It's time to move on problem is I get so sad and lonley sometimes but I know the best thing is not to except calls from my ex. What things could I do to keep myself busy besides jump into another relationship?
2007-11-09 07:50:49 · 13 answers · asked by sheila 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
focus on you-time and enjoy ur new found freedom ALONE!
2007-11-09 07:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by none 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone says 'time will heal the pain'. Of course, it will, but TIME is a long time to wait. However, every time you think of HIM, turn your mind to something else instead. You must keep yourself busy. You are going to feel lonely for a while (unless you have the 'loneliness syndrome' where you feel there always something missing in your life but you don't know what! ) Give yourself some retail therapy, go out and hit the shops its a great healer. Buy yourself something sexy to wear - have a new hairdo!! It works! Above all, don't accept any phone calls from your Ex. Change your 'phone number and mobile number so there's no way you will speak to him again. If you like animals, get yourself a kitten to hold and love or a puppy they are great company and you get a greeting when you come home every day and night. In fact, they are, I think, better than humans at times. Don't fall into a new relationship too quick it could be a disaster. Give yourself a bit of time then GO FOR IT!! Good luck!
2007-11-09 16:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by marty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy a roll of cookie dough, bake 2/3 of it, then eat the raw dough while waiting for them to cook! [perfect comfort food]
Then, plan a ladies night in with a few of your closest *female* friends. Watch some movies, hang out, and eat the cookies!
You need some time away anything with a penis right now and a girls night in is a good place to start.
After that, find a new club or activity to join! Something to fill up all that extra time you would have spent with him. Find a new hobby! There are a million out there!
And most importantly, don't look for another boy. When the right one comes along again, let it take you by surprise. It's the best feeling. And you WILL find someone else. I'm sure
2007-11-09 15:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Demeter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheila,
I'm afraid I only have half the answer you're looking for. The other half I'm still trying to figure out. This is how I came across your question...
I've been divorce for 4yrs now and still I don't think I've completely gotten over her. We were together for 7yrs, and share a child. I think this is mostly the reason why I have not yet gotten over her. I see her on a weekly basis when she comes to picks up our son. The only thing I can say is to give it time. Only time will heal. In my case, 4yrs isn't enough I guess...
I think jumping into another relationship would be OK as long as you're ready for it. It doesn't have to be a serious one, and I think this will help keep you busy.
Also, avoid going to the same places that you and your ex use to go....and avoid doing the same things you both use to do.....
I even avoided those who keeps in contact with her. But above all, TIME IS THE KEY! Keeping yourself busy will only help you stay sane. I hope this helps and good luck!
2007-11-11 20:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by manangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over it, you just move on. Just don't jump into something else you will end up hurt. Move slowly and realize anything worth having is worth waiting for and it takes a lot of work to keep it once you have it.
2007-11-09 15:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by teresa m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump into a rebound relationship. You'd just be using that person for a few weeks or months.
Instead, do things alone. Go on a cruise, alone. Go to dinner, alone. Go to a movie, alone. Redecorate your house, alone.
Get to know yourself inside and out. What you like. What you don't like.
It will take time but you can do it. Time heals everything.
2007-11-09 15:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump into a relationship because your lonely and want to forget..I've been there and its only makes it worse..Keep busy , and enjoy the life you have now...it takes time, but it'll get better.
2007-11-09 15:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some hobbies, Catch up some things that you couldn't do when you were with your ex. Hang out with some great friends. Just be your self. Good luck!
2007-11-09 15:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. Its understandable that you are going through a tough time. I would suggest taking some you time. you know, doing things you like to do. Hope i helped!!
2007-11-11 19:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make many online friend like on those dating sites but just keep them as friends.
2007-11-09 15:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by Neil 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray and ask God to take away your hurts he cares
I know it's hard but with Time it will help
2007-11-09 15:54:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋