My fiancee who I have dated for 6 months .. I know.. Claims that I surround myself with people who think too highly of me thus giving me an inflated self image.. He claims that he is sick of hearing how great I am from my friends and family.. I have no idea what to say to such hateful hurtful comments.
2007-11-09 05:04:58 · 31 answers · asked by Chelly K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No - how long will the marriage last? If he's tired of you after 6 months, and if you think you owe him a nice answer to his rudeness, you need to do some serious self-study. Why are you with this creep? At a minimum, postpone wedding plans and take a break from each other.
2007-11-09 05:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by noname 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
DANGER! WARNING! DANGER!
This is the comment of someone who will spend the rest of your life together trying to cut you down to size- he could be just a jerk, or something much, much worse, and my money's on the latter. Let me guess: he proposed to you very quickly, and you accepted because he seemed so focused on you and you figured that was evidence of his devotion. I predict that if you go through with the wedding, he'll make it his job to isolate you from those people who give you your "inflated self image" and teach you just how worthless you are.
The person you marry should be a source of strength, a partner and supporter, and your biggest fan. It sounds like you are lucky enough to have great friends and a supportive family- let them support you through this breakup. It is probably the best thing you can do for yourself.
2007-11-09 06:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sara K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that your fiance needs to grow up. I mean what does he really think of you? If he is sick of hearing how great you are, then why is he still around? No offense to you, but he needs to stop saying hurtful things. Does he think your great? Whether getting married or not is the right thing, I cant answer that and I dont think anyone else can either. If he makes you feel like crap now, what do you think your future will be like?
2007-11-09 05:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you really considering marrying someone who doesn't think very highly of you? Think about this for a sec. - why is he trying to bring your self esteem down? That isn't love that is abusive. It will only get worse. Leave him now. You have only invested 6 mos into the relationship. Better that you learn this now, then 1,2,5,10 years from now. Take it as a lesson learned and move on.
2007-11-09 08:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be proud of how great you are. They say that it take 6 months to 1 year to see the real colors of people. It maybe very hurtful the idea of walking away, but before you make that big leap of marriage, I would hold off. He should be boasting of how great you are aswell. Sorry, but he has some growing up to do.
2007-11-09 06:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by RockStar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an immature lout who wants to constantly be the center of attention and does not like anything stealing his thunder. I would not marry a man like this, it will only get worse the longer you are together. And how do you surround yourself with people who think too highly of you? Do you interview them and if they don't think highly of you, you won't be their friend? What an idiotic thing for him to say. You will be miserable with this man. Find someone who appreciates the fact that you are a really great person and is proud that you are special.
2007-11-09 05:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
No one can "make" you happy, but the people you surround yourself with should support you and enrich your life. Your fiance should be your number ONE source for this.
Perhaps your fiance is confusing trying to keep you "down to earth" with dragging you downward. The person you choose to spend the rest of your life with should never do the latter.
In any event, while we can't choose our family, we do have the power to choose what friends and significant others we invite into our lives, and only you know if this person is a positive addition.
Cheers & Good Luck
2007-11-09 05:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by GroomGroove 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow...my fiance loves when people talk highly about me...
thats crazy..let me tell you a little story and this sucks but it's true.
My dad and mom (whom are now divorced but were married for 26 years) would go to company functions and mom would make food and take for a potluck or whatever...mom also won a car while she was doing MaryKay, people would tell her what a wonderful job she did and what great food she made...my dad got pissed and said "stop telling her that stuff, she's gonna get a swelled head"
don't marry this man if he tells you this kind of stuff..it could...in the end...lead to heartache :(
Good Luck
2007-11-09 05:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
He sounds jealous, perhaps he is a deeply insecure person and intimidated by you.
I don't understand what his problem is, does he expect all your friends to despise you? Friends are supposed to think highly of you, mutual respect and admiration is what makes people friends in the first place!
I'm sure you're a great person, that's why your friends and family are saying so, and any man who is worthy of you would love you for it, not try to make you as insecure as he appears to be.
Please think seriously about him, I don't think he is right for you if he is envious of your popularity. He should be boosting you, not knocking you down!!!!
2007-11-09 05:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by howzacat 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ditch him. Your fiance and husband should be your BIGGEST cheerleader. He should be paying you the most compliments and touting your praises from the highest mountain top....if he's not...then he's not the one.
I can tell you that I could NEVER tire of hearing about my husband...that's not to say that I don't also say what's wrong with him....but the positive out-weighs the negative by a long shot.
Your man sounds insecure....
2007-11-09 05:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Sunshine 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋