I have a friend whom I used to like as more than a friend.
Yesterday, I helped him with his work because I saw he needed help, he didn't actually asked me for his help. He thanked me after.
Looking back, he wasnt that much respectful to me in the past. He was nice to me and treated me special some ways but he had also been quite an idiot to me. He could have treated me better but he didn't.
I feel rotten for helping him out. I feel I'm being too nice and this makes him respect me less somehow. I feel like I've been devalued. Its like I can imagine him smirking and thinking 'golly, here's another freebie'
Why is that? What do I do?
2007-11-09 00:36:23 · 2 answers · asked by shar 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It sounds like you are going out of your way to be nice to him.
He does not seem to be responding in a way that you would like.
It could be that he does not like you as much as you like him.
Find someone else to be nice to that will appreciate your kindness. It can be painful for one person when two people do not like each other in the same way. Best Wishes
2007-11-09 09:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody in the World "could" treat each other better, and everybody in the World is guilty of occasionally acting "like an idiot" to people they care about.
Maybe he hasn't responded to you flirting with him.
Maybe he did respond, but it was to tell you he wasn't interested...
If you were only "helping" him to try to get closer to him, and especially if he never indicated he wanted your help, then you have only yourself to blame.
2007-11-09 00:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋