So I took my 3 year old to Burger King and got him a kids meal. Well, to make a story short he started screaming because I wouldn't give him the toy until after he ate and he wanted it NOW. I took EVERYTHING and threw it away and grabbed him and had to carry him out screaming. I am so angry right now. What would you have done? I don't beleive in spanking but I sure wanted to wack him one (I didn't).
2007-11-09 08:41:35 · 29 answers · asked by xoxo 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Brava, well done. This is the most adult, intelligent action I've seen in this group for a week. You had a textbook-perfect response. You took control of your child, what every parent should do, but few actually do.
I just hope you did it calmly, showing little emotion, without screaming at him.
Again, well done!
2007-11-09 08:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. The only other thing you could have done (going for the embarrassment factor, sort of) would have been putting him in a time out but this is very difficult in public places.
I finally learned to give my child a healthy lunch & ever so often for a special treat, we'd order a coke & I'd just buy the silly toy as a reward. I don't think she ever was in a fast food place until she was 5!
2007-11-10 17:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by noodlesmycat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him throw his fit. I know it sounds simple (and I know it is NOT) but that's what you have to do. You were right in leaving. Any parent looking on can sympathize with you because I'm sure we have all been there at one time or another. Any person who didn't have children may see it differently but they will understand one day. Good for you on not giving in! I know it's hard to resist sometimes and I'm glad you didn't whack him one because we all know that we regret things when they're done out of anger. Good job! You handled the situation very well I think.
2007-11-09 16:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Frostie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if you did believe in spanking, it shouldn't be a public thing. So, in that regard, you did right. I do believe in spanking (just a minute, don't freak out, let me finish) but I hope I would never do it in public, and never ever EVER out of anger.
I probably would have done exactly the same thing: No meal, no toy, we're heading home buddy--this is what your mom things of your tantrum.
2007-11-09 16:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by Chaz 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
That's what my boyfriend would have done! I think you did the right thing because it shows your child that you are in charge and if they misbehave, they won't get what they want. I think this will teach your child, that the next time you take him to burger king, he will have to eat his food before he gets to play with the toy.
2007-11-09 18:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by LD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR YOU! I think you did great! I'm sure you're angry and i'm sure it was rather embarrassing to be in a public place with a screaming child, but that was awesome! I wish I could have seen it..really..I would have stood up and started applauding.
seriously you should get the best answer..
2007-11-09 16:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by chrisa7584 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing. If you give in to a child throwing a temper tantrum then they will learn that all that have to do is scream to get what they want. By throwing everything out and leaving you are telling him that misbehaving makes things worse. Eventually he learn that he has to listen to you and what behavior is acceptable and unacceptable.
2007-11-09 16:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by cykessa 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the exact same thing. Good parenting. I can't stand the parents who let their child scream, or even worse give in just to make them stop. The kids will never learn discipline that way.
2007-11-09 16:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Got my things (purse, bag etc) and left just as you did becasue in my home eating at a fast food establishment or and resturant is a treat and if you act a fool we will not continue to get to do special things if your behavor does not warrant it and I explain that to my 5 yr old even to this day. You get 2 thumbs up. Its hard to do but my theory is I do not want a wild and crazy preteen.
2007-11-09 16:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by Friday 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Spanking out of anger is not spanking. It's abuse.
I highly suggest reading, "Shepherding Your Child's Heart" by Tedd Tripp and "To Train Up a Child" by Michael and Debi Pearl.
Don't discipline out of anger. Calm down. Then explain that this behavior is naughty, and because of the tantrum the toy goes into the garbage.
2007-11-09 19:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by ElioraImmanuel 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋