Whats wrong with my brother?

Question

I asked this question b4 but the answers didnt make much sense.

Well here's the story, my brother and my best friend are going out. I didnt want them to, but they said it was none of my business and it was going to be okay. My friend her name is Ashley, she begged me to let her go out with my brother, so i was like alright fine. I didnt want them to go out because she always switching boys. And my brother is my twin so i didnt want him to get hurt. They have been going out for a while now, its been going good. But she started telling me about another guy! I told her we cant be friends anymore so, i already lost my best friend. But who needs her. I told my brother what we was going to do, he was pissed. Dont tell me im going to lose him too. Ahh// help me.

Answer 1

You actually did the right thing.

If you talk with your brother candidly about the reasons why you didn't want him dating your friend in the first place simply because you care about him didn't want him to get hurt. Obviously your friend doesn't have the respect she should for you or your brother if she's is so careless in handling other people's feelings. Be very sympathetic and open to what your brother has to say, keep the conversation calm and understanding. Your not going to lose him as a friend and certainly not as a brother. A few cliche' sayings that always ring true would be "blood is thicker then water" and "time heals all wounds." Even if your brother remains angry at you, it won't be for long, and as for your friend, that's up to you whether you want to forgive or not.

Answer 2

I know you're close to your twin brother - but it's really his business whom he goes out with - and not yours.

Ashley's true colors will come to light soon enough. Brother will be hurt to be sure - but that's always going to happen. There will be times when you make the same mistake and you'll be hurt.

So just be there for your brother when he comes home with a broken heart. Say nothing about Ashley and tell Brother that you love him dearly and are sorry his heart got stepped on.

And as far as being friends with Ashley - that's YOUR choice - I think ditching her as a friend is a good idea no matter who she hurts - well, especially since she's already cheating on your brother... but again it's your choice...

Answer 3

Sometimes you just have to let people find out things the hard way. That is really the only way they learn. I apologize that you have lost your best friend and are have difficulties with your brother but you have to see that now you have to let your brother live his life and do things on his own. That is obviously what he wants. If the situation does turn out to be true and your brother is cheated on by this girl, he will learn to become more open to the advice you give him. Only then will he learn your true intentions and know that you tell him stuff like that and you try to protect him because you love him. He doesn't realize that now but he will in the future.

Answer 4

Sometimes people shoot the messenger which basically means unless you want to risk people being angry at you you should steer clear of this situation and do not meddle. I understand that you feel that you are trying to protect your brother but ultimately he needs ( and will) make these decisions for himself. You can chose to be a friend to your friend and a sister to your brother and be there when things get bad and cheer them on when things are good but you in no way should try to control the situation. It is difficult because you are close to both of them but when it comes to their relationship they are in that alone. Most people do not have a messenger in the middle of their relationship. It is wonderful that you are trying to be a good sister but what will make you the best sister is letting your brother sort this out on his own.

Answer 5

First of all when you get involved in another person's business you become the bad guy because they have the right both to blame you for the problem. I don't think that your brother will be mad at you for long, since you are his sister. He is probably mostly upset that this has happened and he will come around.

Answer 6

Try to make a mends with your brother, he will be in your life much longer than your so called friend. And as for your friend if she don't speak, don't worry about it. You didn't want to see your brother hurt over this girl.

Answer 7

Some people, mainly younger kids who are dating and oing through different experiences in life think that when they are told that the significant other is cheating, they always blame the source. If he really likes her he isn't going to believe you. He must really like her. He is going to have to figure it out for himself. sorry hunny

Answer 8

i think that you should let your brother know what your ex best friend told you and let him decide for himself what he should or not do, let him make his own mistakes and learn from them ...its part of life....by giving him advise you play your role as a good sister but is really on him whether or not he takes it.

Answer 9

He may just think that since you and Ashley are no longer friends that you are making it up so that they will break up. I think he just has to learn for himself, but if she breaks up with him or cheats on him, you should be there for him

Answer 10

i dont think you are going to lose your brother. i just think you need to let him live his own life. we cant learn if we dont make a mistake now and then. and who knows maybe it will work out with them. just step back and let them figure it out.