My boyfriend and I had a stupid fight last week. Both of us are very stubborn and neither one of us called the other for a week. I got this e-mail from him today:
I have not heard from you in a week. I can only assume that you would like not to talk to me. That is fine and I will not bother you after this e-mail. I wanted to put some closure on this relationship. I will drop off your key and garage door opener at your house. I will put them in a box in your garage along with some other belongings of yours that are in my house. I will do this on Monday afternoon. I will be away this weekend. That is the earliest I can do it. If this is unacceptable to you please let me know by calling me or writing back.
I am sorry for causing any harm to you and will not bother you any more.
I called him and got his answering machine. I indicated I didn't call him because I thought he was so angry with me he wouldn't talk to me and that he should call me if he wants to talk.
Its been 2 hours
2007-11-09 06:25:54 · 14 answers · asked by Peacenik 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, all men aren't like this! He is playing immature head games with you, so don't fall for it! He either didn't have any commitment in the first place, or he's attempting to manipulate you by "breaking up" so that you will immediately apologize and beg him to come back. This type of manipulation and attempts to emotionally blackmail someone is just another way of controlling and it's a sign of a potentially abusive person. I don't know if he's done anything like this before or attempted to be controlling or manipulative in other ways, but that's definitely what he's doing now. Grownups in a relationship will talk to each other before making decisions like this; he's obviously not grown up yet!
Only you can decide what you want to do in this situation, but I will tell you that if you decide to try to work things out, you will find yourself in more and more power struggles, just like this one. Yes, you were both wrong for trying to wait each other out, but then he took it up a notch with his break up email. Do yourself a favor and let him leave your stuff and just know that you need to find someone who inspires you to be better instead of dragging you down to their level.
2007-11-09 06:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest opinion, if he was able to email you with a cold-hearted letter like that, than he isn't worth to hold onto honey! Obviously he wants to move on. Let him, you should think you're better, he's the one letting you go, HE made the decision, let it happen. There are bigger and brighter things up ahead and remember, everything happens for a reason!
2007-11-09 06:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are YOU "like that?" He's right, you didn't call him because you wanted to be prideful and make him flinch first and be the one to apologize so you wouldn't feel responsible for the fight. He's not going to do that. Now you've lost him over your stupid pride. Hope it was worth it.
2007-11-09 06:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Takfam 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2017-03-03 11:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by Yvette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has probably left already for wherever he is going. He probably wrote that email right before he left. See how it goes on Monday.
2007-11-09 06:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling the situation, by putting you in a defensive position...
Leave a message," If you want to talk, leave a message and I'll call back..."
2007-11-09 06:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You lost a boyfriend because you couldn't compromise, or apologize or anything.
Seriously, what did your stubbornness and pride gain you? The answer is that it gained you loneliness.
He probably didn't want to play your games anymore.
2007-11-09 06:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by IrishFan2011 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you really love him, just give in and apologize for whatever the fight was about.
2007-11-09 06:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by Lora 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
--Good opportunity to enjoy freedom. You're in a very enviable position.
2007-11-09 06:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is leaving u. if u like him u better apologize and try to save the relationship. this is him saying goodbye to u.
2007-11-09 06:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋