I am 19 and there is a person i like but he is 36 what should i do?
2007-11-09 07:52:54 · 37 answers · asked by super_freak8813 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oops.... he is 35... that dosent really matter that much though...
2007-11-09 08:14:25 · update #1
To me age doesnt matter, me and my husband are a year apart but if he was 36 i would still love him and be with him. i beleave if you love some one you should be with them no matter what. keep in mind if its ment to be yall will last if not you wont. god has some one out there for each and every person, and when you find them youll know.
2007-11-09 07:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by krazee 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are 19, you are way to young to going with a 36 year old. He could have been married 4 times, had children with all of them, and now has 8 kids by 4 different women. Think if this, if you do perhaps date this guy, and he has been married, and he does have kids............and then down the road you realize you love him, he loves you. You will never be his first. He has already walked down the aisle, he has already made babies. He will not be a first time married person with you, he will be a 5th married guy andyou will be the first time married person. And he is old enough to have kids closer to your age than you are to his, how is that going to feel when you become the step mom and thekids think of you like a sister, and given your age, your husband might see you more like a daughter. Anything that you go through, will of already been done before. He will compare you to all of his previous wives, and when you have children, he will compare his other children to your joint child. Nothing will be valid, because he has already went through it, so instead of going through something as a couple, you will have him "wise one" tell you how life is or how it is going to be.
Age does not grant complete intelligence above all else.
If you are looking at serious stuff, stay away from him, nothing personal, just know that if you fall for him, it get a lot more complicated. And if you marry him, and he has been married before, do not expect many guests from his side of the family to show up, why..........because they too have already been through this.
Think you can handle raising the kids, it does take a special person. YOu think tha tyou can handle dealing with your husband's ex wives (aka the children't mothers) remember these darling children already have a Mommy, and you are not it, you will clearly understand this from the children, and from the real Mommy. Get respect, good luck.....there is such a huge battle between your husband and the ex wife about the kids and wanting the kids to love one or the other more, that the kids could throw a brick at yoru foot, and it will be chalked off as something random like a crazy accident.......why because they do not want to discipline their child when their ex is there waiting...just waiting for the child to choose the other one, and thekids, they do not have to like you- you are only Daddy's wife, thats it.
Live your life completely. Get with someone that is similar in your life stage.
Age difference - 11 years.
2007-11-09 08:08:33 · answer #2 · answered by HIPPIE2hippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20
2007-11-09 07:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by yup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 and 36 is a almost a generations difference, but guess if you both like eachother nothing wrong with it. Might be tough to find some common ground though.
I'm 5 years older then my GF
2007-11-09 07:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 and 36 is a bit too much imo. You are both at different stages in life. You're still trying to find out who you are, adn what you want in life. I say in ten years if you still like him go for it, but otherwise I probably wouldn't suggest it. My spouse and I are one year and two weeks apart.
2007-11-09 07:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by ☆ღWifey Wifeyღ☆ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should give yourself time to grow up and mature. The age difference is way to big. And, at 19, although you might feel grown up, there is a lot of growing to do. Experience other men in your age category. Yeah, the older guy may be more mature but his agenda may not be entirely what yours is. And, do you think he would like to hang out with you and your friends???
2007-11-09 07:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No spouse, but one guy I'm dating is 2 years older. The other is 6 years older.
2007-11-09 07:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are on two totally different levels in your life and he could be demanding things from you that you might not be ready to give (marriage, kids, long term commitment). Just be wary of this, but you're both legal adults and love can strike at any time.
I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 22. ;]
2007-11-09 07:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Vanity Affaire 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 year apart. But I wish he was like 7-12 years older than me then we'd be in the same boat. Typical for men and women.
2007-11-09 07:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Devi R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nearly 4 years.
2007-11-09 07:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋