how do u tell your sister her and her family need to move out of your house?

Answer 1

Well, it would depend on the situation.
It's difficult for two adults to live under the same roof when they are not in a relationship, let alone two families or a family and another adult.

Anyway, you never know when you might need help, and since blood is thicker than water, then you do need to think about helping your family out.It's what families are for.
Still, it should be clear to all that there are boundaries.
You need to have them, so that things work well, otherwise, it's mayhem.

Now, if those boundaries are not being respected by the guests, then at some point, something has to give I suppose.
So, in those circumstances, yes, it could be possible.
Well, it would have to be something major though.
Things that are broken, can be replaced; Food that's eaten, can be bought, but there are other things, like lack of respect, constant arguments, and trust issues that are very difficult, if not impossible, to compromise with.

Generally it's difficult to say to one member of the family to go while the rest stays, family usually sticks together.
It's rather delicate, but the problem would have to be really bad.
Hopefully, arrangements can be made for the sake of the children involved if there are any.

Good luck.
Ps: Also, it's important to set a time limit. Of course it can be extended, but usually it gives both parties something to look forward to, and it can make things a bit easier.

Answer 2

I know where our coming from. Me and my man has helped numerous family members because we are both soft hearted and we like to help people out. But in our experience, people tend to take you for granted and it becomes to much. I feel they get to comfortable and tend to not help themselves. Not everyone is like that but some are. Just sit her down and explain that you need your house and your space back. Tell her you will help her find something of her own and you will be there for her anytime she needs you. How old is this sister? Does she have a hubby? Are their kids involved and how many? Regardless of the situation, she needs to move to her own place and let you have yours back. It is tough believe me, but i feel she will understand. Hope things work out and good luck.

Answer 3

Tell her that you have helped all you can but that it is time for them to have their privacy and that you need your own space. Tell her that you love her and have enjoyed their company but that you want to be able to run around your house naked and free of having to worry about the family seeing you not presentable. You need your own space and life. I understand where your coming from though. My father-in-law spent a few months with us and I was sooo ready for him to leave. I was ready to get out of the shower and not have to always remember to keep my door shut. I was ready to sleep naked if I wanted to. Company is kind of like fish, after a few days they start to stink. LOL! best of luck with finding the right words to say in a way that won't make them hate you. Just try to be cool, calm, and collected, but yet stern.

Answer 4

She is an adult and should be taking care of herself and her own family. You are not responsible for her and you need to concentrate on your own life. There is nothing wrong with that.

With that in mind, give her a deadline. Tell her it's not working out and that you need to have your own life back. Tell her it's not personal, although you cannot control another person's emotions.

Answer 5

Hi.. obviously, you invited them to live with you at one point, and im assuming you didn't discuss house rules, rent, and the length of their stay, etc.

When we are kind enough to invite family members to live wtih us for a time, we really need to talk about the arrangement BEFORE they arrive... just so everyone is on the same page.

I suppose that yo are going to have to talk with them and give them X amount of time to find a place to live.

Normally, it's a set up for disaster when we invite our relatives to live with us.

Answer 6

She have to be honest with her. Tell you have loved having her and her family stay with you but it about time she looked for anywhere to stay. She needs her own space and so do you and that you don't want to destroy your friendship and relationship. Reinforce that you love her but she needs her own place to call her own and you need your own space as well. Use diplomacy and talk in a casual setting where you are both relaxed and not angry.

Answer 7

Its never easy to live with anyone so therefore there is no easy solution to having them move. You did not state your reasons so therefore it is hard to make suggestions. Be fair and give them the reasons and a presentable time frame to allow them to get a new location. Some how I think you will always be the bad one even though you helped them. Good luck.

Answer 8

Need to approach the family with reason and be loving and firm sounds as if they are causing you problems or dis ruting your home and your peace of mind . you have to be firm with family because they make you feel the guilt more then friends.You will feel terrible for awhile and uncertain of your decision. but your home is your place to be with your own children husband or to be buy yourself. good luck.

Answer 9

tell her it's too crowded and you didn't anticipate her being in your house so long. Tell her you are gettin annoyed (if thats true) but you love her to bits but you need space and you don't want it to damage your relationship with her. It's fair enough.

Answer 10

approach her. let her know your mind. decide on a date, giving her a month (at least) or three. Help her with the things she needs to accomplish this. Good luck.