Could you be obsessed or addicted to talking to a school counselor. I feel like everyday i have to go and talk to him. we had some pretty bad family problems that he helped me with. but now i cant stop going to see him.
he listens and gives me attention. i dont get that at home or with my friends. im the outsider all the time when it comes to hanging out. i never feel like i belong when we hang out. i feel uncomfertable in my own skin.
could there still be something bugging me about the family problems or am i just using him to get attention?
2007-11-09 11:55:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
what you are going through is called transference---you are using your counselor to get help or attention as you say. You sound young in age because at a certain age teenagers or young adults are seeking out to belong and get a sense of identity---you feel uncomfortable because they are not the type of people you are like. Family issues do create a lot of emotional issues; if you feel that you are still in need of help seek therapy at a local church--sometimes they have counseling sessions fro a very low price or even for free, I know because that is what I do--help others deal with life.
2007-11-09 12:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lifeline 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, talk to him about it. I know the feeling of becoming dependent on the listener. I do therapy every other week and I find it has just become part of my life. Been doing it just over a year. You get used to having someone who listens and helps with their own words. I do approach it in like a professional manner, so I don't feel obsessed but do feel a bit dependent on it. At some point you will have to go it alone. Can't keep going forever. lol. Keep that in mind that it will come to an end and you should be okay. I think you and your counselor will know when it is time to move on.
2007-11-09 20:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're "addicted" to talking to a school counselor. I think you are seeking positive attention and he's been giving it to you so you want to keep talking to him. It's totally normal. Everyone needs it. I think you may feel better if you tell him how you're feeling. I think he'll understand. He may also be able to help you figure out how to reach out to other people in your life.
2007-11-09 20:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by abbasgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as stupid as it seems, you should talk to him about it. You may be sub-consciously seeking attentio from him because he is the only one is your life who listens to you, but remember how lucky you really are to have a roof overhead, food to eat and shoes on your feet. Some people don't have that so be greatful for what you have and if you still arent sure try cutting back on your visits and go and patch things up with family and friends.
2007-11-09 20:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a bit of both. Although it doesn't sound like bad attention seeking like cuttong yourself or something. I think you really want someone to be there for you, which is fair enough, especially at your age and with your circumstances.
Hope everything turns out ok. :)
2007-11-09 20:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a good compassionate man and it's good that he is helping you. Is he a father figure for you? That's not a bad thing. He will let you know, if you are wearing out your welcome, but maybe you should ease up a little, if YOU believe that you're taking undue advantage of him. Have you discussed those particular feelings with him? You should.
2007-11-09 20:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by TatersPop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it.
2007-11-09 19:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋