2007-11-09 06:07:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why be engaged if you aren't getting married? When a man proposes or you get engaged it means you want to marry that person or plan to marry them. There's no reason to be engaged if you aren't getting married. It's just a committment, not an engagement if you aren't planning to marry.
2007-11-09 06:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Meggie Smalls 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
More or less you want this person in your life forever, and you wish to do this in a way other then marriage. I think a couple things here, the first being that alot of marriages fail, some people dont like "titles", if it isnt broke why fix it? If you and your loved one can find a symbol of your love to wear and it reminds you two of your committed love to eachother, then by all means do it. Theres nothing wrong with that you dont need a church to tell you that you're offical. However I will say this, you two have to be open and honest, remind eachother why you wouldnt want to walk down the ile. Because if I proposed to my g/f and she said no to marriage but yes to officall committment, id want a good reason so i dont feel as though she feels that this might be a long term relationship but not a life long one. Hope that made sense
2007-11-09 06:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
an engagement doesn't exactly means a committment, because you can break of the engagement at any time. When you are married that seals the commitment, you both are committed to each other, and you are committed to do whatever it takes to make your marriage last and to make each other happy. An engagement doesn't symbolize that at all you can give the ring back and you both can move on because there is no committment. Happily married and would not want to be any man's long-term girlfriend.
2007-11-09 06:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. I know Christians that do and those that don't. Personally I don't think the point of Christianity is to pretend to be living in Biblical times so I don't see whats wrong with this, especially if you love and are committed to each other. Also from personal experience I've known some no sex before marriage guys who are the most awful misogynists, just seeing women as their husbands property and an non virgin woman as damaged goods. Maybe they are not all like that but a lot are.
2016-05-28 23:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by julianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Marriage is defined by many cultures very differently. Some cultures used to believe just kissing meant you were married, other's just living together. Our society today is divided. Many people see it as such a sacred thing, but yet people get divorced like it's nothing and then get remarried and still consider it sacred...am i the only one who sees something wrong with this??? As long as you two love each other and are willing to commit your entire selves to one another, what is a little ceremony with an old little priest reading out of a book going to change about that????? umm..nothing..You guys could get a ring to symbolize your love but you dont need a peice of paper legally saying that...and you can always change your name to his legally without being married...(you could change your name to anything really for no reason but whatever)...I personally want a wedding, but that's just because i want something to symbolize it in a big way, people celebrate christmas i want to celebrate love. you could have a wedding without being married...its just a celebration...just ditch the priest...i don;t want all that legal crap in my life anyway...marriage often brings too much drama into love that was perfect from the beginning...good luck
2007-11-09 06:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are several people in this world who are in a committed relationship but never get married. It's called a common law marriage. I don't see anything wrong with it. However, the danger with that is Insurance. If you are in a common law marriage, Employers do not and will not recognize your "spouse" as a spouse and therefore unable to get onto his insurance policy at work. You also will not inherit any money from him after he dies because most, if not all states now do not recognize common law marriages as a legal marriage.
2007-11-09 06:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by dg2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, marriage is a solid symbol of love, so I don't understand why not just take that next step? Not that a life-long engagement is wrong, but why not just get married?
2007-11-09 06:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is it "wrong" ?, that's probably the "wrong" question.
Right & wrong are MORAL in nature and this is not a question of morality.
It is lame and stupid ( and NOT an engagement by definition) to become engaged when marriage is not the point. Engagement is you saying "yes" to *marriage*, and you are working out the final details; counseling, timing, logistics, finances, roles, pre-nuptial, wedding plans, etc.
Why don't you just get a "promise ring" instead?
2007-11-09 06:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by isaiah5336 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not wrong. Before there were courts and documents a committed relationship is called a marriage. But what do you have against marriage if you are ready to commit? Unless you are not ready, then there is no committed relationship either.
2007-11-09 06:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not wrong. In our times marriage is becoming more of an outdated instituion. In the first two years 50% of all couples divorces. In 5 years it is probably 75%. Why hurry? Just be together, be happy, that piece of paper matters only when you wish you never had it.
2007-11-09 06:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by mishkin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋