I've been reading up on a lot of religions recently. I have a friend who is a JW.
According to what I have read, it seems like she could get in trouble.....
She was a bridesmaid in my Catholic Wedding. She did not partake in communion or anything like that. But it seems like she shouldn't have been "allowed" to participate.
I have not yet published my Wedding announcement in the paper. Should I leave her name out of it to keep her out of trouble?
I know I could ask her, but I feel kind of stupid asking her.
When I asked her to be a bridesmaid, I did tell her that I would understand if her religion prevented it. But she said it was fine...
I've read about the whole disfellowshipping and whatnot. I'd hate for her to have to go through that unless it was her choice.
I don't agree with her religion, but I respect that it's what she believes in. She give me the same respect.
2007-11-09 02:29:18 · 13 answers · asked by Proud Momma 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'll probably just end up asking her by just asking if she would prefer that her name is included or not. Rather than mentioning the whole religion thing. I don't want to be a knucklehead!
I don't really understand the ins and outs of JW and don't want to pretend that I do.
2007-11-09 02:37:46 · update #1
Yes, it was in the Church. Catholics only allow it to be inside the Church.
2007-11-09 02:43:32 · update #2
Oh yeah, it's a big "small" community...
meaning it's a mid-sized city with a small town mentality. Everyone knows everyone else.
2007-11-09 02:45:23 · update #3
Look at number 95 and 96... that's where I got the idea from. A Catholic Wedding also includes a Mass (usually) as mine did. So it was also a Church service.
http://www.geocities.com/paulblizard/reasons.html
2007-11-09 02:48:58 · update #4
No.
A Jehovah's Witness might choose to accept the invitation to be in the wedding party of a couple marrying in a non-Witness house of worship, if the Witness herself was not expected to personally participate in any religious ritual.
For example, she would not kiss any icon, kneel at any altar, or join in the prayer of a non-Witness minister, such as by conspicuously bowing her head or holding hands with others who are praying. Of course, the Witness respects the dignity of the occasion and will likely cooperate with reasonable non-religious requests.
To reiterate, there would be no religious repercussions (such as disassociation or reproof) for a Jehovah's Witness who chose such non-religious participation, even at a house of worship.
Now... while the matter is not strictly a religious one, many or most Jehovah's Witnesses would have been reluctant to participate as a member of the wedding party of a couple marrying in a non-Witness house of worship. A Witness may believe that his participation could be interpreted by non-Witnesses as a compromise of his religion (although it is not), or as an endorsement of the house of worship (which it is not). Or, the Witness may simply wish to distance himself from anything which he believes to involve false worship.
The questioner perhaps exercises discretion in asking the friend whether or not she wants her name included. Many or most Jehovah's Witnesses are much more comfortable attending or participating in a wedding officiated at a hotel, home, garden, or other dignified location, yet they recognize that the bride and groom are free to make such choices for themselves.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.ca/e/20020208/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.ca/e/20040301/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.ca/e/20020801/
2007-11-09 04:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-01 23:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her.
I seriously thought at one time I might join the JW's but after reading Line Dancer's answer, I wonder what I was thinking. I'm surprised they don't think Paul committed apostacy by going into a synagogue. She apparently values her friendship with you a lot, knowing that others in the church would view what she did with such outright contempt, whether she actually gets shunned or not.
2007-11-09 05:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by browneyedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Wow, to be in that kind of trouble for setting foot in another church to be part of a wedding? I can understand your trepidation on behalf of your friend.
If you have a fairly small community, and think it's likely that folks she knows peruse the "weddings" section of the paper, it might be the better part of wisdom to just omit the names of your honor attendants. But I agree with others that since you seem to be close enough to discuss these things respectfully with each other (which is great!), then I'd just ask her straight out.
2007-11-09 02:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I would say don't get her into trouble, leave her name out of the paper, she feels that much for you ,help her out some.
2007-11-09 02:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
the link that you provided belong to Jehovah´s witnesses? why you didn´t make the link to the official link that we have?
why to ask the rule of your house to your neighbor instead of you directly?
she won´t be disfellowship for that, if that is your worry.
2007-11-09 03:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Was your friend a baptized JW? If she was, she will have to answer for what she did. She knows that what she did was very wrong. Having part in a religious ceremony in a church is tantamount to apostacy. Whether you print her name in the paper or not means nothing. Jehovah knows what she did.
2007-11-09 02:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by LineDancer 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
hmm... was it held at a chuch? i do not think that is a disfellowshipping matter, but she might get counseled. she didn't commit a gross sin or anything like that.. and she didn't even partake of anything ... i think really its her own conscience matter. a person doesn't get disfellowshipped for doing something wrong or making a mistake, they get DFed only if they WANT to be. does that make sense?
2007-11-09 02:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
ask her, it's the only real way to know...
if you leave her out, she may feel hurt,
if you include her, she may be "in trouble"
so ask her her wishes...
2007-11-09 02:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Seems she put her Love and friendship for you ahead of her " supposedly" core beliefs in Jehovah.
2007-11-09 03:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by conundrum 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋