Okay, well this boy has been acting really gross towards me, my close, and wise friend, said that he may want to *experience sexual encounters with me*. I had never been so scandalised, I'm only 14!
Question is, how do I learn to say no to him, even though I enjoy the thought of someone liking me (I'm not the best looking girl around, or the brightest of the bunch).
I once went jogging in the morning, and he saw me and then he looked at me as if he wanted to eat me for dessert. EUGH!
Can you please help me. I shouldn't be enjoying this attention as I have never had it, but I don't want it?
He also messes with my head, I don't like it, but what if no boy will ever like me ever again, when the time is read for ME?
If that makes sense.
Thank you x
Victoria.
2007-11-09 09:41:12 · 13 answers · asked by <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him NO. If he keeps bugging you, tell your parents. they that doesn work then go to the police. As for finding a guy. There will be a guy for you. your only 14 and still have a long way to go. but you will find one
2007-11-09 09:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't like him, just try to let him know in subtle ways that you're not interested. Don't put a big cheesy grin on your face when he's around you. Avoid him whenever you can.
As far as boys liking you, you are still young, and if that's your picture, you are a very pretty girl. Don't worry, a great guy will come a long when the time is right.
2007-11-09 17:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's deliberately playing with you - knowing that you haven't dated too much. Be a strong young woman and do the right thing - say NO to him just as plainly as you would say no to a sibling wanting your piece of chocolate cake.
I have encountered guys like that in the past and they really are gross. I wasn't ever the beautiful girl either.. but things change as you get older. You'll get lots of attention eventually.. right now you shouldn't accept the attention from somebody that is obviously so creepy. Don't allow yourself to be used by him.... even when you react to him now - acting like you are disgusted with him when he's around and talking to you, you're playing into his game and so he keeps it up. Just ignore him and he'll stop because he'll stop getting a reaction out of you. He probably just likes seeing your reaction, whether he actually is interested in you or not.
2007-11-09 17:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by elementoflife 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Victoria, God has someone he is preparing for you so don't worry about not having a mate. As far as this young man, you need to be honest. You could tell him that although you are flatered that he likes you, you really aren't interested in anything more than a friend.
Be honest and upfront.
2007-11-09 18:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by Angelica1951 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need the answer to this one, we need a universal bulletproof solution to obsessed unwanted men , not more advice on how to attract them, because there is definitely an obsessive male population that thinks the harder they try .....eventually they get..... and its just not on,short of shooting them for being emotional blackmailing evil desperate bastards that should be identified and wiped off the face of the earth for being pestilence what do you do.... I have to avoid four at the moment, so routine has had to change.the city seems to have more of them!!
2007-11-09 17:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like him, just tell him to leave you alone!! I don't think you should be alone with him when you say this because he sounds like he can be dangerous..
There are other guys out there and you will find someone who will like you because of your personality, not a guy just out for sex... Don't settle for this guy, he's not worth it! You are way better then him. Just try to ignore him the best you can. If you cannot, then just tell him firmly that you do NOT like him in anyway possible. Best of luck!!
2007-11-09 17:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Nina is here! :D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him more as a friends - e.g. if he implies stuff change the convo to something not too personal (this may cause him to think youre interested) but something that's friendly. Guys know when to take the hint you just wanna be friends.
2007-11-09 17:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you think hes really ugly while keeping a really sad face.
tell him u have a gay guy friend who has a crush on him and ask if u can introduce him.
tell his mom that her son is a perverted creep
2007-11-09 18:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i also would like to have *sexual encounters with you* and u could always tell him thats he disgusting and if hes really that bad and that werid why do you like the attention?
2007-11-09 17:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by orange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he's gross. Don't let him near you. He'll continue to gross you out. Tell him.
2007-11-09 17:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mattman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋