My ex and I were together for almost 3 years, and then a month ago he broke up with me over a text message! At the time he told me that it was cause he didn't love me anymore, but since then I found out that there is another girl! The reason I know this is cause we go to college together and have the same classes, (which sucks)he came in with like 30 hickeys! within the first 2 weeks! Now he tells me he loves me and that he would die for me and that in the end I'm the one he wants to be with, but he doesn't want to be with me right now! So wtf does that all mean? It's like he is trying to make it so I can't get over him and believe me it's working. For some crazy reason I would still get back with him, I love him I really do. But it's like as soon as I start to feel better about everything, I get knocked back down, by him.I've never been through any situation like this. He gave me a promise ring 2 years ago,I really thought we would make it.Any advice on how to move on would be great
2007-11-09 04:10:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me what hes doing is hes not sure of this new girl. so he is keeping you on his small leash so if they dont work out he has you to fall back on. i dont think he cares about you. ist a hard thing to hear but even a harder lesson to learn...i think he is just waiting tll something better comes along and the one hes with is gone. and its gonna be like that his whole life. so be thankful you can move on. and dont listen to his hollow words of love because if he actually cared he wouldnt be whoring around think about it
2007-11-09 04:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good friend recently sent this to me, and I think it applies to your situation:
PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season. Do not hang onto these people in desperation - but welcome them if they stay.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season, or are a lifetime.
(Send this on to all the friends you have online, including the one who sent it to you. Consider each of your friends, and which category they probably fit into. If you get it back from those friends, you will know that they share a similar frame of mind when they think about you.)
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2007-11-09 04:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by TitoBob 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY!!!: If he loved you, he wouldnt treat you this way. He wouldnt want to hurt you like he has. He wouldnt disrespect you by coming in with hickeys....you deserve better than this.. There is someone out there that is willing to treat you like the queen that you are. No one needs to be put down by someone they care about.
Throw that promise ring out the window and give up.
I went through this like many girls i know....its not easy. Dont answer his calls, stay busy with friends and family who support you. read "a purpose driven life" its a great self help book, ive read it twice!!! lol
mostly, respect yourself enough to know that you dont deserve this, and he doesnt deserve YOU!
2007-11-09 04:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Bella Lina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start dating other men, or just be happy with out him. the dude isn't ready for commitment and it is pretty weak to break up with you over a text message. he should have done it face to face after all that time. relationships go in cycles, so him saying he wants to be with you in the end is just to keep the door open. you never know in life, especially if the breakup isn't bad or for cheating. however, i wouldn't infer much and def. don't wait for him to come around. college is a great time to be single for guys, or bounce from girl to girl.
2007-11-09 04:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the ring back...Tell him it's over....And rid yourself of anything you have that reminds you of him...Then don't talk to him..Blow him off completley...And spend time with your GF's or other guys you are friends with.....once a cheater always a cheater...there are guys that won't cheat...Ya just gotta find us..
2007-11-09 05:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by lightmn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
promises are like rules...they're made to be broken. Forget him, he had his chance with you and gave it up for someone else. Now that he's had a taste of the other girl, he wants to come back to you?! Sorry, you're kitchen is closed to him, time for a new customer, a loyal customer.
2007-11-09 04:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Pharm tech 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What it means is he wants to bang this other chick until he gets tired of her and needs you to be there so he can start banging you when she's out of the picture (or he wants it so that he can do you if she is busy, and vice versa). Dump the loser
2007-11-09 04:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat, always a cheat. Move on, Take deep breaths and make new (male) habits.
And stop clinging to him! Let it go!
2007-11-09 04:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that you were involved in an honest, or mature relationship that was geared toward marriage. I also don't believe that you held him to any sort of standard, and you probably had sex with him and/or lived with him. It appears that you've wasted 3 years.
2007-11-09 04:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well he is a jerk for cheating. Don't end up with a cheater. It will happen again.
2007-11-09 04:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by California Dude! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋