couse you love them .and just couse you can leave with out them.
2007-11-09 09:43:03 · 21 answers · asked by Chinita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a personal preference thing. I've been cheated on twice. The first time, I knew that this was not going to be a one time thing. He didn't even tell me, I found out through someone else. Normally, that's a telltale sign they aren't sorry. The second time, he was crying when he told me and told me he was extremely sorry. I believed him since he told me soon and he seemed truly apologetic. However, it is important to note that even if you do forgive them, the memory of it will always be there. I'm still with the guy and I love him with all my heart and he has earned the trust back. But everyone once in awhile when he' s late, I worry. Or sometimes at weird moments it will pop in my head. It takes a very strong person to forgive but it takes an even stronger person to deal with the betrayal.
2007-11-09 09:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should always display a sense of confidence, especially in these types of situations. If you tell this man "I'm taking you back because I don't think I can live without you", you may be sending the message that they can do it again without consequence. You should work on regaining your trust with them, but if you can overlook something of this sort, you may want to investigate your own past (and why you are so willing to be taken advantage of).
So: it is okay to take the person back, under the conditions that they must respect you and gain your trust. If it ever happens again, or if the person isn't giving you the respect you deserve, walk out that door. You'll survive, I promise (and be better for it).
2007-11-09 17:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by that's right 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is NEVER OK and it is totally up to you whether you can take them back. I only hope that they don't cheat on you again. It is silly to think you can't live without this person when that person caused you such pain like this. You need to get some self-respect and know that you don't have to live with someone in your life who will hurt you, because cheaters often repeat.
And while you say you love that person, it certainly doesn't seem that they love you. If that person loved you, then why the cheating?
2007-11-09 17:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive is okay.
Edit- He has the privilege to get a second chance, some people are bless to even get it. I hope he takes it and learns from his mistake. Now if he cheats on you again, then respectively, he probably will not change and will continue to cheat as long as you keep forgiving and taking him back.
2007-11-09 17:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Water 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm I don't think it's okay to take someone back if they have cheated because I belive in the saying "once a cheater always a cheater" my ex cheated on me but I took him back cuz i couldn't see myself w out him but he did it again and again....so no u shouldnt cuz if they loved u enough they wouldn't have cheated on u to begin with...u should have been enough for that person apperantly u weren't and they need other people to fill in with this person is missing cuz u cant' and didn't complete that person...
2007-11-09 17:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by hyecutey818 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can live without ANYONE.
But, if you two feel that you can move past the cheating and move on stronger, then it is okay. Just don't trust that person to keep their hands clean exclusively...
2007-11-09 17:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by *I'm the Best...I Deed It!* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on who the person is and if u truley can trust them again. FORGIVENESS is one of the best qualities a person can have so good job in forgiving people (that sounds chezzy i no sry)
2007-11-09 18:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by Me_Again! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe once, but not a second time because that's giving them permission to do it again and again. You can forgive but never forget.
2007-11-09 17:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by peaches6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you take him back easily...he will cheat on you again easily...if he has to work to get you back, he'll think twice about cheating. If you took him back quickly, he'll think there is no reason to think he can't get away with it again and again because you'll always take him back.
2007-11-09 17:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by D C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving him is your decision. But you have to make it clear to him that it cannot happen again, because it hurt you very much.
I know it seems like you can't live without them, but in time you will learn that you can.
2007-11-09 17:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by lperez79 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋