have feelings for him and he does for me too. it felt awkward at first, but then i start looking forward talking to him every time. IM, then phones, then dating again...falling in love again. Then after several dates he told me that he was married. He did not lied to me (coz i never asked) but he kept it for a while. He said he just wanted us to be 'just' friends, but what about the sweet talks, the flowers, nice dinners, the goodnight kiss? Did I misinterpret him? I thought it was sweet love the second time around...i don't want to look like a fool (am already,sigh), what should I say or do? How do I get out in this miserable situation like a lady?
2007-11-09 06:46:07 · 9 answers · asked by ayvee77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to cut off all communication. He might not have lied outright, but he lied by omission which is even worse! He probably thought he could get away with it, but then finally decided it wasn't the best idea. He was wooing you like you two were dating, and regardless of if you two did anything physical, he cheated on his wife emotionally with you. Do you want to be that other woman? Would you want to be in her position....your husband sending flowers to another woman and taking her to nice dinners? You always need to look at it from the other side. When you try to convince yourself that he was just trying to be nice....ask yourself if guys that "just wanted to be friends" ever did those things....it's a big NEGATORY! You are not at fault here, I mean....why would you have assumed he was married? That being said, now that you DO know....it's up to you to do the right thing. Drop him like a bag of bricks and move on. Look at this as a lesson learned.....you'll know to ask next time!!! or at least check to see if there's a tan line where his ring should be!
2007-11-09 06:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by emadoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you didn't ask him if he was married, doesn't mean he didn't lie to you; it's called a lie of omission! Him asking you out was giving you an indication that he was single and available. I don't think you misinterpreted him at all, he led you on! Don't say or do anything else, just let it go and don't talk to him anymore. Delete all contact information you have for him: phone number, email, absolutely everything and don't take his calls, emails or IMs either. He's a jerk, he treated you badly and it's time for you to shake the dust from your feet and move on! You deserve better, so stop beating yourself up and go find it!
2007-11-09 06:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a RAT especially to his wife who probably doesn't know what he is up to. Think how you would feel if you were the wife. Keep your pride and dignity and tell him that him being married changes everything and you don't want to see him again. You will have to mean it and keep clear of him because I think he just wants a bit on the side. If you feel tempted just think how you would feel if you were his wife and believe me it will all end in tears for you and his wife.
2007-11-09 06:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...dont placed your self in a challenge that would desire to develop into something undesirable. think of of it this manner. What in the experience that your bf abruptly met his ex and frolicked along with her...you would be overwhelmed.
2016-10-15 22:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get out of this situation by leaving now and never looking back.
2007-11-09 06:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by shortdaylongnight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is sad.....i would hate to go through that and even though he didnt lie he did hold to that important information from you for a reason......apparently he wanted to have his cake and eat it too.....you need to lose the loser he is not a good man for cheating on his wife and stringing you along.....tell him that you are not interested having an affair with a married man.....this is should be the final close to that chapter!! good luck
2007-11-09 06:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by *SIMPLY ME* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
STOP having anything to do with him.
His Wife will blame you when
she finds out.
He's a Player, you got played.
You should be mad.
2007-11-09 07:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cut all contact itll be hard but u can do it
2007-11-09 06:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just stay away from him.
2007-11-09 06:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋