Example- first his mom is in town for 2weeks and shes staying with us. Our apartment is very small so you can hear everything. We were having a disagreement because he speaks spanish i dont and hes friend sent him a IM in spanish. He goes thru my phone and my emails all the time so i dont see anything wrong with me wanting to write down what his friend said so i can translate it for myself. Then when i asked him about it he deleted it. So i got mad. I was talking low to him and he was being all loud like we can't have a private conversation. His mom doesnt speak english but i quite sure can can tell when someone is fussing.
#2 His mom asked him if im on birth control because she wants me to have a baby and he told her i havent been doing it for like two years which is the truth but none of her business. She asked him if im not on birth control and i havent did it in two years did i have a boyfriend and he told her he doesnt know. He such a as*s sometimes.
2007-11-09 05:19:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said he didnt want to tell her that i was married before because he thought i didnt want her to know. I told him if they ask tell the truth but dont come out and say oh yeah she was married. I guess she cant understand why i never had a baby. Because i wasnt ready to have one, because im wasnt with the right person, and because im smart enough to use a condom HELLO!!!!. I wish i could talk to her myself but i cant because the english spanish thing. Hes really works my last nerves.
2007-11-09 05:23:31 · update #1
How am i being immature?
2007-11-09 05:27:31 · update #2
I did not snoop thru his emails we were both talking on line with his dad when the IM came thru. Why is it ok for him to read my stuff and i have no problem but its not ok for me to read his. It has nothing to do with trust. He read mine i should be able to read his
2007-11-09 05:29:52 · update #3
In latin culture do you think that women should have a bunch of children? Im asking a question not making a statement for all the supid people. I dont understand why his mother dont understand that some people have more inportant things to tend to like a good education, having enough money to raise a kid, and being married.
2007-11-09 05:33:23 · update #4
I don't think you're ready for a relationship nor is he. I also recommend that you have one with someone that speaks the same language and has the same culture.
2007-11-09 05:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Enlightened One 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How new is this relationship that you should even be talking about babies and not marriage. And, if you were married b4, should you be ready to married again, already, so soon. I think that if this is a new relationship, there are too many issues already and as far as the phone thing... don't go looking for what you don't want to find.... let this be a lessoned learned for you... don't allow him to go through your things if the favor cannot be returned. point blank.... AND YES... MOMs needs to mind her own business. In American culture, it's about respecting ones privacy and my relationship is my privacy. Not for all of Egypt to see!
2007-11-09 06:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you are the one being immature. If you are so untrusting of your boyfriend as to snoop through his phone and write down things, your relationship is doomed. I know the same could be said for him also, but in every good relationship you must have space, privacy, trust and tolerance. Sorry if this isn't the answer you seek, but it seems that you are trying to justify your own issues, by illuminating his. You must learn to relax, or you will tote this baggage all the days of your life.
2007-11-09 05:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by fyrecrowe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either learn Spanish or get him to stop going through your
e-mails. Seriously,he's invading your privacy and would be
even if you were married. Sounds controlling to me,as well
as suspicious. If his mother is asking if you have a boyfriend
and he's not sticking up for you,showing doubt,then I say:
Run! Run like the wind!
It's the family from Hell and you don't want to be part of it.
Not if you're smart,anyway.
2007-11-09 05:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Alion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well................. I think that it would be best that you try your best to keep cool. Maybe you should think about sitting down and trying your best to have a civilized conversation. Try your best not to put it all on him because we all are not perfect. Let him know how you feel because a closed mouth want get feed. So if you want him to change then it's best you tell him what you would like for him to improve on. If you don't talk to him then you will be going through these same problems for a while and I think you guys can make your relationship work
2007-11-09 05:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Kristen D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Typical Mexican Macho I'm the BOSS type of male domination BS . You have never heard or seen about this type of behavior from a Mexican male ? Girl get your head out of the sand . Believe it will get worse . He will become so possive and demanding you will be ready to jump off a bridge . And his Mom will tell you her son is the finest MAN on earth. RUN NOW RUN
2007-11-09 05:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are both immature and both of you have trust issues.
Get back on birth control.
2007-11-09 05:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Poor you you are so upset right now. Maybe yall should just chill til moms leave and maybe it will be better dont worry so much ok
2007-11-09 10:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋