--I need everybody's answer!!) Pleease tell me,..WHAT DO YOU THINK he wants from me??

Question

Please take a minute to read n tell me!!!!!
---Let's say,..me and and this guy have been verry close friends since high school. For straight two years,..we would go out at least 2 or 3 times a week. Just me n him. He would take me to a restaurant at night,...we would go to movies,..And then he'd call n say "lets go dancing", and it was just for couples,...or he would call, we'd talk,..n after we say bye,..he was tellin me really quick, so i coudnt even hear "love ya..bye." He was calling soo late at night,..to see if i was asleep...i dont know what else to say.
--We would always be holding hands,..but NeVER kissed or n e thing. There was a time when he told me, at the movies "This is not a date,..you know that right? We just came to see a movie". I've been so confused that you wont even imagine. And has also often told me, (would call n say).."I just called to say I Love you.! My life would be incomplete without you."
I just want to know, how do YOU GUYS see this?

By the way..he has asked me couple of times,.."what do you think,? should we go on a date or you think it will be weird? cuz i wanna try something new with you"

He's NOT shy at all. Always energetic, and ready to have fun!

Answer 1

sorry hon, he dosent know if he wants you but he dosent want to let you go either, a test of his affection would be to let him know, you have plans to go on date and see how he reacts....

Answer 2

I am not a guy but i have some questions to consider. How old you both are? If you are say 18 or younger it maybe he is not yet experienced or confident in having a relationship.Some encouragement if you really want romance and not just to see if you can , if you feel attraction to him might help. ask him if he has kissed other girls? If he has dated? If You guys are 20 yrs or more then i would look at whether he has or has had rommantic physical relationships? If not he may need some counseling beyond what you can give him. He might really care and really wish to get rommantic but have fears and issues holding him back. You would be doing him a Huge favor getting him to get some help now and not wait . He could get more and more isolated if hee doesnt. If he is unable to act and be in a physical rommantic relationship. what happens when you meet some fellow you are head over hells about and start dating exclusively? If he doesnt want to deal with it, you arent doing him any favors by neing a constant non-date date, this is helping him avoid facing it. It may also prevent you from having the opportunities to meet and date others. I would say only go out with him one weeknight a week and see what happens for you and with him. It might inspire him to get help or gedt braver if he balks.If its been 2 years just continuing wont help much.

Answer 3

Hmmm.... that sounds like me and one of my friends. Ok, it could go two different ways. The first way is that he DOES like you a lot and is scared of losing your friendship. He has all these feelings, but doesn't want to tell you them and ruin your friendship with him or anything like that because he doesn't know how you feel about him. The second way it could go is that he likes you only as a friend, and you're like his *we look like we're dating but we're really not* buddy. Y'know? He may just be using you for show. Heck, maybe even as a cover if he's gay or something. OR he could be using you to make another girl jealous. Ok, that's more than two ways, but you get the pic. Honestly, I think he's playing mind games with you on purpose to see how you react. If I were you, I'd have a little sit down with him and chat about the relationship between you guys. If you do decide to do this, make sure it's in a public place so it won't be so awkward and it'll be a comfortable environment. I really wish you the best of luck because I was in your situation once and he STILL tells me he loves me even though I have a boyfriend now!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!! I hope I helped.

Answer 4

He is probably scared of getting too serious just now. Take it easy, stay cool and most of all have fun - love takes a longer time to develop than you read in magazines and telly. It is hard work, but just go along with him, call his bluff for instance and tell him you won't be going out one night as you are out with friends, just a suggestion, oh and treat em mean, keep em keen!!!!!! Good luck girlie, sorry I am female but lots older than you and know what men are like. Some just take to the hills and run when the COMMITMENT word is mentioned or get scared if you are so serious. OK. xx

Answer 5

i also have a guy friend like this. I love him and always want him in my life. However, I am not in love with him. We tell each other that we love each other and dont know what we would do without the other. We are just friends. If you want to be more than friends with one another it just needs to be brought up and put out in the open. He might be having feelings for you but scared to ruin friendship. It also could be that he really feels close to you as a friend. Thats why communication is VERY important.

Answer 6

wow.well you guys are at a comfort zone.he knows you like him, so he knows you will always be around.so therefore he wont make a commitment to you.he likes you, but doesnt want to take it to the next level or just wants someone to always be there.someone he can call and go out with, yet not be in a serious relationship.you should set him up with a test.go out with someone else, and if he has a problem with it, them confront him and ask him how he really feels.but with what you are doing now.he's gunna keep you there and not take it further.and you might get hurt in the end.so just confront him.

Answer 7

I agree with the first answer. The guy is not being honest and doesn't know what he wants. He is playing games. If you want something more than he is offering tell him so. Also tell him that if he can't give you what you want you will get it from some other guy. He is not the only guy around. There are many guys to choose from. Don't set your eyes on someone who can't make up his mind.

Answer 8

To me he seems as if he is unsure about your feelings for you. He obviously cares for you more than a friend but is afraid to take the risk of taking another step without knowing the outcome. I would advise letting him know how you feel.

Answer 9

he is confused. he dont no if he lks u or not. if u lk him, show him it sumhow! he sounds a bit shy 2. he probz lks u. but is confused bout it! or myb he thinks u hav a really sound friendship and he dusnt want 2 ruin it by goin out wiv u, thn gettin dumpped!
my advice is 2 jus ask him out. tht wud put him on the spot and make him answer!
hope this is a bit helpful!

Answer 10

if you have been sleeping with him - then it seems to me hes stringing you along to keep the booty warm. or your his fall back girl when the other more promising girls don't work out. or hes gay and confused. either way hes playing with your heart and its time for him to put up or shut up and you to move on - after two years if hes not willing to commit then 20 yrs can go by and your still be confused and lonely

Answer 11

Well that is weird....he is either totally into you and is afraid to admit it, and doesn't want to ruin the friendship by being official.....or he really does love you only as a best friend....