about this mother of the bride dress?
http://www.lew-magram.com/pagebuilder/Item?item=L1270&CATEGORY=PANTSUIT
mom ordered this dress and it looks great (she's a business woman)...
What should my future mother in law wear? I don't think she really wants to wear black. Do they really have to coordinate?
Personally I don't care...but I don't have any ideas for her either.
Im not worried about black though as my girls bridesmaids dresses are black.
2007-11-09 05:21:47 · 33 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
fizzy, i wasn't trying to choose her dress for her, she asked me for my input..and i came to you guys cause i wasn't sure what to tell her :)
2007-11-09 05:31:28 · update #1
i also wanted to add that i DID not choose that dress for my mom, she chose it..she is also wearing a pair of milano blancs with that suit
2007-11-09 05:36:43 · update #2
thanks artist you've not rained on my parade at all...my mother LOVES my fiance and is happy that he's respective and everything all my other ex boyfriends were not! lol
but she chose the dress..and i don't think i have a 'right' to make her change the dress...
:)
thanks though :)
2007-11-09 05:43:23 · update #3
iloveweddings -- i don't really see myself getting mad...i've got numerous smiley faces...i only typed one thing in caps and it was the word "DID"....and i got a little irriated with one poster saying that it was none of my business what my future MIL will wear...that was kind of rude....but i was saying i didn't pick out her outfit....i was mostly trying to get ideas about what my future MIL would wear :)
2007-11-09 13:06:26 · update #4
LOL! It's funny how many polar opposites you have on opinions here... I think people should take 3 things into consideration when it comes to bridal party attire - (1) the concerns of the Bride (2)THEIR comfort - (3) the formality of the event...
Obviously your mother will be comfortable in this dress and since Black is one of your "colors" she should wear it.
As for your future mother-in-law, perhaps you could go shopping with her....you know her better than we do and perhaps this is a good bonding time for the two of you and you definately don't want to suggesst something she'd be uncomfortable in.... They DO NOT have to match or coordinate, but I'd suggest that the formality be similar.... you wouldn't want your FMIL to feel underdressed...
Just to give you some ideas, for my formal wedding (the first one) My Mom wore something similar to this in Navy: http://www.lew-magram.com/pagebuilder/Item?item=L7640&CATEGORY=DRESS
and I've always been fond of these styles...
http://www.davidsbridal.com/mother_of_bride_detail.jsp?stid=2910&prodgroup=59
http://www.davidsbridal.com/mother_of_bride_detail.jsp?stid=2952&prodgroup=59&nav=next
http://www.davidsbridal.com/mother_of_bride_detail.jsp?stid=2964&prodgroup=59
http://www.audreysmotherofthebride.com/site/906987/product/SCA46624
2007-11-09 07:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are rules of etiquette for weddings and Mothers of the Bride's attire, and a black dress on a MOB raised some big, red flags, so I have posted some blurbs from a couple of wedding sites for you.
This is from atlantabridal.com : While black is a standard color for evening wear, it can stir up controversy when it comes to weddings. In the past, if either mother wore black it meant that they did not approve of the wedding. Today, black is more accepted but may still cause a flurry of gossip.
This is from knotforlife.com : For the mother of the bride, the keywords are class and elegance. Don't choose anything that is revealing or too short. The perfect length for a mother of the bride dress is either floor length or tea length. Bright colors like lime green and neon pink are also discouraged. Black, as well as white, should be avoided if at all possible.
This is from theknot.com : There is also a popularly held negative attitude towards moms in black -- black suggests mourning (the loss of her daughter), funerals, and doom.
And, finally this is from lovetoknow.com : You'll want to avoid black too. Not only is this considered inappropriate, but many also feel its bad luck.
Personally, I think the dress is lovely....but I'm of the mind that black is inappropriate for the Mother of the Bride (or Mother of the Groom).
I hope I haven't "rained on your parade" too, too much. But I've seen Mothers of the Bride in black several times, and I've heard all of the negative comments they got behind their backs.
2007-11-09 05:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow...that dress already looks so out of date and hideous, I can't imagine what everyone will say when you look back at your pictures 20 years from now. To be honest, it looks like a cheap dress that someone bought from a garage sale. Eek.
As for the MIL, mine is wearing the same color as my flowers and accent color, which is pink. I want her to blend in with the pictures and not stick out by wearing anything like beige or blue. But she can wear whatever she wants. Your MIL can wear whatever she would like, I can promise it won't look as bad as the dress your mother has chosen.
Sorry...I know this is cruel, but that dress it just awful and I can't get over it. Maybe if that's all your mom had in her closet that would be fine. But the fact that she bought this and thinks it looks good...yikes.
2007-11-09 06:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok the person that said it looks 80's.. i agee. It screamed 80's to me even before read that answer. But its not my mother and if you and your mom agree then who am I to be the fashion police?
As far as coordinating, I don't think it needs to be done. Let her get what she wants. I know you said you were not trying to pick a dress for her so that's good. But only you and your guy know her style and body type, so take that into consdieration and come back with a few pictures to show her.
Hope this helps!!
2007-11-09 08:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if that's what your Mom wants to wear let her. You are correct, you don't have the right to tell her what to wear. Personally though, I think if she wants to wear a suit, I would have opted for a 'softer' style: http://outlet.lew-magram.com/pagebuilder/Item?item=L2742&CATEGORY=PANTSUIT
This could even be something your MIL could be interested in. She does not need to wear a suit just because your Mom is though. IF she asks for ideas, point her towards a pewter or sterling color - this way she still is in the color hues of the party but won't stick out like a sore thumb like she will if she's in let's say fuschia! Her style should be her own, as your Mom's is her own.
2007-11-09 06:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cory C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally think that people should wear what they are most comfortable with.
However i do have to say i am not totally sold on the dress, i would want something a little more formal for my mom..
But that is me. If your mother is happy with the dress and you are to, then she should go for it.
2007-11-09 06:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi again,
You keep doing that....asking opinions and then getting mad when people give them. If she likes it...picked it out...you are comfortable with it....you don't want to make her change it....then why even ask us???
To be honest, I don't like it because it looks dated and it looks more like something you would wear on a cruise, not a mother of the bride dress. But again, if you like it...she does...you all are happy...that's all that matters! Not our opinions.
2007-11-09 12:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dress is real snazzy, I like it. The model looks like a trollop but the dress is nice! Your mom can wear it other places too, which is part of why she chose it, I am sure. I understand that she chose it, you did not.
Same for the mother of the groom, she chooses what she wants.
I don't think the moms have to co-ordinate with the bridesmaids, the flowers, the wallpaper, or anything else. That is going overboard.
2007-11-09 07:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ok i think that the key to the perfect dress for your mom is that she feels comfortable. She's going to be in tons of pictures so she needs to like the way she looks.
Second they don't have to coordinate. The best thing to tell your mother in law is a color scheme. For example, my wedding color was pink and my mom wore purple(her fav color) so I told my mother in law that she could pick any dress that wasn't those colors. She ended up with a beautiful blue dress that she felt beautiful in. That's the important thing.
2007-11-09 06:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca R 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't care for the MOB dress but since your mother has already ordered it, likes it and looks great in it then that's all that matters. We're not here to change her mind, just give our opinions.
When I got married my mother picked out her dress and then my MIL picked out hers, they did not coordinate colors. My mother wore mauve and my MIL wore dark purple. I would hope your MIL wouldn't pick black because your girls are going to be in black and your mother's dress has black in it.
2007-11-09 06:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋