I have a bf but my parents don't like him as he has a different religion. Who would I choose?
2007-11-09 00:46:58 · 29 answers · asked by tiger_lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This can be a hard decision. You don't mention how old you are. I'd like to say that you could try to compromise with both sides - have they met each other at all? Will you be completely disowned if you date outside of your religion?
You might need to take a look at your own life and choices. Decide what is best for you. Is your religion so important to you that you will have a hard time dating this guy because he has different beliefs? Do you think you will change him?
Perhaps you all can sit down and discuss this in a respectful way. Sometimes, though, when you are truly in love and you know the two of you will be together forever, then you must choose to live your life the way you see fit. But remember that your parents love you and care for you and only want the best for you. Maybe they are just scared of the unknown (another religion).
Good luck.
2007-11-09 00:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends come and go, but Family is forever.
Is it going to be worth alienating your family for years or more over a relationship that may well end in a few weeks?
Have a grown up talk with mom and dad. Ask them what, specifically, are their problems with your boyfriend. It may not be as simple as a difference in religion. Your BF may have a history, a criminal record, bad grades, weird clothing, or other signs of being a "rebel" and a troublemaker.
They may just be imagining these traits, as well...
On the other hand, many religions place a lot of importance on dating/marriage within the Faith. They may not be able to get over this kind of bias.
Do the Right Thing.
2007-11-09 01:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dump your boyfriend for the sake of religion IF it is something that the two of you can live with. If it is something that's going to get in your way in the future, why continue?
If you're not too serious, don't worry about it yet. If you are serious, talk to him about your religious differences.
It may be way too soon to ask him this, but ask yourself: Would you want him to convert to your religion if you were to get married? What would you do if he was adamant about you converting to his?
Maybe it's too soon to worry (can't tell by your question). Anyway, if you are happy, loved, and safe, your parents will learn to be okay with it. Religion is a personal decision for EVERY INDIVIDUAL...though many are taught that which their parent(s) practice, you need to follow your heart and worry about what YOU believe (in both religion and love) and not let anyone else's beliefs stand in your way, unless your boyfriend is causing you physical and/or mental harm.
Good luck, and don't stress! If it's something that the two of you can work out, that's what truly matters.
2007-11-09 00:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by unithoRn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to choose. However, your parents have taken care of you for however long you've been alive. They've kissed you knee when it was cut, checked in the closet for monsters, read you stories and just plain loved you unconditionally. If you end up having to choose- go with the parents... there's probably a reason they don't like him. They're protecting you... like they've always done.
Slainte,
-D
2007-11-09 00:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by chicagodan1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can understand you're in dilemma here. i suggest you invite your bf over to your parents house for lunch/dinner. this way your parents will meet him & if you like/love him, they will understand why you like this guy - that way you will not have to choose.
In future however, be sure to talk about marriage issues, kids, raising up kids, the kids religion etc to avoid any future problems. Good Luck !!
2007-11-09 01:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by chasey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both. your parents need to get with the program its the year 2007 it doesnt matter what religion your boyfriend is all that matters is that you like him. how old are you? what religions are you two? do the two have bad history together or your parents just want you to stick to your own? seriously dont let your parents tell you who you can be with.
2007-11-09 00:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by Luke N 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Parents will be there in the long run. If you really think this boy will still be around in 20 years then that's your choice but realistically, he will probably be long gone in a couple of years where as your parents will still be there loving you as always. You should never cut them out, it's because of them that you are alive..
2007-11-09 00:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by Heidi. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
trust me, you`ll get another boyfriend. Do what your parents say they always know better. I had to learn the hard way but your parents do see things from a different angle. And they have lived in learn. You only get one set and they are doing this outta love. Or see if your boyfriend loves you enough to convert,.
2007-11-09 00:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Arie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on how serious the relationship is. if you really love him and your parents dont see that then maybe you should speak to them. its unfair to not like someone because of their religion. maybe choosing him would be a wake-up call to them.
2007-11-09 00:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to chose,,but If you are in LOVE go for him ,,,chances are your parents will love you no matter what. If they give you an alternative,,,they will miss you and probably accept your wishes ...IF not at least you will be in LOVE and with the one you want...and probably happier..If it is only a friend,,,just don't let them know until you know you love him and you won't have to make that choice until you are sure and Not here asking us...GOOD LUCK!
2007-11-09 00:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by Eileen J 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋