Ok, I work at an after-school program for an Asian American community and quite frank I'm not used to their customs and habits. These kids are literally petrified about not finishing their homework on time and say that they will get "beaten" if they don't. Another kid told me that if she doesn't get higher than a 95 on every test that she gets beat by her parents. I don't know if I should report this because to me it is abuse but I was told not to because the supervisor said that "that's the Asian way to handle school" What bull.
One kid even got in trouble because he did more work than what was told. He said that his mother made him do more work than what was assigned because she felt that he needed to learn more and the teacher was wondering why he went ahead and did everything wrong. The supervisor mentioned that the Asians are told to do more work than expected and never stop.
Does anyone have any experience with Asian tradition here? What should I do about this?
2007-11-09 11:45:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My husband's father was Asian and he never raised and hand to his chilldren for any reason.
Child abuse is child abuse and if people move to another country they have to follow the laws of their new country. Tradition is no excuse.
Sadly it seems your supervisor is too concerned with respecting culture than respecting the right's of children. If you go ahead and report this you are unlikely to get any support and you will be risking your job. Only you can decide if it's worth it.
2007-11-09 18:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by freebird 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some Asian parents spank their kids as a form of enforcing discipline. That does not mean that they carry this practice to an extreme, most parents do it genuinely with the concern of doing good for their children and with the hope that kids will respect the importance of education and eventually will go on to do well in life. If the child starts exhibiting signs of severe physical abuse, it may be time to report the parents, else, it would be best to let things be.
2007-11-09 12:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asians excel because they believe learning is the key to advancement, which of course it is. They do not take it lightly and expect their children to work hard and do more. We have lived in areas with a high Asian population and I have never heard of the kids being beaten for not achieving and many of the mothers in my neighborhood were volunteers in their schools. You may have an issue here but it could be a language issue. The best way to find out is to have a PTA meeting with a concentration on the cultural differences.
2007-11-09 11:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lot of Asian college students crumbled under pressure to achieve and committed suicide. It's true Asian parents really push their kids. Well assimilated parents tend not to. I doubt the kids get "beaten up" but am not surprised if they get grounded for not having good grades. And if they get a poor mark or comment from the school, oh boy .... If you interfere, the parents may complain to your boss and you kiss your job goodbye. Don't worry! These kids will survive. It's just that some of them will grow up without good childhood memory.
2007-11-09 12:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm Asian. My parents did what you describe. This behavior is just a form of teaching and discipline. Maybe you could try to understand, don't let it go overboard and talk to the parents. Asians are not taught to say "NO" especially to their parents and elders.
2007-11-09 12:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should climb out of your hole and actually get a life. if you want something then go get it. whining on here only makes you look more of a loser.
2016-05-29 00:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by nakita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should mind your own business.
2007-11-09 11:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋