Sucidal Friend?

Question

My friend is suicidal. She showed no obvious signs. Her grades have slipped but i thought it was because of her new motto, "i dont care." everyone in school loved her, Shes been taking pills and drinking nail polish remover. I thought she was suspended and it turns out she was in the hospital. She finally told someone after she was sent to the office for skipping gym. She has a bad connection with her family, and literally fears therapists, and now is double feared by them now that she realizes it spells the-rapist. What should i do?

the counseler is literally, a creep, my parents would want me to stay away from her.

and whoever told me to get a new friend is a total ********, so go screw yourself. or kill yourself, kay? thanks.

she doesnt like people talking about her, and i dont think i could be able to visit the hospital without my parents knowing. &if you ask me to pick you for the ten ******* points, so suck rocks.

Shes already escaped to my house once. During hunger strike. for fun. her goal was 101 hours. she exceeded by 2.

&theres only one teacher i can tell, who would probably go be-serk. every other teacher&her dont go together very well.

& dont tell me to tell her to give good advice to her and comfert her and ****. ive heard ebough. thats common ******* sense. like i dont know that?!

i know that when suicide occurs, its too late. this is what im trying to PREVENT, remember?!

Answer 1

Just calm her down...and let her know that your ALWAYS going to be there. Believe me there's nothing better than a loyal friend. What got me out of my suicidal phase was the saying," Don't use a permanent solution for a temporary problem." Also let her know that if she doesn't want to go see a therapist that there are A LOT of other ways in handling problems. Don't forget to tell her that if she doesn't want to be around her family that your always welcome to have her. Like I said there's nothing better than a friend that can ALWAYS be there for you. I hope all goes well...no life deserves to be lost.

Answer 2

First, talk to your friend. Have a serious, committed conversation and tell her that you are worried. Try to see if you two can work something out. If that doesn't go anywhere, then you must act very quickly upon the next step. No matter how much you think your friend will dislike it, you need to get her help. Tell an adult, whether a teacher, a parent, or someone you REALLY trust, and get her a doctor or psychologist. You will be doing the right thing.

Act very quickly, because in suicide... when it's too late... it really is too late.

You are being a good friend by being concerned. Now it is time to act. I wish you luck, and may God bless you.

Answer 3

That's a tough situation that you've got.

The main thing is to let her know that you're there and that you will be there for her no matter what. People don't realize what a difference hearing those words can make. Be there when she is sad or when she needs someone to talk to. If she is a really good friend of yours and she trusts you, go to the therapist with her. She might not be so afraid if you're there with her.

The worst thing you can do at this point is abandon her. Stick by her side. Even if you're a true blue friend, this can be hard. Just keep in mind that you're helping your friend.

Answer 4

You've done great by asking for support. Really you need to ask someone more immediate to you for support. That's right support for yourself.

About your friend. You're listening that's good. It is important that you listen to what she wants to say rather than what you want to hear. Let her express herself. You are not trying to address the situation, but the child that is in her. Comfort, security, attention are the order of the day rather than getting to the bottom of it or finding answers. Realising that someone really cares is more effective than a hundred hours of counseling.

Work out a strategy and if possible share the burden, because if she really is down then she may need constant attention, but you need to be strong for her at that may involve leaving her to go shopping, or work and sleep and all the rest of it. You not only want to get her out of her present mood but also to guide her to a better quality of life

If the strategy works she will tell you to piss off ( or words to that effect) twice. Once because she wants to test your resolve to help her and the next time because she genuinely wants to take control of her life, and when that happens shout 'Hallelujah!'

Answer 5

That's tough to deal with I bet. Sometimes when people do things like that you should just get rid of her. But if you really really care for her visit her every time you can. Ask her questions, talk, whatever it takes to knock some sense back into her. If she really wants to change, try telling her that a therapist is the best answer. Tell her that they are there to help. If she can't connect with her family, try to be like family to her. You don't realize it, but she needs you now more than ever.

Answer 6

you should be supportive. call her often, go by and see her; just be a friend to her, but don't act like you are doing it out of charity and don't ask her about any of it....she will spill the goods if and when she feels like it, but you should be supportive whether she does or not. Her other friends should do this as well. The only other thing you should do is anonymously report to her parents or guidance counselor if you see her or she tells you that she is doing anything that is harmful to her.

Answer 7

you're able to save chatting along with her with the aid of sms/text cloth and get in touch with 911. tell them you already know fairly of the place she is and that they are going to bypass locate her and get her the help she desires. i understand you in all probability do no longer opt to, yet only think of of her safety. i've got had to try this earlier, and it broke my heart, yet i did no longer opt to lose my chum. Please try this for her. She desires help and that's in all probability going to be the only way you may help her for now. i'm so sorry on your place. Its no longer elementary and intensely frightening, yet once you do the excellent element she'll get help and each little thing would be ok. good success! in case you go with something extra you may digital mail me! (Its on my profile)

Answer 8

You need to encourage her and support her to receive medical care. If she is really this depressed she needs medication and therapy.

Tell her the therapist is not the rapist, but the one to assist her in recognizing those issues violating (raping) her in order for her to find the strength to deal with them.

You might feel overwhelming helpless and a good bit of guilt, but remember she has an illness that you did not cause.

Answer 9

Be there for her. Get her some help. I lost my best friend 20 years agot to suicide. There are a lot of good therapists out there that can help her. She needs to learn to trust someone. Good luck.

Answer 10

Go tell her all the good things in life. I don't see why anyone would be suicidal. I had a bad concussion in 2004 and I felt like crap all year long but I never even considered suicide. Never give up! And you are kind of angry. Don't be so rude.