my girlfriend wants to have a threesome, me, here and another girl. i dont know if its a good idea, she has been wanting to for a while, i'm really not oppose to the idea, i'm just afraid of any risks with our relationship. We want to get someone that we totally dont know. She says if i do this, our relationship would mean more, cause she will know i would do anything for her, and that she could be open to me about anything if i were to do this. I do see a part of this logic. i kept telling her no, and no, but eventually she broke me down and i said yes, now i'm having second thoughts. She just wants to see me be with someone else as she watches too. Anyone ever experience this? Please advice me. we are in our thirties and have known each other for 3 years and she is my best friend, lover, etc.
2007-11-09 05:07:30 · 21 answers · asked by jack a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my thoughts too, that she wants to experiment with a girl. But she just says its her fantasy and that we just want a body, anyone will do, just a body we can use for our pleasure.
2007-11-09 05:26:15 · update #1
i would join in if i was you
2007-11-09 05:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can go either way really. It depends on the level of commitment you have with each other. It can be really intimate and make you closer. But thats only gonna happen if you talk about how you feel after you've done it and don't hold anything back. If you let your fears get the better of you it will cause a resentment you won't get past. On the other hand it could easily lead to her wanting another threesome with a man this time. How would you feel about that?
2007-11-09 05:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please be careful and really think this through. If you have any doubts, or feel uncomfortable with the idea, don't do it. You will end up with regret, and possibly a damaged relationship. You also need to talk with your girlfriend and make sure she has thought this through completely. Sometimes we don't know how we will feel in a situation until we are actually experiencing it.
There are other ways for you to prove your devotion to your girlfriend without bringing a 3rd party into the bedroom.
The bottom line is your girlfriend should not pressure you into doing something you are not absolutely comfortable with.
2007-11-09 05:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Nonny0928 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it what will she want next a 3 some with another man involved, are you up for that? Then maybe she will want to watch the 2 of you, are you up for that?. It may never stop, & you don't know if that other person has an STD. If your gf wants to have sex with everyone else then she is not ready for a committed relationship.
Will she want pets to join in next time.
2007-11-09 05:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no logic to this. Love is endless giving, not a test. Your girlfriend is either too free spirited or not into you at all. Which both are not good for a relationship. A relationship is between two people, that is it. There is no room for the third person.
2007-11-09 05:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're probably right! Not a good idea. This is her way of exploring her sexuality with your permission. I would say that your relationship is probably going to end whether you do it or not. If you can accept that...have fun and let the chips fall where they may.... but if you are considering this relationship as long term...writing is on the wall.
2007-11-09 05:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by Enlightened One 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are uncomfortable with it then don't do it. If she loves you then she will respect you enough to understand why you are uncomfortable with it. Quite honestly I wouldn't want to see my BF with another woman in any type of situation so I can't really understand her logic. Maybe she just wants to experiment with a woman and this is her way of getting there.
2007-11-09 05:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a whole lifestyle dedicated to things like this. See my references below and find like minded people there if this is something you want to pursue with your g/f. Keep in mind, you must be 18 to enter these sites.
Good luck--and have fun!
2007-11-09 06:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it dude!!!! She obviously cares about you since you two have been together for a few years now. I think she just wants to spice up the relationship. Try it!!! The worse thing that may happen is that you may like it and you two may want to do it again. Hell Yeah!! You've got your self a freak my friend. What ever you do....don't let that other girl get your girl too excited...you do want your girl turnign into a lesbo on ya. Good Luck!!!
2007-11-09 05:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by carqueen66 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Asking you to do a threesome is one thing, but putting emotional blackmail on, that is bang out of order, no friend would do that.
2007-11-09 05:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she wants to see you ******* someone else then why is she even in a relationship.your girlfriend is not the marring type,sorry.you need to find a another girl with respect and not a whore.
2007-11-09 05:16:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋