I HATE MY LIFE,Someone please help me? : (?

Question

Im asking myself why the heck am i even living for?My dad calls me bad names and tells me that i wont do anything in life.
He always takes my sister's side even when she's wrong.And its because she older than me and has her own life and everyone loves her. She is very mean once she told my mom to shut up.She talks back to my parents.And whenever theres a fight at our house im the one praying to God asking him to give my parents their happiness.

ALSO,I have a lil mentally challenged brother who i have been taking care of him all my life.Whenever im having a bad day they think im mad and lecture me on how i turture them,etc.But they never realized What i go through and that theres no happiness in life because i have the responsibility of their son!

I dont blame my bro but my life.I see all these bad people and ask God why didnt he give them hard life's?I pray everyday but ALOT OF TIMES i asked God why did he gave me this life?(btw im almost 17)Im not able to stay happy at all even when im with my friend(in school)im always quite,its like i forgot how to smile.Also no one likes me and i mean NO ONE!Im dieing day by day.What did i do wrong that God is punishing me like this so harshly? : (

Answer 1

You have taken a lot on your shoulders there. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time right now. You seem like you have a very good heart to be able to take care of your brother. Some people just take life more seriously than others and maybe you are one of these people even at your age which is understandable...you have SEEN a lot of real life. I understand what you are saying too...that you have forgotten how to smile. You are very mature for your age....and life has affected you. I would say you might have a little bit of depression going on there....with good reason. See if you can find a really trusted adult friend, school counselor, or someone that you can talk to. You need to vent a little. Don't keep all this bottled up or it can make you sick. You will be ok.....you just need to know how to protect yourself and see life in a little more positive way. I don't believe God is punishing you. I think He knows you have a LOT of potential and is getting you ready to something special for Him. Give Him a chance to help you ok? Go talk to Him in a quiet place and tell Him how you feel and that you need Him right now. He will listen to you...He has all the time in the world for you! Read the Bible since it is His letter to you and will tell you what you need to know in life. Here is one promise from God just for you....
" I will NEVER leave thee, nor forsake thee." Hebrews 13:5
Claim that promise whenever you feel bad or lonely ok? I will pray for you that you will know how very special you are to God and that you will stay close to Him. I will ask Him to put His arms of love around you and protect you. Here are BIG HUGS for you. Email me anytime if you would like to talk ok?


† On-call Prayer Warrior †

Answer 2

Wow! I'm really sorry to read all that. It sounds rough! It also sounds as though you've done admirably in handling all of these difficulties.

I would tend not to think that God is punishing you for something, although it must feel as though he is!

It's always a good idea to talk with an adult that you trust about difficulties, especially if you feel as though there is physical or verbal abuse happening. That is not OK.

You mentioned that you're 17. Usually, college starts around that time or a little while thereafter. In some cases, that means getting out of the house and starting to have more influence over the direction of your life.

Do you have plans and goals for what you'd like to do after high school? Some times, having a vision for the future can make the present more bearable.

I hope you find your smile again, and I wish you the best. We're all pulling for you.

Answer 3

Oh god, I can totally sympathize with you. It sounds back-breakingly hard; a mentally challenged brother, and a snobby younger sister!? 'Some people have all the luck', I gotta say that.

But first-off, think about it this way; life's like a rollercoaster. Over-rated, I know, that saying is. But wouldn't doing something well and good feel so much better if you'd had to trudge through the mud to sort it out? When you get older, I suppose you'll feel all the more special ... and be able to relate to people better all 'cause you know what it's like.

Your parents cussing and your annoying sister doesn't matter; it's all about you, girl. Be whoever you are, and even if that means you develop into someone who can fend for themself, that doesn't matter. Your parents don't understand how hard it is for a teenager to go through times like this. Just ignore it and do your best.

Answer 4

First thing U need to realize is that God is Not punishing U, He is not that small! But U already know that because U say Ur Parents are Ur Problem! Where have we heard this before Boys & Girls??? We can't choose our Parents hun, but bear in mind God Did choose them just for Us! So they Must be just right for Us!!! U know that God made U a Promise concerning Ur Parents. "Honor Ur Father & Mother that Ur days may be long & prosperous." I'm sure that being all of 17 U think U should Be "Free" from their "Control" & "Edicts", but as long as U live, U will ALWAYS be under someones "Control"!!! Just like Ur Parents are right now!!! In Fact, U, Sis & Bro "Control" Ur Parents!!! Think about the Responsibility they have in caring for the three of U??? Housing, transportation, insurance, clothing, food, schooling, medical and these are just "Basics", not even "Fun Things" or their Responsibilities at their places of Work!!! Don't "Rush out into Freedom", Learn what God wants U to from where He has placed U. U must learn to Respect All People & unless Ur parents Beat U for no reason, U need to Honor them First so U can deal with the rest of Humanity! John

Answer 5

Here is a poem that should make you feel better. Its all about believing:

Dancing With God
When I meditated on the word Guidance,
I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word.
I remember reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing.
When two people try to lead, nothing feels right.
The movement doesn't flow with the music,
and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky.
When one person realizes that, and lets the other lead,
both bodies begin to flow with the music.
One gives gentle cues, perhaps with a nudge to the back
or by pressing Lightly in one direction or another.
It's as if two become one body, moving beautifully.
The dance takes surrender, willingness,
and attentiveness from one person
and gentle guidance and skill from the other.
My eyes drew back to the word Guidance.
When I saw "G": I thought of God, followed by "u" and "i".
"God", "u" and "i" dance."
God, you, and I dance.
As I lowered my head, I became willing to trust
that I would get guidance about my life.
Once again, I became willing to let God lead.
My prayer for you today is that God's blessings
and mercies be upon you on this day and everyday.
May you abide in God as God abides in you.
Dance together with God, trusting God to lead
and to guide you through each season of your life.

This prayer is powerful and there is nothing attached.
If God has done anything for you in your life,
please share this message with someone else,
for prayer is one of the best gifts we can receive.
There is no cost but a lot of rewards;
so let's continue to pray for one another.
And I Hope You Dance


You should get a hold of Mariah Carey's Hero and listen to the lyrics but just in case here they are:

There's a hero
If you look inside your heart
You don't have to be afraid
Of what you are
There's an answer
If you reach into your soul
And the sorrow that you know
Will melt away
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
It's a long road
When you face the world alone
No one reaches out a hand
For you to hold
You can find love
If you search within yourself
And the emptiness you felt
Will disappear

And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
Lord knows
Dreams are hard to follow
But don't let anyone
Tear them away
Hold on
There will be tomorrow
In time
You'll find the way
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you


I hope these help. keeping you in my prayers

Answer 6

I know it does not change your situation, but God will never allow more to happen to you than you can bear. I would certainly talk to your school counselor about this stuff because they might be able to provide some insight as to what you could / should do.

Also, in the meantime just keep being the great big sister you are. Sounds like you are the only life line your brother has. You are one constant in his life and you put his needs before your own.

This is only a test. It seems like it will never end I know, but you can get through this. With every test there is a way of escape. Have God show you what it is.

Answer 7

You sound lke my husband used to sound before he made his family. I know this bc his mom has told meeverything. He would say a lot of the same things as you are. Now he has a wife and a beautiful baby boy. He's out on his own and has his own family. It's almost a blessing in disguise, bc nowhe knows how NOT to treat his children. Even though it gives him this insight, NOBODY should ever have to go through such turmoil at such a young age. I'll pray for your situation to get better. Just start going to church, youth group, church retreats, things like that. I know you are 17, and things like that aren't "cool", but believe me, you will be glad once you do it. You will feel energized and closer to God. You will have a new outlook on life. Good luck, and remember that God is everywhere, all you need to do is open your heart to him.

Answer 8

Hey seriously, trust me. God is not punishing you for anything. Its just a temporary thing. Think, about it. You are able to take care of a mentally challenged kid, and deal with a(by your words) **** *** family. And you're almost 17. Just think, if you could hold on, and continue to say to yourself, "because I am able to do this and no one else can't, it'll make me a true worker for the Lord God Almighty ", you ill become the better person, and by what you are saying, it sounds that if you were in position of power, you would not abuse it. You would probably be great Mother, teacher, advisor, or just a great friend. And those things are very important in this world...especially the mother.

The good mother is holder of wisdom, compassion, and commitment. She will protect her children, and help them learn the lessons they need in life.

Se now,all you need to do is just take your hardships now, and turn them into lessons that will benefit you for the future. Cause most of the time, we have to have it hard, in order to appreciate the things that are easy, and good in our lives.

Answer 9

1) God isn't punishing you.
2) It's crappy that you have been made responsible for your brother.
3) You need to tell your Dad that the negative things he says to you are emotional abuse and he needs to stop.
4) You need to talk to your Mom/parents about being responsible for your brother.
5) If 4 doesn't work, talk to a trusted adult/school Counsellor/child services.
6) Take some time to do things you enjoy that make you happy.
7) You should learn to be more assertive, people will exploit you if they think they can.
8) Good luck.

Answer 10

So I'm going to start out by saying that I'm not going to give you a religious answer, or pray for you or whatever. Lets look at this situation logically.

You are taking care of your brother, yourself, and living in an unstable house with unstable people. This not only challenging you, but forcing you to grow up fast. This will result in you becoming very mature and independent ahead of most people your age.

Now lets look at your dad. He belittles you and says you won't amount to anything. But he also supports you sister, even when she is wrong. This means he is not good at judging situations, and appears to be wrong himself a lot. All this means that when he says you won't amount to anything, he is most likely wrong about that as well.

So if actions are any indication of things to come (they are) you will most likely become more successful then you parents or your sister.

And the reason people don't like you at school is probably because they recognize that you are smarter, more mature, and stronger then them. Kids your age are intimidated by that. But when you are 20, you will be respected.

My advise would be to continue to fight for yourself and take ever day as one more lesson, and one more day closer to the time you become successful.