Hi!
more than a year ago I met this girl. We started to go out almost immediately. She was everything a guy can ask for. Smart, sexy and absolutely lovely. We were going steady for the whole summer but as she was from a foreign country she had to leave in the end to finish her education. We both knew that this is going to happen and newer made a big deal out of it. So when the time came with no regrets she left. The thing is that we were great together or at list that is what I thought. And then it got really hard because only when she left I understood how deep I fell in love with her. I was going mad. So in the end I left the country myself. I was traveling all over the world and it took me about 2 months to feel better. We kept in touch for the next year. It was on and off. Sometimes she did not return my calls and I even erased her number from my phone a few times. But she always managed to give an excuse and everything was good again. After she graduated we came to a conclusion that she will come back and stay with me. This actually made me the happiest man alive. Then she came. For the first couple of weeks it was like a fairytale but then something happened. She became cold. She was ditching me whenever I came up to her. When I asked what is wrong she said that leaving together was to much for her as she had some bad experience in the past. Now I know that the truth is that she has been going out with a guy for 6 years. It was on and off. He cheated on her she cheated on him. But they still end up together all the time. When she first came here she was trying to get over him and then she met me. But the moment she came back it all started again. And now she was trying to do the same thing but she just couldn't let it go. She found him again. Now they share this cute over the phone relationship. And I am totally screwed. Ofcourse I couldn't take it and she is moving out ASAP in that I was firm but I just don't want her to go. I know that this is the right thing to do but I just don't want to let her go. She wants to stay friends but I cant. This is all too hard. She told me that she just loves him too much and maybe with time she will be able to move on. But where does that leave me? I love her too. What to do?
2007-11-09 05:58:31 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you sound like a very caring and wonderful person,it sounds like she is in an addictive relationship,and she just cant let go of him,so it wouldnt matter how good you are to her,he will always win her over.like all broken hearts,it takes time,you will hurt for a while,but as weeks,months years go by,i promise,it will get easier,and like i said before,you sound like a wonderful person,and you will find another love of your life whn you least expect it. i really do wish you all the luck,and i am so sorry this happened to you.
2007-11-09 06:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by marie e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were her "rebound" guy. If she isn't over her ex then there's really not much you can do. Just tell her how you feel and then let it go.
I definitely wouldn't waste time waiting for her phonecall though. Go out with your friends, have fun and meet new people.
2007-11-09 14:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by BeLLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her and move on...she was never with you from day one...she used you to "try" to get over him and found she couldnt...so she never cared for you I am sure...i know it hurts like a mofo but you have to get rid of her and get her out..she will only screw around on you and drive you insane..find someone who loves you and is no hung on their ex
2007-11-09 14:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by Slick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋