he makes me hate myself, he cheated on me and i have never been able to completly forgive him! i love him to bits but i cant carry on with his mental and verble abuse. we come to the crossroads in our relationiship but i love miss and care for him, i dont think i will get over him, and i cant stop crying. i need help.he was my world i cared for him so much i would have broke an arm n a leg from him, only now to get this. i dont feel i deserve this. how am i ever going to move on, when not only me but he knows i am emotionally attached to him.......
2007-11-09 04:23:13 · 34 answers · asked by joy b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FIRST OFF I'm so proud of you for leaving someone who was so horrible for you. You WILL GET OVER HIM PROMISE. Someday you will meet someone who will treat you right and you will nto even know what to think. In the mean time, have fun with your life and go out with your girlfriends because you won't always be able to have the free time to do that.. find who you are and have fun and mr. right will come along! you will always be emotionalyl attached to someone you broke up with.. remember. TIME HEALS ALL THINGS .promise! and everytime you think of him constantly remind youself he is an asshole.. he will never change.. and i deserve better... he did not love me.
2007-11-09 04:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Wonder Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having trouble sleeping,not eating, You have to take control of yourself and make yourself eat,and go to the doctor for sleeping aid if you need to. You are a sweet hearted person, this is a tough blow I know how you feel that happened to me. I remeber the torment I went through thinking of wanting him and of him with someone else,I couldn't believe he did that to me. I was shocked and I could not stop crying. I became a nervous wreck. You may have some depression caused by the event too.if I would have gone to a good faith church it would really of eased the grief off of me. you don't have to suffer that much if you find a good church and get in there and start singing the sacrifice of praise the next thing you know you will be able to make new friends and the pain will be a distant memory just like you past a mountain that gets smaller and smaller in the distance until it disappears. You can get someone there to pray for you during the service most churches offer prayer. You will need to be brave and strong to do that but you will feel so much better if you do that. I am thinking of you and praying for you too.
2007-11-09 04:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
any kind of break up is hard weather its a friend or a lover. It sucks that it had to come to that where he had to mess it up by cheating and then making you feel so miserable. The only way to get over it is to go thru the movement and cry all the time. get it out of your system.. Try to keep yourself busy by going out with your friends, go hang out, shop, study do something that wont remind you of him. Its normal to cry over a relationship and dont hide it. Dont dwell on the past and dont think of him, but try to focus on the things to make you happy and eventually after a few months you will be tired of being miserable and you gonna wanna start loving yourself more not him....hes a jerk!
2007-11-09 04:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by sexyexotik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that will help is TIME.
Im sorry to hear that you are in this situation. It sounds like me and my ex-fiancee . It took along time to get over her.
What you need to do, is focus on things that bring back your self esteem. Do things that you enjoy doing and keep yourself busy.
Just realize that your not the type of person to let go easily, stop trying to fight it, just accept it and try to let the time pass. The more time that passes, the less it will hurt. So fill you day up and try to have as much fun as possible.
2007-11-09 04:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by David Parker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not deserve that. You just gotta tell yourself that and be strong and tell yourself obviously he wasn't good enough for me in the end. Enjoy being single for a while and I promise you, you will stumble on a great guy when you least expect it, or vice versa. And learn from this relationship, just like every other, and carry that knowledge with you to the next relationship. In my experience, it makes me more picky when choosing a partner, and I was already picky to begin with. And you'll see that each guy will get better and better.
2007-11-09 04:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry we all know that feeling but you are doing the right thing and before you know it you will feel better. Just get through this and move on.
You deserve better and you know it, even more importantly you did something about it. You don't need to settle for that crappy loser. You are better than that and deserve to have it all. A guy who cares and is not going to cheat.
Now go eat some ice cream LOL
2007-11-09 04:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, you poor thing! Snap out it girl, any man who can make you hate yourself, is worth about as much as an *** wipe. Why is he hanging around, when you are so worthless, maybe because he doesn't deserve anyone worth anything?
You are worthless rember, therefore you should, if you love him so much, let him go and find a girl more worthy of him. You should make sure he does not have to live with a worthless person like you.
Now if you have no confidence in yourself as a woman, as a human being who is deserves any respect, then you go ahead and waste the rest of your life . Spend the life hating yourself for being so worthless that you really don't deserve him, and that its' ok if he goes out and cheat on you and plays with your emotions, as long as he sticks around to kick you day in day out.
THROW HIM OUT OF YOUR (Mind too) LIFE RIGHT AWAY! THERE ARE OTHER FISH IN THE SEA! FAR FAR BETTER, WHO WILL LOVE YOU FOR YOURSELF AND NOT MAKE YOU, HATE YOU SELF! DO SOMTHING FOR YOUR SELFCONFIDENCE, JOIN PERSONALLITY DEVELOPMENT CLASSES, ANY HOBBIE CLASSES THAT MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD. GET YOUR MIND OFF A THING NOT WORTH REMEMBERING. YOU ARE A LOVELY GIRL, AND DESERVE RESPECT FROM A MAN. IF HE MAKES YOU FEEL SO BAD, THAN LOOK AT HIM CARFULY, UNEMOTIONALLY AND ASK YOURSELF, DOES HE DESERVE ANY RESPECT FOR THE THINGS HE DOES TO YOU. WOULD YOU WANT TO LIVE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IN SUCH A EMOTIONAL STATE! YOU DESERVE MUCH MUCH MORE!
2007-11-09 05:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by mx. know it all 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. It's better he's out of your life. He sounds like a loser. Time does heel all wounds even though it's hard to imagine now, you will get over him and you will be happy again. Today is a new day and you're starting a new chapter in your life. You should figure out what and who you are and what you like, learn to love yourself and then the right one will come. You deserve better than your ex. He's a selfish jerk.
2007-11-09 04:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by stars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let go of the abusive relationship you were in. like you said you are dependent of him. and the only person you should be dependent of should be you. break an arm and leg for you. love yourself again. and move forward. even though you say you miss him, it is not as much that you do, but now you have all this spare time for yourself and you don't know what to do with it. go out and enjoy life. let the looser land somebody as worthless as he is. you deserve better.
2007-11-09 04:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by mexican leona 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will get over him. It doesn't feel like it now but you will. If he mentally and verbally abused you then thank you lucky stars that he's gone. He could have started to physically abuse you. Focus all you energy on yourself now. Don't you love yourself more then him? Well you have got to keep telling yourself that you deserve better and you will find better. Trust me I have been thorough it and we even had a child together but everyday gets better.
2007-11-09 04:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by luxemomny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋