I met a man who is almost 30 years older than me. I feel such a strong connection with him. I believe he is my soul mate. But he is like 30 years older than me. I know it sounds weird. And I've tried to shake him off thinking its just lust or a simple crush. But its not. I'm in a long term relationship. But the feeling I have for my man does not even compare to what I feel for the older man. So what should I do.
2007-11-09 04:46:47 · 32 answers · asked by What What 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no it doesn tmatter......hey i have wanted to conctact u....unblock ur name...
2007-11-09 08:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do think that age can matter in a relationship, but it's really about age equating to life experience. Age doesn't always amount to maturity! In terms of your second question, what should you do? If you have such strong feelings for someone else, and you deem those feelings to be more significant than your current partner, it's time to let that one go and pursue your feelings for the other man... accepting the fact that it may (or may not) be a fabulous decision. Good luck!
2007-11-09 04:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by anon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It matters to me, for some it doesn't.
As for soulmate, he may well be...but that doesn't mean he's romantic partner material. A soulmate can be any sex or age and is someone we feel a strong connection with (as if we knew them in a past life), it doesn't mean they are to be our lovers (in fact, that's rarely the case). You may meet none or several in a lifetime...
As for him being 30 yrs older and you being attracted, think about why you are drawn to him. He's almost old enough to be your grandfather...what do you have in common? It's unlikely you are on the same page in Life...what about potentially having a family if this ended up to be long term?
If you are over 18 it's legal and up to you to do what works for you...but it wouldn't hold any appeal for me personally at all...and cheating on your current partner is baaaaaaaad karma so consider that and end things there, before checking out someone else.
2007-11-09 04:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does age matter? When it's same age plus or minus 10 years, sure, there have been others where the gap was wider, but they have worked for whatever time was left for the older one.
There's a good point though: What if he dies before you? What if he becomes disabled? Do you want children? There's alot to consider, but if you're determined to explore this older man, release your current guy and let him find someone.
2007-11-09 04:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a long term relationship and you have a crush on this man; am I reading this correctly?
The first thing you need to do is be honest with your current partner and break the current relationship. If you're even thinking of having a relationship with this man, then you need to honor your current partner.
Can it work? Yeah--it's worked many times before.
Will it work? That's a different story.
You both are at different places in your lives. Do you ever want kids (if you're in that age range)? What will happen if he dies? What will happen when he retires and you're stuck working?
2007-11-09 04:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number. Older men will not cheat on you but most of them are very insecure and try to control you, like not allowing you to go out with friends.
If you are in a long term relationship then which you love and trust this person, then forget about old man.
2007-11-09 04:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Bern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your right. It DOES seem a little weird. But by the way you are describing your feelings, I would say you have VERY powerful feeling for your 30 years older than you man. So, just go for what you beleive in. Tell me, or yourself, do YOU think its to bad of an age difference? Well, whatever you think is best for you, go for it!
2007-11-09 04:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GURL don't you try to go with somebody 30 years older than you. My question is: How old are you? If you are way to young for him he is going to get sent to jail for you then you really ain't gon be able to see him but through a jail cell. And you're in a long term relationshipyou better keep him if he good to you because it's alit a men out here that will just use you.So i hope you take my advice.
2007-11-09 05:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Nellygurl93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think age matters if both people are legal. however the wants and needs of 2 people separated by a generation are completely different. I dated some people older than me in the past but you have to be on the same page as to living together, kids, marriage, money, etc.
2007-11-09 04:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 dating a 21 year old guy. To me age is nothing but a number. We're still together and very happy. Your situation is a little different because the age gap is really big. If you're over 18 than go for it. Just make sure he is a good guy and you can trust him. You don't want to leave a perectly good guy for a weirdo or a perv. Good Luck!!!
2007-11-09 04:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by carqueen66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably want to hear that it doesnt matter but think about it, You are 27 and he is 57. Your man might not compare but why do you think this old man chose you among other girls. (Technically he could be your dad) He just wants a nice piece of ***. He will get tired of you and just move on once he see the next hot 20 something girl
2007-11-09 05:40:53 · answer #11 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋