His Church! This generation needs desperately to learn the lesson of lasting faithfulness in marriage and in the home! It needs to obey both the letter and the spirit of God’s seventh commandment: "You shall not commit adultery" (Exodus 20:14).

Answer 2

Sex is normal and natural. Man created god to put rules in place so everybody would tow the line, and mind, real good.
No, it is not wron, Sex is a great and wonderful thing to be enjoyed, by consenting adults.
Adults who choose to have sex, and use protection against STD's, and unwanted pregnancy? Those are responsible people.
If a man or a woman, wants to grill a future mate, on the eligibility requirements, of not having 'been 'with someone else? Well, anyone who asks me, about my past? NOYB. Just as their life before me, is NOMB.
If a virgin wants a virgin, date at church, and not out in the real world, where it doesn't matter.

Answer 3

Actually, nature designed sex for procreation. You don't have to be married to have sex, but the theory behind it is that if you are in a stable relationship, there will be two people to lovingly raise any children that would result from that sex. I sincerely hope that if there is a god of some sort, it's not watching what I do in the bedroom, or else I'm in big trouble. ; )

Answer 4

God wanted marriage to be a like a contract because God knows the future and he wanted the children to grow up with an identity. If you have children out of marriage then your desendants will have a very difficult time researching their family history. Decades from now children will not know where their lineage is or who exactly there great grand parents are. The religous waring going on now is from Abraham having a son by a servant that God didnt want him to have

Answer 5

Commitment is a part of it. Think of the people who have sex and how often they stay together over time (not that often). It is harmful to share that bond and be split - and for many over and over.
With marriage you commit for life (hopefully) and the assurance of giving yourself is there in many ways, including sex.
God knows what he is doing - he doesn't make just make rules to make life less fun for us - it actually prevents hurt and harm. How many people do you know that take all the gifts of married life without being married, and are walking around wounded? If you are like me, you know alot of people.
It is amazing to me how our culture has completely lost this in order to please themselves, and even hurt themselves.

Answer 6

Marriage was designed to protect women and children, back then women were not allowed to work and could not support themselves and their children without a man.

Today, we no longer need protecting as we can care for the children that we choose to have on our own.

So if we want to have sex with you without marrying you - we can.

I don't know what you're going to do....

Answer 7

sex is not a sport as it is celebrated
it is a gift within the confines of the marriage covenant
To know why God is against this practice of fornication is to simply look at society and its disintergrated moral fabric

Answer 8

I think it's fine to have sex before marriage as long as both parties are mature enough and prepared for it and wear protection (condoms!) or they are ready for the consequences like pregnancy.

Answer 9

Because sex outside of marriage is meaningless. it just serves ones self and it often in the long run is hurtful. It is an emotionaly hurtful thing and even if youve hardened your to the point that you dont feel it the other person does.

"My son to my wisdom be attentive to my knowledge incline your ear,
that discretion may watch over you and understanding may gaurd you,
the lips of an adulteress drip with honey, ane her mouth is smoother than oil;
But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, as sharp as a two edged sword. Her feet go down to death to the nether world her steps attain.
Lest you see before you the road to life, her paths will ramble you know not where.
So now O children liten to me, do not go astray from the words of my mouth. Keep your way away far from her, aproach not the door of her house, lest you give your honr to othersand your years to a merciless one; lest strangers have their fill of your wealth, your hard-won earinings go to an aliens house; And you will groan in the end when your flesh and your body are consumed; and you say 'Oh why did i hate instruction, and my heart spurn reproof! Why did I not listen to the voice of my teachers, nor to my instructors incline my ear!
I have all but come to utter ruin condemed by the public assembly!'

Drink water from your own cistern running water from your own well. how may your water sources be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Lwt your fountain be yours alone, not shared with strangers. And have the joy of your wife in your youth, your lovely hind, your graceful doe. Her love will invigorate you always through her you will flourish continualy, When you lie down she will watch over you, and when wake she will share your concerns; wherever you turn she will guid you. Why then my son should you go astray for anothers wife and accept the embraces of an adultress? For each mans ways are plain to the LORDs sight; all their paths he surveys; by his own iniquities the wicked man will be caught, in the meshes of his own sin he will be held fast; He will die from lack of discipline, through the greatness of his folly,
he will be lost"

Answer 10

Let me ask you a question. Do you want your wife to have slept with a bunch of guys? If you answer no - then why do you think you can defile other men's future wives? Just a do unto others as you would have them do to you response.