We'll I've been helping out with adoption agency and have seen many people willing to adopt and how happy the kids are to be having a nice home to come home to and for me it beautfiul. I've just been thinking about it and I have enough money a home and can provide for the child and I'm 20 . I was thnking of adopting in vietnam since that's a place where you can adopt young. what do you think?
2007-11-09 04:25:43 · 26 answers · asked by Shannon A 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
I find adoption beautiful and would like to be able to take someone in my home and give them a new life
2007-11-09 04:30:00 · update #1
People are saying you are too young to adopt because in all likelihood, you are.
And that is in no way a contradiction to encouraging a 20-year-old pregnant woman to parent. Adopting is not the same as giving birth. Adopted children have special needs that biological children do not.
Seriously. I agree with the person who said you should seek some counseling. I don't mean that in a negative, mean way at all, I just think there is probably something else going on that you need to think about--think about what might be driving this desire--if it truly is just wanting to adopt, you should be able to put it on the back burner no problem--without dwelling on it--until you are ready.
And if you do adopt in the future, please just really, really do your research. There is more to adoption than building families. There is profound loss that comes before the building of the new family, and it DOES have an impact. Since you apparently do not see this side of it in your volunteer work, you need to do a lot of work to educate yourself on that part of it. And I don't mean just sitting through agency info/education sessions, either--you'll have to be proactive.
2007-11-09 16:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by concerned 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 00:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, I think that there are plenty of children in need in America. You dont have to look far. Also, consider adopting an older child maybe 5 or even 6 years old. Many spend their lives from foster home to foster home looking for perminant homes. Its really sad how many children are mistreated or abused right here in America.
And no, you are not too young to adopt. However, getting a child from another country costs about 20,000 to finalzye the adoption. Sometimes, the child is obtained through kidnapping and sold to someone in the US. So its not always a good idea.
2007-11-09 08:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by pegasis 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I think adoption is beautiful and I have ALWAYS considered it.
I don't believe you're too young but I do think you should really sit down and think about everything that comes with being a parent.
First of all you will be a single parent and that's tough enough.
(Trust me. I became a mom at 19 and was single.)
It's not just about a nice home to come home to. It's about this child needing you for the rest of your life.
No more hanging out all the time, no more alone time, and the list goes on.
It's easy to say hey I want this baby but there's so much more to do with parenting! It's really hard.
I'm not trying to scare you or change your mind because there are a lot of young people out there that are old souls.
I just want you to think about it.
Good luck with what you decide.
:)
2007-11-09 04:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by alymar 3 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Actually I was looking into adopting as well. You actually cannot adopt in the US at 20 y/o, and in Vietnam you can adopt at a young age, but you have to be married. But the plus side is that you can adopt next year at 21 y/o in the US. you cannot adopt an older child and it may be difficult to prove that you are emotionally and financially able to support a child on your own. If you meet their qualifications then by all means...good luck.
Another way to touch lives, if they dont let you adopt is to look into becoming a foster parent.You can becme one if you live on your own and are at least 21 y/o. That way you'll touch mutiple lives and it wil actually make it easier for you to adopt when the right time comes along. And thumbs up on giving back to a child...
Check the government website for your state and search for the adoption/foster parent link.
2007-11-09 05:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by MIss J 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
No your not too young as long as its what you really want to do. I am 22 and considering fostering a child into adoption. If you wait one more year you can adopt in the U.S. you only have to be 21 (well at least in Kansas) Good luck and congrats!
2007-11-11 06:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
personally i think you should wait a little longer. i think it is great you want to adopt, but technically, you are still young. this is not to say you wouldn't make a great parent, but you are also single and raising a child while single, while doable, is difficult for parents of all ages and incomes. plus, being in the 'business' of helping children find homes, you know what it is adoption agencies look for. also, you might want to look into vietnamese policy. i forget where i was reading it, but if you search around, you might find it--i was reading an article where many asian cultures are looking at being more selective with non-asian adoptive parents...ensuring their marriage is stable, they are healthier than previous standards, income in exceptional, etc...they are basically taking the initiative to ensure the children they adopt out are going to above average homes, love obviously not being the deciding factor...but again, i don't know if vietnam is among the countries taking on this new initiative. but going back to the fact you are only 20...i mean, you have not even reached legal drinking age (not to say you even want to drink) so there are things you 'need' to do before you have someone else to care for permenantly...with that said, young mothers/couples have babies all the time and quite a lot turn out to be great parents, age not withstanding. good luck with your choice...
2007-11-09 11:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Christine M 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
no you are not too young. but why not adopt here. there are so many right here in your country that need help and loving homes. they are so many and not all are babies. it would be great if you could adopt someone here and be a good parent to them take care.
2007-11-11 13:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its odd how someone can say you’re too young to adopt. But if you were pregnant at 20 many of this people would be encouraging you to parent, despite your age. Some people feel they are ready to be parents at a young age; some are mature enough and financial stable enough to do so. Heck there are parents who are twice as old as you who aren’t ready for it.
You should look into some adoption agencies see what their age critique is. I think most you will probably have to be 21 or older, unless you are married and even then one of you would likely have to be a certain age.
What I would recommend is doing some research on adoption, look for agencies you might consider using. If you find one that would allow you to adopt at your current age go for it. Otherwise keep them for future references.
2007-11-09 08:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
you are not too young to adopt if you are mature enough for it.
i agree totally with spirit that people would be telling you to parent if you were pregnant. my sister had her first one when she was 21 and she is an amazing mother and im sure you will be too, although it would be nice to have a partner if you get a child.
whats with people thinking you have to be like 28 to have kids? you should be young with your children not like 50 when they're 20... goodness
goodluck
2007-11-12 05:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by *Kala* 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋