Is he playing games with me???

Question

My ex and I started chatting again on the phone for about 2 weeks. And then we decided to go out on a date on a Friday night. I thought i it went well and I was so happy to rekindle a relationship with him.

Well, he didn't call me for a whole week after our date. No texts, no calls, emails, nothing. This was odd for us. He would always text me or call me, even if just to say "goodnight". I text him 2 times, and called him once during the week of his slilent treatment, but I gave up when I didn't hear back from him and I started wondering why he is doing this to me - what went wrong??
Well I finally get a text from him that said, "Hi". I told him I am not really up for games and that this won't work out. He said, "Fine, but the only reason I didn't call you was because I was on vacation in the Bahamas. I left on Saturday and just got in last yesterday."
Why wouldn't he have told me on our date Friday that he was leaving for the Bahamas the next day? Sounds like a game...?

Answer 1

Sounds like a big game to me. Are your sure he even went? Who did he go with? Even if he was on vacation if doesnt cost anymore to send a text to say hey on vacation will call you when i get back. Sorry that guy sounds like sour milk. He's your ex for a reason and should stay that why. No matter how many times you keep put the sour milk back in the frig each time you take Mr sour milk out again its still going to be sour!! I say move on you can do so much better!!

Answer 2

well..that sounds dumb..wouldn't he have told you he was going away on vacation????? and if i just got back from the bahamas the first thing i said to you would definitely not be "Hi"..but then again maybe he is just a forgetful person that asks you out has a whole night on friday and two weeks before that to tell you that he's going away, maybe he is just that type of guy, but then again do you want a guy like that? Oh, today's our wedding?? I'm sorry I'm in Mexico...oohh yea I'm in a relationship, I just forgot to tell you...you're having the baby now?! But I'm in Spain? Can't you wait a week?????

Answer 3

that to me is just too plain weird...so i know he not your bf and does not owe you any explaniations but a trip to the bahamas is a big deal as like a great trip you want to talk about with anyone friends,family,gf's...all he could of said was oh and guess what im taking a trip to the bahamas and im so excited!! i know what your going through i went to a somewhat similar situtaion i was with my ex forever and when we broke up he tried coming back many times but then he would leave and come up with some dumb excuse why he didnt call but nothing as dumb as your ex!! anyways well i just had to stop all this and love myself enough to know that if it didnt work out the 1st time it probably be harder to try to rekindle it the 2nd time and it will definatley not work out if hes not trying! tell him straight up that you are not wanting to play games and if you are okay with being friends let him know and i think we should just leave it as friends and continue to live your life looking forward and not backwards....good luck!

Answer 4

first of all, guys always play games, so don't think that Mr. perfect is not playing with you. Guys like games. they want a girl to chase them. Anyhow, this guy is single. he is not your boyfriend. you can not expect anythig from him. he never asked u to date him again. you only went on one date. don't be so attached or clingy. he will run away. don't get mad at him for not calling. wait another week. see if he calls you. decide then. don't text him a million times when he doesn't reply. you need to make sure HE is interested. he has to chase you. he has to ask you out. he has to want to see you and be with you. dont be so available for him. don't be on call for him. Don't give into everything he wants. You need to keep your distance right now until he proves to you he wants you and it is serious. You have already explained to him that you don't want to play games. he said "fine." Someone who says that is a kid. a child. He does not seem like he want's a relatioonship right now, to me, but you know better. Just observe him and see. don't jump to conclusions and don't make him your boyfriend automatically when he may be dating others at the same time as you. . take it day by day and see. I wish you luck.

Answer 5

Sounds like a game to me too. Maybe he wanted to see you for his own comfort zone.....and realized that you would still be there when he got back and didn't feel the need to tell you he was leaving on vacation. If I were you I would cut all ties, he's not comitted.

Answer 6

you are an ex for a reason. one date does not mean that he must let you know in advance his where abouts. getting back together with someone is difficult. if you don't resolve the conflict(s)/issues that brought about the break up to begin with, it is highly unlikely that the 2nd time around will be successful. take it slow.

Answer 7

if this is rekindling your relationship after one night
he should of stayed in the bahamas and done you a favour
is this what you want i surgest you put a light to the
rekindling and let it burn

Answer 8

Im not sure maybe he didnt think you would 'care' if he went on holiday and didnt tell you so didnt think it was of any importance, maybe you should like go on another date again but if anything suspicious that looks likes a game then leave it

Answer 9

i think he is sorry to say any one going to the Bahamas would not be able to keep quite about it especially if they were flying the next day god i would of been so exited

Answer 10

Wow! I'll have to try that one the next time I get home late.