while visiting my mother, I noticed several relative just open the door and walk in. They didn't knock or ring the door bell they just walked in like they live in the house. I'm wrong or is the really rude?
2007-11-09 11:43:23 · 17 answers · asked by Cindy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My mom has stated to me that she doesn't like it and my sister and I who live next door still ring the bell and knoc before entering and we have keys.
2007-11-09 11:58:32 · update #1
At first I was going to say, if your mother allows it, then I guess it's ok, but you said she doesn't like it. She could make a joke when they come in, like "Geez, doesn't anyone knock anymore...?" Or, she could lock the door. OR, to be blunt with it, she could put a "PLEASE KNOCK" sign on her door. If they don't get the point by then, then they shouldn't be coming to other peoples' homes being all rude, relative or not.
2007-11-09 12:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by no_um_4_u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to your mother to decide if it's acceptable for family to 'just walk in' rather than knocking. Don't blame the people who walk in ... ask your mom if she's okay with that behavior. She can always lock the door if it's not comfortable for her - as well as asking the people to knock and wait to be admitted. Even in "safe" neighborhoods it's not safe to leave your door unlocked. There's a lot of sick people in the world ... I lock my door and only certain people have keys. Even the people who have a key usually ring my bell before entering though - the key is for emergencies only.
2007-11-09 11:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Santal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only rude if you feel it is rude. Was she doing something private? Or secret?
Most people get a certain familiarity, when calling on close friends and family. If your Mom finds it rude, she should say so, or how are people to know?
She should lock the door, that way people will get the hint, or else they will never know that your Mum is a bit weird about her family calling in on her.
Really, she is lucky they call at all. There are so many people out there who would love a friendly face to open their door, and come in for a cup of tea and a chat!
2007-11-09 12:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Stripey Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a bit odd to walk in without knocking, but some families are different than others. It is customary to knock or ring the bell upon arrival, even if one were to enter without being greeted at the door.
The easiest way to avoid this: Lock the door.
2007-11-09 12:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's proper to ring the doorbell, but I've often noticed in my family that if we're getting together for holidays or parties, we just walk in. If my grandparents are expecting me over their house, I just walk in. Partially because it takes them a while to get to the door but also because they know I'm coming. I don't bother to knock. I wouldn't do that with anybody else though, except maybe my best friend. Her parents are never home and her front door is always open so I just walk in. She never minds.
2007-11-09 11:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your mother has an open door policy than it is fine for her to allow relatives to just come in. I personally like people to ring the doorbell so I can greet them and am not comfortable even with family to just have them walk in.
2007-11-09 11:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it's the front door and the family is close then its sometimes expected.
I have in-laws who are in their 60's with i have a pretty good relationship with.
For me i have always considered being invited in to some ones home an honor so i always knock just because i think it's respectful and a decent thing to do but just a month or so ago i was told not to do that but to"poke your head in the door and hollar out !!"... so i guess it just depends on what your relationship is with your family.
2007-11-09 11:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by lesdrake2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it's very rude. I always knock when I go to my grown daughter's homes and I expect the same from them and my granchildren. I'm not always just sitting there waiting for someone to walk in. I may be in the bathroom or in my bedroom getting dressed, etc. It's just common courtesy and I'm glad I taught my daughters to respect another person's privacy.
2007-11-09 12:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Dame Edna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If you mom doesn't like it, then it is rude.
They probably don't know that it bothers her. She should tell them that she would prefer it if they rang the bell or she could start locking her door. If they all have keys, she can get the locks changed.
2007-11-09 16:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is rude,
but if the family is close, maybe it is normal.
(it is most likely rude to the people who marry
in (into the family) ) but then again if they're all
close and don't mind so much, it would be okay.
2007-11-09 11:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by Buzz B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋