my parents are taking me, my sister, and my brother to the bahamas for a week this month for their 20th anniversary and they are renewing their wedding vows. they have had this planned for probably 2 years. i have been dating my boyfriend for a year and half and hes my world. we live together and have never been apart. he is freaking out that im leaving him for a week. he says my parents planned this on purpose so i would leave him when i got back. he is crazy! my parents didnt invite him because 1) it was planned before he was even in the picture and 2) its very expensive. if they took him, they'd have to take my sister's husband and 3 little boys. i try telling him all this and he still complains. this morning we woke up and he told me he had a dream that i came back from the bahamas and got my own apartment and moved out of our house. hes insane, what can i do to make him see hes crazy?!
2007-11-09 02:07:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just let him know u love him and ur just going on a family vacation tell him to stop tryna make it into something more ur not leaving him now or ever....reassure him tht nuthn will change ur just going with ur family
2007-11-09 02:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by breeReal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of things about my wife that drive me crazy. And I drive her crazy in my own ways as well. We drove each other crazy the same way well before we ever got married. Question is, can you live with being driven crazy like that? If so, then you're golden. If not, then consider the fact that he will very likely never change. You may think you can change him, but you won't.
2016-05-28 22:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is scared because he is not in control of the situation. My ex-girlfriend had the same crazy thoughts. My question to you is have you done something to him, so that he would act this insecure? Or it could be, that he really fills bad he is out the picture. He is just having an adult tantrum this was planned before him so i fill he is being controlling and manipulative. This is the reason i have an EX and currently dating. I can only tell you to reassure him that things are going to be okay when you come back. You can even plan a date so when you get back you both can go out . Reassure him that you mean things are okay when you say they are. Put your foot down.
2007-11-09 02:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by victor c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. I had a similar situation. Just explain to him that it is a family event, and even though he is family in your eyes, it would be too much of a hardship.
What you might do, is agree that he can go, but only if he can pay for it. Chances are, he won't want to and will lay off.
Call him every night and remind him how much you care about him, and be sure to bring him back something.
Don't worry! It will all turn out fine. He does care about you, after all.
2007-11-09 02:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by Rae Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is jealous, childish and controlling. You are doing something without him and he is flipping because he is not in control of your situation. He is also acting VERY disrespectful to your family. You used to words "he is crazy!" and well you know him best. Do you really have a healthy relationship?? Maybe he is afraid you will leave because he is nuts not because you are going to the Bahamas!
2007-11-09 02:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by jo-jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely being unreasonable and you should tell him this. You're going on a trip with your family where your parents are renewing their wedding vows. You aren't going to party it up with friends and meet guys. Tell him this, also. And if he continues to be unreasonable you might have to reconsider this guy. He's being a tad bit controlling and jealous, especially with not wanting you to spend time with your family because they want you to "leave him." That kind of paranoia is a red flag.
2007-11-09 02:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by _I_love_warm_bananas_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. When something like that gets in a guys head, you'll have a hard time convincing him otherwise. Probably the best thing to do is just remind him that you love him more and more frequently. Sorry that's the best I could come up with. Good luck
2007-11-09 02:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is very insecure in your relationship. He is more then worried that you are going to leave him (hence the dream) if he cant see that this is a family vacation that was planned before he even came along, them maybe he needs to find someone else that's on his maturity level. But then again its illegal for an 'adult' to date a minor, so he's screwed.
2007-11-09 02:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by MayMay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is jealous. Jealous of everyone who is going to see your wet, tan body in the Caribbean sunset, while he is stuck at home, thinking of you. This is a normal reaction for a lot of guys, especially if they are a little unsure of themselves. Tell him to man up and start acting like the kind of guy who is worth leaving the sandy beaches and clear waters of the Islands for.
Oh, and don't be scared to send him a postcard at least, that will help a lot.
2007-11-09 02:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by Morgan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could write him a letter and let him know that he's is sweatin' you so much that you may not even be able to enjoy this once in a lifetime trip with your family. Reasure him, but wear yourself out. Promise him you'll call when you get there and you'll bring him home a nice gift or even something for your house.
2007-11-09 02:12:31 · answer #10 · answered by Lost one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously this dude is incredibly insecure. If he wants to go that bad why doesn't he just find a way to pay for it himself? Why sit back and hope you will either stay for him or get your parents to pay? Why would he want to hold you back from going on such a cool trip? I think you should break up with him before you go. If he has this little trust in you, your future with him is limited anyway. Why is he so afraid you will leave him? And is he seriously hoping your parents would pay for him to go? Why would you want a guy like that? He's not their kid and he's not your husband.
2007-11-09 02:20:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋