I really need help on this my child is not listening to me and wants to go out to partys and how can i know that she is doing okay? Its getting me worried i'm just afriad shes going to get hurt. Please Help.
2007-11-09 12:31:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You're the parent, right? Say NO and mean it. No, you probably can't physically restrain her, by law. But you CAN follow her and go wherever she goes...lol Don't be afraid to make your kids mad at you. Do your job as a parent. You're not supposed to be their best friend. You're supposed to keep them safe and alive. Don't let her set the rules. You do it and stick to your guns. She will thank you one day. Good judgment does not finish developing in the human brain until around age 25, according to research I've read about on PBS. You're the adult and until she is 18, you have the final say whether she stays or goes.
However, you must be reasonable and pick your battles. Have rules. No homework done? No party. Bad grades? No parties until they improve. Bad attitude, being a slob? No parties until they treat people and property decently. Etc. Good luck!
2007-11-09 12:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by ViSaja 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are trying to get through to her all she hears is whining after a while.You sound abit over protective 'child'..ok I know shes your baby but shes a teen now dont try & stop her from doing what she wants she will rebel,and you should probably let her go to party's but teach her about safe sex and everyting and put a reasonable curfew of about 11:00. How old is she?why would she get hurt?Tell her you need to know exactly were she's going & who with.
2007-11-10 16:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holding children accountable for their actions will help them resist negative peer pressure. Your consistency in disciplining them, when necessary, will give them the needed strength to turn down trouble invitations.
When your children do something wrong that is serious or a repeat misbehavior, then a consequence is generally warranted. Last month we discussed some discipline ideas. Once you’ve decided on a consequence that “matches” the severity of the misbehavior, state it to the child in one sentence:
Learn more about 1 sentence disciplne here
http://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/peerpressure/sentence1-discipline.html
Great column to help you better parent tweens and teens
2007-11-09 13:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Geraldine J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the other post you said that you are 22 and want to get pregnant so how is it that you have a child that wants to go out and party? I'm sure a newborm to 5 yrs old have no desire tot "go out and party"! You are such a cornball!
2007-11-09 13:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sariyah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-06 10:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 14 myself and trust me, I know that u sayin NO really doesnt mean that much if u dont back it up. Sometimes when she asks to go somewhere tell her no, and say u r leavin and wont be bak for a while. I guarentee u if u sit sumwhere nearby and she thinks u r gone, it wont be long til u c her leave. We r pretty smart but u r 2. Jus dont be TOO overprotective. Me personally, my conscious will kill me if i lie, but i know all about it. lol. But show her u trust her
2007-11-09 13:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by â?¥Mz_Kim_2Uâ?¥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant trust her, you cant leave her unattended.
Teenagers are adults in training- she has to be supervised. IT doesnt mean she wont though fits, rebel, and act like you're evil and her life is over.
If you want her to be a functional member of society you need to step up and be her parent. If it means keeping her home and making her see the value of it, do it.
Whats more important? Your feelings or her life? Be the parent, do what it takes.
2007-11-09 12:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to tighten the boundaries and be consistent. But you really should have started a lot earlier. When children don't have to listen to their parents when they are younger, they don't listen when they are older.
2007-11-09 13:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree lay a good spanken on her and show her you mean business, or call the cops on her. Its best to be the "bad parent" then her to get pregnant or raped, or god knows what else. My mother did that to me but now that i look back she had to i was in my own little world and i thought I could do whatever i wanted in life.
2007-11-09 13:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by marie76444 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes a child ears get clogged..
You have to unclog them.
I found by putting them across your knee and
smacking the butt a few times, loosens the ear wax.
2007-11-09 13:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋