So everytime we go into a store my son goes straight to the dolls and says he wants one. He is in preschool and Im not sure if this is a good idea or not. He saw the baby alive and says that he really wants it and since it is a boy doll I guess it's really not a big deal. But my mom keeps telling that if I get him the doll the family will give me a hard time because Im trying to make him a "girl" and that it could make him gay. I personally don't believe that. Anyway I just wanted to know how many moms or dads out there are letting their boys play with dolls and if the baby alive is a good doll to have thanks!
2007-11-09 01:12:58 · 13 answers · asked by millie&brandon L 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My three sons had dolls when they were growing up. You couldn't find more masculine young men, married, with children, and in their 40s.
When my grandson asked for a doll for Christmas, my son-in-law was very upset. Of course, he never did anything with his sons so he wasn't their role model. My grandson is now a staff sgt. in the Air Force. His doll (which he stopped playing with when he was about 7) didn't have any affect on him.
Playing with dolls is good for both boys and girls. It helps them learn about nurturing. It can help with anger issues. The doll can provide security at times when the child is having trouble sleeping.
Playing with dolls does not cause a decision to be made with sexual orientation.
Buy him the doll and warn family that they are not to be negative in your son's presence.
2007-11-09 01:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is ignorant, I'm sorry to say. Is she saying men don't help raise their children? I'm sure your son's dad helps care for him. My son, who is ALL BOY, has had a baby doll since he was 16 months old. He does "Daddy stuff" with it, like teach it to play baseball. But he also makes it breakfast, reads to it, puts it to bed, and picks him up and comforts him when the doll gets hurt. It's very sweet, and I know it will help him grow up to be a strong man who will be a good father to his children.
There is no way to "make" a child gay; a child is either born gay, or born straight. Your mother really should educate herself before making such statements. But if she's not willing to do so, tell her and anyone else who butts in to stay out of it and not make negative comments around your son about playing with dolls or other "girl" things.
Good for you for not going by gender stereotypes when choosing toys for your son. Keep up the great work!
2007-11-09 01:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by SoBox 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men look after there babies these days so i think there is nothing wrong with boys playing with dolls. Why do people assume they a being a "mommy" they could be playing "daddy" and that should be encouraged. It is natural, most boys like to play with dolls and prams and they don't turn out gay. Why would anyone one want to teach their son that looking after a baby is not a boys thing to do?
2007-11-09 01:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get him the doll, how do you think little boys grow up to be good fathers? You can't make someone gay, tell your mom to shut up while your at it. In the long run it will do both of you some good if she's not running around saying crazy stuff like that.
2007-11-09 01:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by L H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you're scared. First, just try to relax. Those deaths were unfortunate, but it doesn't mean it will happen again. Your doctor won't think you're mad, he'll be very understanding. I think they would be more concerned if you didn't show any fear or concern, and acted like what happened before wasn't a big deal or something. Your doctor is a health professional - go talk to him/her, tell them about your panic attacks. They will probably recommend you see a counselor, which is a good idea. They will help you logically sort through all the emotions you are feeling. Good luck :-)
2016-04-03 03:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get it for him. tell him that he will make a great father when he is older. and if he will be gay it wont be because of a doll you go him. My mother in law bought my son the stroller with the baby and he is such a soft boy doesn't hit, he talk such good care of his little sister. i don't think thats gay and if he does become gay who cares. you wont love him less. don't worry about the doll if he wants it then there is nothing wrong with that.
2007-11-09 01:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had two sons and my husband found out one of them was playing with a little girl and her dolls and he had a fit ,he said that i was going to turn my son into a gay . I dont believe that . I believe that it makes boys better fathers if they interact with dolls . good luck and god bless.
2007-11-09 01:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
wow. your mom also has a '50s way of thinking. =(
just as i said with the "should i get my son a kitchen" question, playing with toys that ARE "gender specific" is not wrong. when my hubby was a baby, his older sister dressed him up in her doll clothes, and when he was older they played dress up together. he is not gay. in fact, he is a very well adjusted 26 yr old man who loves his family. he's a wonderful dad...and he loves to cook! (i don't know if he had a pretend kitchen, but he learned to make his own eggs at 5yrs old. then, he washed his own dishes...*gasp*)
2007-11-09 02:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Green Is Sexxxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the doll. His sexual preference was cast in stone 48 months ago. There's nothing you can do or buy or change.
I'm not saying he is or is not, just that he wants a doll and this toy will not influence his future partners in any way.
2007-11-09 03:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT DOLLS HELP BOYS JUST AS WELL AS GIRLS IT HELPS TEACH RESPONSIBILITY'S HOW TO LOVE SOMETHING ITS A TOY NO DIFFERENT THAN GIRLS PLAYING WITH TRUCKS DOSE THAT MAKE THEN MANLEY NO TELL YOUR FAMILY TO MIND THERE OWN BUSINESS BOTH OF MY SONS HAVE PLAYED WITH DOLLS AND THEY ARE NOT GAY AS HE GETS OLDER HE WILL BE MORE INTO BOY TOYS
2007-11-12 06:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by LADY_FIRE_1958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋